Yep. Learn it the hard way. The more i lawan, it will be another bullet for her to give to my sisters to shot to me.

So now i just dont care. She want something, she have to ask for it. If i can give, i give. If kenot, then ask from someone else.

How is your sister responding? they listen and trust all her words?

at anyway- yeah- do what you could, and do what you feel right.
u need to know what even if you give up everything, do every thing- she might appreiate at time., but at other time will complain about this you did not do, that you din do right.
and if she marked you already... she will continue to spread negative things to the friends and relative. you are the villian and easy target.

the thing is- you dont even know what she says ( or twist) or how her friends interprete, or judge. and you will never have a chance to explain, defend.

then we realize- there is not point to please the world, to win others heart. Like wise you and me should not judge other coz everyone walking with their own pair of shoe.

just do what you can, do what you feel right.

no matter how crazy she is, you will miss her when she is gone.

Dont ask how unker know.....

No it wont, she leave a lasting not just bad impression but i can whole heartedly say other mother are way better than her…
Even at taiwan, i dont miss her that much, only show photo to her that i am safe in taiwan.

Yes they do. 100%. I am always the black sheep since last time. My exam grade not as good as theirs, I am not active as them, I dont have any scholarship, just PTPTN. So whatever shit my mum say about me, it aligned with their expectation of me.

At this point I just dont care. I even put distance between my family (wife and kids) with them. No point being close to people that are toxic, even own family.

>ask my mum where to she want to eat dinner when she arrive at sentral, she say no need
>she say got bread from her relative and she also eat lot of dinner and lunch from her relative few day ago
>tell me to dinner with father, which i reply okay
>both of us eat mcdonald due to close to our place and save time no need go restaurant hawker wait long long
>then after eat, drive to fetch her from sentral
>then come back home and direct blame me where is the dinner for her

i was like wtf , now the whole house black face each other

got anyone mum like this ? sometime i wonder whether my mum is really fit to be a mother or not

this one quite ok. u wanna know my mum logic?

I invited my mum for dinner. She say ok. Told her my car only fit 5 people, my fam sudah 4 people including me. cannot fit her and my stepfather. So i told her i will send my driver to pick her up, send her to the makan place, then send her back. She say ok. Night went well, dinner as usual. sudah send home, she rant to my sisters that i send stranger to pick her up. My sister belip her and now all hitam face.

Another one :
For my son birthday, we rented a villa for 2 nights. I flew her from sarawak, then asked my sister to pick her up and terus go villa. everything ok, until we went back. Later she complaint to my sisters my wife jahat, i jahat, we dont want to layan her. Just because my wife asked her to rest while she is cooking. My wife already brought 2 friends to help her to cook. All my mum have to do is sit and play with grandchildren, but she so busy with her phone.

A lot more incident. Also, she favored my son than my daughter. She always complaint to my sisters i did not give her money monthly. Yes true, I did not give her monthly, but i give her huge amount of money during christmas, usually five figure. Much more than my sisters gave her monthly.

She also complaint I am a failure, because i am a contractor while my sister is engineer and another one is a specialist doctor.

She also complaint I have too much tattoo.

She also complaint I am heathen for not donating to her church.

All of these, she never complaint to me but to my sisters. I still meet my mum for the sake of meeting her, maybe once in two months. But it had been years since i met my sisters, because they believe her.

We cant choose our parents, but we can choose to distant ourselves from there.

So in your case, your mum is way better than mine.

Oh also, she failed to mentioned that in her 30s, she gila clubbing and drinking like crazy, I am the one carry her to toilet and hold her hair while she vomitted

this one quite ok. u wanna know my mum logic?

I invited my mum for dinner. She say ok. Told her my car only fit 5 people, my fam sudah 4 people including me. cannot fit her and my stepfather. So i told her i will send my driver to pick her up, send her to the makan place, then send her back. She say ok. Night went well, dinner as usual. sudah send home, she rant to my sisters that i send stranger to pick her up. My sister belip her and now all hitam face.

Another one :
For my son birthday, we rented a villa for 2 nights. I flew her from sarawak, then asked my sister to pick her up and terus go villa. everything ok, until we went back. Later she complaint to my sisters my wife jahat, i jahat, we dont want to layan her. Just because my wife asked her to rest while she is cooking. My wife already brought 2 friends to help her to cook. All my mum have to do is sit and play with grandchildren, but she so busy with her phone.

A lot more incident. Also, she favored my son than my daughter. She always complaint to my sisters i did not give her money monthly. Yes true, I did not give her monthly, but i give her huge amount of money during christmas, usually five figure. Much more than my sisters gave her monthly.

She also complaint I am a failure, because i am a contractor while my sister is engineer and another one is a specialist doctor.

She also complaint I have too much tattoo.

She also complaint I am heathen for not donating to her church.

All of these, she never complaint to me but to my sisters. I still meet my mum for the sake of meeting her, maybe once in two months. But it had been years since i met my sisters, because they believe her.

We cant choose our parents, but we can choose to distant ourselves from there.

So in your case, your mum is way better than mine.

Oh also, she failed to mentioned that in her 30s, she gila clubbing and drinking like crazy, I am the one carry her to toilet and hold her hair while she vomitted

Oh, that time you didn’t accidentally let her fall asleep in sink ?