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 How to become a good newly housewife?

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MR_alien
post Dec 21 2007, 03:22 PM

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QUOTE(Reuben @ Dec 21 2007, 03:20 PM)
I find this question a bit saddening as it reinforces the stereotypes of what a man and woman's roles are.

This seems to imply that guys like girls that stay in the home and cook nice food etc etc...Well sure I like it but is it a requirement? Not for me at least.

Be comfortable with who you are, learn how to cook a few simple dishes and it's not a problem to get your other half to join in as well. Cooking need not be a chore and everyone can help out. You cook, he washes or vice versa.

The old model of MAN MAKE MONEY COME HOME WIFE MUST SERVE should be obsolete now.

If your husband or husband to be enforces that...then perhaps what he needs is a maid and not a wife.

But once again I think EVERYONE should be able to do a bit of house work regardless of being male or female. It's part of being a complete person.

in fact i probably should learn how to operate that washing machine of mine....
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learn how to operate that washing machine of yours...which means u never used it be4??
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post Dec 21 2007, 03:26 PM

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QUOTE(ginos83 @ Dec 21 2007, 11:54 AM)
This question all in a sudden pop up in my mind. Coz i know someday i will be someone's wife. How to make my future hubby happy with me coz i'm working office lady from 9am to 5pm (mon & fri) & 9am-1pm(sat). Sometime i will be working longer then i need to work due to work load heavy. Don't expect me to cook after work as i will be home very late. I don't do household as i'm leaving with my mummy. She will do everything for me. I dunno how to cook & clean and i don't like either. Please advice...  cry.gif
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so that doesn't make you a housewife in the first place.
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post Dec 21 2007, 03:38 PM

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watch desperate housewives, season 1 - season 4.
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post Dec 21 2007, 03:54 PM

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QUOTE(MR_alien @ Dec 21 2007, 03:22 PM)
learn how to operate that washing machine of yours...which means u never used it be4??
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Means i have not used this particular one b4 tongue.gif
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post Dec 21 2007, 04:57 PM

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QUOTE(ginos83 @ Dec 21 2007, 12:07 PM)
I'm still single  blush.gif
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me too... rclxms.gif i can cook..lol icon_rolleyes.gif
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post Dec 21 2007, 05:57 PM

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QUOTE(Reuben @ Dec 21 2007, 03:54 PM)
Means i have not used this particular one b4 tongue.gif
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post Dec 21 2007, 06:19 PM

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QUOTE(Reuben @ Dec 21 2007, 03:20 PM)
I find this question a bit saddening as it reinforces the stereotypes of what a man and woman's roles are.

This seems to imply that guys like girls that stay in the home and cook nice food etc etc...Well sure I like it but is it a requirement? Not for me at least.

Be comfortable with who you are, learn how to cook a few simple dishes and it's not a problem to get your other half to join in as well. Cooking need not be a chore and everyone can help out. You cook, he washes or vice versa.

The old model of MAN MAKE MONEY COME HOME WIFE MUST SERVE should be obsolete now.

If your husband or husband to be enforces that...then perhaps what he needs is a maid and not a wife.

But once again I think EVERYONE should be able to do a bit of house work regardless of being male or female. It's part of being a complete person.

in fact i probably should learn how to operate that washing machine of mine....
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you don't really know what's happening don't you happy.gif ?, guys can cook is no longer a specialty its has become like a demand, and i do believe that guy cook just to impress thier gf, not for thier own good where they can cook for their friends and families, it's all becuase women keep saying cooking is the way to capture a women's heart, at the end of the day this "flower heart" guy who can cooks have two gf tongue.gif
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post Dec 21 2007, 06:54 PM

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QUOTE(ginos83 @ Dec 21 2007, 12:54 PM)
This question all in a sudden pop up in my mind. Coz i know someday i will be someone's wife. How to make my future hubby happy with me coz i'm working office lady from 9am to 5pm (mon & fri) & 9am-1pm(sat). Sometime i will be working longer then i need to work due to work load heavy. Don't expect me to cook after work as i will be home very late. I don't do household as i'm leaving with my mummy. She will do everything for me. I dunno how to cook & clean and i don't like either. Please advice...  cry.gif
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i suggest u better learn now ..or else u will put the burden to your family; besides; you rely too much on your mom; sooner later she will gone forever ..so u better learn while u still got her ..
tats my advice smile.gif
and also...u got to learn how to manage family stuff together..u got 2 feeling to juggle..kids and hubby...so it is not easy...better learn also
besides; a mature and strong management is important..corp woman not easy ..honestly.



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post Dec 21 2007, 08:00 PM

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Easiest thing to do is move out and learn to be independent.

Ask your future bf or husband to do that too.

Why? Because you guys / girls will learn that it takes a lot of effort to live on your own.

2nd most of the stuff where you think a 'proper' woman should do or a 'proper' man should do will not come in mind.

Because in the end both of you would have to contribute some housework.

Especially when you start having kids.

