so that doesn't make you a housewife in the first place.

better still - LEARN! if he's good, he can teach you too.

being a good wife is not what you get immediately upon marriage. you're just a human, you learn and improve.

you don't have to get married first before learning la!

aiyoh by then you're losing out a lot of precious time. even before marriage you can learn how to be a good wife already.

that's the right spirit. even when staying with mother, there's plenty of opportunity to learn and help out.

hired hands are a luxury. some more have to prepare room for them if they're staying. plenty of other worries. why spend on them when you can do it yourself?

aiyoh don't la until have to TRAIN. you could just talk to the guy, any sincere guy will just be there to listen.

for me, i help out my wife voluntarily. i understand that when burden shared, she's less tired and can enjoy life better.

she also learn to help me with my burdens when she's free.

give and take, all happy.

but i don't disagree with what rayeko said about men not appreciating the housework it all starts with a simple step of talking and requesting of assistance in house chores.