This. But buy also might still be a problem.

Bought coffee for mum but I warn her "we are 5mins walk from zoo we going. High chance cannot bring in so need finish before masuk". She say ok.
Reached entrance guard ask to buang, she bitch about it for next 10mins. I just walked fast fast ahead go see cute animal instead of listening to that shit.

Another time ask if ok to walk 10mins to restaurant parking paid here, if not ok we drive over so no need walk. She say ok. After 2mins walking keep bitching about so far.
This was overseas and I wanted to walk to enjoy the weather and surroundings on a fine day.

Those with toxic family members will understand no matter what you do, they will find shit to give you headache about. Just need to grow thick skin and ignore or sendiri will go gila.

Sometimes need to make hard choices for self preservation. If you go gila you might bring your other relationships down the longkang with you.

I found myself getting easily triggered at 1 point (mum fighting cancer years ago), at work and towards gf. Seriously not worth it. Lucky gf pointed out and helped me grow thicker skin.

If Puan Sri ajak go hiking in our jungle can hike 3-4 hours no problemo. I jio walk to restaurant on nice spring day overseas for 10mins also bising like no tomorrow.

Really

The tongkat part also can relate exactly the same

Can't accept deswai she also try to stay way and help me grow thicker skin. Keeping a distance but not cut off since attitude wise no issue. Siblings still in the fighting stage, I gave up long ago. Not worth to keep arguing and stress ownself, just save my breath.