hey dude, maybe u both didnt have the sparks, that is why u get bored easily and find no other reasons to hold on. i have girlfriends which get bored with their boyfriend easily, cause when it aint that deep, and there's no excitement, she will feel bored with that guy. Maybe it is just what it is, fated... so i belive every single relationship before u wanna get deeper, u think whether u have a future with her or not? what are her goodies and baddies, can u accept who she really is down the road? and do u really miss her everyday ? but, its kinda hard to realise at the start, cause everything is bed of roses by the way.. but just remember, before u even start it, think deeply will u ever hurt her one day.. cause, quite kesiannn.. if the relationship just comes n go so easily , wasting time. she might be hurt deeply too. cheers mate   good luck on searching ur soul mate

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Added on August 20, 2008, 2:52 am
solution is.. dont see things on the outter side, try to get to know her better, well, maybe u will think its better to be friends sometimes. after all, friends are FOREVER. a little sacrifice will leads to better things in the future..maybe !

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hey dude, maybe u both didnt have the sparks, that is why u get bored easily and find no other reasons to hold on. i have girlfriends which get bored with their boyfriend easily, cause when it aint that deep, and there's no excitement, she will feel bored with that guy. Maybe it is just what it is, fated... so i belive every single relationship before u wanna get deeper, u think whether u have a future with her or not? what are her goodies and baddies, can u accept who she really is down the road? and do u really miss her everyday ? but, its kinda hard to realise at the start, cause everything is bed of roses by the way.. :stars: but just remember, before u even start it, think deeply will u ever hurt her one day.. cause, quite kesiannn.. if the relationship just comes n go so easily , wasting time. she might be hurt deeply too. cheers mate   good luck on searching ur soul mate

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Added on August 20, 2008, 2:52 am
solution is.. dont see things on the outter side, try to get to know her better, well, maybe u will think its better to be friends sometimes. after all, friends are FOREVER. a little sacrifice will leads to better things in the future..maybe !

The problem most of us doesnt have the time or chance to study the power of love and better understanding. Everyone keep saying no spark no spark its nothing to do with the spark.
Our feelings tells us what we fascinate or what's beautiful or logical choice our heart dont have a clue.

As long as u find someone willing to change for you and in return you are willing to change for the person you will go a very long way because there is no such thing as a perfect relationship but both party trying their best for perfection will get that relationship very far. Without using the brain to plan anything will  be boring because your brain is so powerful that it can creates imagination but your heart only tells you what you feel you want.

sometimes... how much i sacrifice, but he will never change.. i thoght i can keep quiet and just act as if i dont know or not arguing.. but i have emotions as well.. i can't tolerate sometimes and leads to arguements. i'm thought i can do it but i can't. sigh, hate it .

My heart tells me to tolerate and not saying things which ticks him off.. still, i can't take no more .

here is my story

when i first like a girl, the feeling is just like heaven, everything seems perfect. then i start the chasing process, as i progress, i notice my feeling slowly fades along with it, and gradually fading till there is no feeling left.

why does this happen? no matter whetehr is before chasing, in the process of chasing, or even after chasing, the feeling fades?

I've seen my friends, they can chase a girl for 1-2 years, even after many reject, somemore ppl laugh at them, they can still go on.

but i cannot even chase a girl for more than 1-2months before my feeling go blank.

Why does this happen to me? why isnt the feeling like waht they potray in movies, novels??

how do i make a feeling stay and not let a single feeling fade?

in ur case... u need to learn to be a b****... go buy a book entitled "Why men love b****es ?"

seriously... i ain't kidding...

sometimes... how much i sacrifice, but he will never change.. i thoght i can keep quiet and just act as if i dont know or not arguing.. but i have emotions as well.. i can't tolerate sometimes and leads to arguements. i'm thought i can do it but i can't. sigh, hate it .

My heart tells me to tolerate and not saying things which ticks him off.. still, i can't take no more .

sometimes... how much i sacrifice, but he will never change.. i thoght i can keep quiet and just act as if i dont know or not arguing.. but i have emotions as well.. i can't tolerate sometimes and leads to arguements. i'm thought i can do it but i can't. sigh, hate it .

My heart tells me to tolerate and not saying things which ticks him off.. still, i can't take no more .

is it really true? can u explain more by being a b****? like how......

I feel bad for my cousin in-law. She's hawt, but his husband (my cousin) treat her like those ah lai, I seldom see them chat in a husband-wife manners, ever since my cousin moved to KL, he changed alot.
I really pity my in-law and her childrens.

Dont flame with me with incest thingy, i tak fikir senget.

ahaha what you say only happen in dreamland. Even how develop without same understanding and same direction in life nothing will last.
Thats the reason why alot of relationship fail in the first place. Feelings can only get you that far . Using the brain to plan the relationship gets u way further.

Dont feel bad la everyone is given a choice. If you advice the person doesnt listen to you. When something goes wrong we start to feel sorry. Always remember if you did your part there is nothing to be sorry.

I did chat with her on phone when im free, she's a housewife so she's free sometimes. She's from HK btw. My nephew 9 years old very hyperactive when he sees me.

My cousin on the other hand WORSE, last year visit them he always show his black face............haiz

Problem is sometimes not you want to be hurt ppl but being hurt.
Simple to explain.

Example if we buy a phone or a gadget we do research we go demo we do alot things until certain only buy so same as relationship

Feeling say YES u straight go because first you are attracted to their appearance ? What about personality? Habits? Mindset? Doesnt matter appearance already block all those features.

After awhile when their hidden features get revealed there begins the problems. Before start a relationship try your best to understand and study your partner first.

Time very honest 1. The more passion or effort you put the more beneficial it will be. You rush u get rushing result.
Why so scare? if the partner is meant to be with you even after 6 months 1 year even 10 years the person will be yours.