If you can't even take care of yourself, please don't try to raise a kid.

Marriage or relationship isn't a contract nor a agreement, IT IS A PARTNERSHIP, if either of you screw up that means both your lads screwed up.

Capish?
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post Dec 21 2007, 08:39 PM

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QUOTE(goldfries @ Dec 21 2007, 03:26 PM)
so that doesn't make you a housewife in the first place.
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post Dec 24 2007, 09:12 AM

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QUOTE(ginos83 @ Dec 21 2007, 11:54 AM)
This question all in a sudden pop up in my mind. Coz i know someday i will be someone's wife. How to make my future hubby happy with me coz i'm working office lady from 9am to 5pm (mon & fri) & 9am-1pm(sat). Sometime i will be working longer then i need to work due to work load heavy. Don't expect me to cook after work as i will be home very late. I don't do household as i'm leaving with my mummy. She will do everything for me. I dunno how to cook & clean and i don't like either. Please advice...  cry.gif
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If you cannot cook and clean then what good are you at home? blink.gif Unless you find a very rich husband can get one or two maids for you and also don't mind about u cant cook and clean then is okay but i bet he gonna get bore with you after several years of marriage then go look for other girls.. biggrin.gif

p/s: i have a friend whos gf also can't cook and clean, they haven't marry yet but staying together for couple of years and my friend alrd started to wonder wether or not she is the right girl for him and show some signs of regret liao.. laugh.gif..but infront of his gf he will do anything(cleaning house, cook for her and including taking off her shoes when she comes back home frm work doh.gif ) for her but behind her he complained like hell. biggrin.gif

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post Dec 24 2007, 09:29 AM

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well it depends how gorgeous you're, woman are normally rated by thier looks n body. If you look like jolin then no problem, infact no need to work and no need to do house work and your husband would still be trill just having you around.

If you look otherwise then "Chap sang"
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post Dec 24 2007, 09:30 AM

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QUOTE(moorish @ Dec 24 2007, 09:29 AM)
well it depends how gorgeous you're, woman are normally rated by thier looks n body. If you look like jolin then no problem, infact no need to work and no need to do house work and your husband would still be trill just having you around.

If you look otherwise then "Chap sang"
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post Dec 24 2007, 09:40 AM

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honestly, i don't mind my wife being either a housewife, or being a 'lui keong yan'. if both of us wants to work, then we'll just get a maid. if either one of us can earn a good living for the whole family, then one can stay home and spend time with the kids. i dun even mind being the house husband for that matter, '24 hao lou dau'.

anwyays TS. when you asked how to become a good housewife, which means you don't have a job outside and ur at home 24/7. if you have a 9-5 job then i don't think you can be considered as a housewife.
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post Dec 24 2007, 09:49 AM

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For my thinking, I dun mind my gf not cooking or housewife or anything. As long as she love me and I love her. Most important is she can tolerate with me and have some sex when we are free or I might needed.

I use to cook for my gf few times, and I'm happy with it. I use to take care of my gf, clean her room, fix her pc, fold and keep her cloth, cook for her, wash the plate and bowl sometimes, pamper her, help her carry stuff, and lots more.
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QUOTE(PeeNut @ Dec 24 2007, 09:49 AM)
For my thinking, I dun mind my gf not cooking or housewife or anything. As long as she love me and I love her. Most important is she can tolerate with me and have some sex when we are free or I might needed.

I use to cook for my gf few times, and I'm happy with it. I use to take care of my gf, clean her room, fix her pc, fold and keep her cloth, cook for her, wash the plate and bowl sometimes, pamper her, help her carry stuff, and lots more.
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lol how long can you do all those things for her? a year, 2 years ......forever???
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QUOTE(fevercrash @ Dec 24 2007, 09:55 AM)
lol how long can you do all those things for her? a year, 2 years ......forever???
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How long u need sex? Then it is how long u do... lulz
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QUOTE(ginos83 @ Dec 21 2007, 12:07 PM)
I'm still single  blush.gif
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post Dec 24 2007, 04:52 PM

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QUOTE(PeeNut @ Dec 24 2007, 09:49 AM)
For my thinking, I dun mind my gf not cooking or housewife or anything. As long as she love me and I love her. Most important is she can tolerate with me and have some sex when we are free or I might needed.

I use to cook for my gf few times, and I'm happy with it. I use to take care of my gf, clean her room, fix her pc, fold and keep her cloth, cook for her, wash the plate and bowl sometimes, pamper her, help her carry stuff, and lots more.
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thn you're a good husband!!!
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QUOTE(ginos83 @ Dec 21 2007, 12:07 PM)
I'm still single  blush.gif
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Let things come naturally.. Each couple has their priority in life.. Understand each other is the most important , then learn from there... Understand to adapt each other.. He may know how to cook and house work, I'm sure you are good in other ways.. Try to please him in other ways like doing things he doesn't know how to do. rclxms.gif

Alright .. Cheers
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