Latest I heard from my friend is that getting married to Muslim in Malaysia nowadays, no need to convert.

I didnt read the whole post but nevertheless, my dad is chinese my mum is malay and whatever it is with your parents is fine. Both my grand parents psat away and we just did the normal chinese routine, as long as you dont believe it la. But this another question for you. A very important question actually. Are you converting just because of her or for you love towards Islam? Cuz if just convert for her is going to be difficult. Is not impossible or anything just make sure that all the sacrifise youve made is worth it. My dad converted well before he met my mum and its best if u found the love for islam. Cuz you'll do things that you like, not forcing yourself to do anything like fasting,praying etc. But if she is worth it, why not anyway.

You can keep the name anyway, but its adviseble to change. Is up to you.

convert is fine...i still can keep my family name of coz..even to my own children ltr... but im more concern about my parent funeral....

@TS - In Islam it is work this way:

1) Non-muslim male cannot marry with muslim female, unless he converted.
2) Muslim male can marry with non-muslim female, without the female convert to Islam.

For your name, As long as your name gave a good meaning, it is ok to not to change your name. It is not a sins but it is ADVISED to change it so that, people know that you have converted.

For your parents funeral, you may do whatever it is as long it is not against the Islamic Teaching.

It is doesnt matter if you go anywhere (when spore/us didnt implement syariah law), but your future wife is a good muslim(ah) practicer, she should understand and make you understand about this matter as this is what has written in Quran and agreed by the Muslim scholar.

@xonius: i do think at malaysia, they are better than the arabs.. if not.. how could PAS coop with DAP.. haha (another issue)

& for TS, do consult this matter with Dr Mohd Asri Zainul Abidin (Dr Maza). http://drmaza.com

He is currently one of the scholar who try to change the "conservative" way of the scholars in Malaysia

There's no such thing as latest version of qur'an..It has always been the same one for 1,600++ years now.
You know that there are other few religions that worship Allah as well right? Like Christian, Judaism etc. so those are ahli Kitab. However, that rule only applies to practising ahli kitab. Like for e.g. they must follow the bible line by line.
I'm sure that you'll have more questions on this ahli Kitab thing. However, I will not explain further on this in this thread as this is a sensitive issue. PM sure cannn...