next time go out to eat, take away something for those at home.... dun eat, put in fridge for next day....

classic case of want face....
cannot say leg pain walk so far or sweaty, or become wasteful as make you pay for parking near near

next time you decide for them, drop everyone off at the front, then you go park whatever location you like, free or paid.
after eat, pay bill and say you drive the car around, and call them to come out when you reach.

like got relative, old cannot walk but dunwan to use tongkat, want to wobble wobble, if fall susah, but still dont want to use tongakt, dunno what face they want to show

yea quite normal when reach certain ages..summore with outsiders puji melambong

according my experience,

when ask, answer sure is don't want

if really got heart, don't ask, terus do it (buy or whatever)

for example, if during dinner time, if ask, want to go eat? answer sure is no. then lepas tu will marah, already dinner time d, tak tau sure is want eat eh meh? why want to ask?

yea. thats how they're wired.

my personal experience. there are 2 routes to reach destination.

When I use route A, wifey sometimes ask why dunt use route B, jam a bit only
When I use route B and jam a bit, wifey asked why I use route A... looks less jam.

Walhal both also jam in different part and time taken are similar ( -/+ few minutes)


This post has been edited by alanyuppie: Today, 10:22 AM

mum is like that lo..

challenge for everyone lucky enuf to take care of her during her golden age

cukur ayam time ady passed..

Bahahaha, indeed you have experience.

seems all mum like that one no matter the race.

Your mum could be going into the initial stage of menopause already...

She born a charsiew, at least boi

toxic parents are real, and it takes time to notice. Some people just either dont notice it or just ignore it.

Read my comment, donno which post#. same shit.

We went to Japan, she wanna follow. Told her there will be a lot of walking. She say ok. We flew first class, inside plane already start kampung people attitude demanding this and that. Sampai japan, belum keluar aiport already complaint. End up the whole trip wasted. everyday complaint.

Even worst, come back malaysia, bitching about it to my sisters. My mum is a mum from hell.

She once told me I will not get anything when she die. Told her my asset is worth more than her. I immediately called my lawyer and asked my lawyer to draft surat akuan sumpah that i will not take anything from her when she die. Got the letter, asked her to sign. She signed, then later bitch about it to my sisters.

Forgot to ask, if u have such mother…. How your gf accept it and if u dont mind me asking, are u married ? If married how u maintain the entire relationship, i think i can learn 1 or 2 from you

no matter how crazy she is, you will miss her when she is gone.

Dont ask how unker know.....

I've noticed a lot of these old couple who behave like this not ngam with each other one, it's like resentment etc.

I can feel you bro.... and i think it is very common. It happened to my mom as well, even more obvious after my father's passing.


But look at generally fact- .... many people have some mental issue ( i am not say crazy that type). Anxiety, depression, schizo, OCD, ADHD there are many type- then demintia, alzemer in older stage All affect many healthy adults male and female.
It is just that - in elderly female it is more obvious. one of the key reason is that they are housewife, they dont work and their world is small.
their circle is other housewife in the neightbourhood, or their relative of which are like to gossip

These are few common traits.....
> never admit that they are wrong
> always find something to blame ( eg when drop a cup of water, will say the cup is slippery and water is too hot)
> dont appreciate what you give then... like bring to a nice restaurant, got 5-6 dishes is nice, but they want to compare just one dish and say other restaurant is nicer
> or say far, expensive etc... never want to give credit.
> like to say bad things, and gossip about others.
If some one got a new house- will say loan only, owe to bank a lot need to installment many year.
if people buy new car- then say must be doing illegal business
if people go travel, then say... haiya- so cold go there for what... or japan there got radiation.
> and more ever.... Schadenfreude i “pleasure derived from another person’s misfortune.”


if this happen to you mother... then just act chill. Dont get too emotionally affected especially when you see the above explaination. Let her be, she will life in her own world. It is very hard to explain, and justify with proper logic and expect it to change.
just do our part, thing what is needed will be fine. at time- we cant and wont do more- coz wont be appreciated.

Also to add.... this type of people, will always wanna find a villan.
- this week is this neighbour, next week is that relative, then it is that shopkeeper.
- they always see thing in their own perspective. they are always right, and others condition, situation they dont care. but in short, they need a villian to justify or make her feel better.

u may also see, this week she is good with these few people, then next week, that complain that people go issue, but be good with other group of people. and same things happen, rinse and repeat.
i can only ask and let her say. dont even bother to explain or understand in depth. all got their own perspective.


This post has been edited by Clueless07: Today, 11:46 AM

wah, this one so drastic....
as i said... dont need to over react. No matter what you do, how u try- you will never able to please her.

because such people- just wanna find a torn in egg.

true. everyone has their nuances and weird quirks. When thinking back old memories and think of why they/we behaved the way they did .... it also make us more human.

This post has been edited by alanyuppie: Today, 11:48 AM

100% true and lived thru every single point in this post .

Women said don't want = want. Trust me

Yep. Learn it the hard way. The more i lawan, it will be another bullet for her to give to my sisters to shot to me.

So now i just dont care. She want something, she have to ask for it. If i can give, i give. If kenot, then ask from someone else.