Depend on needs and requirement of the patient

yes old folks die die don't want to go...those not able bodied with no caretaker then have to go nursing home.

old folks mentality, go nursing home = die faster.

but they forgot, their children also need to make a living. If care for old folks, who is gonna bear the living expenses and etc. Caretakers also got their own responsibilities and they are also human.

Choose the one WITHIN BUDGET and NEAREST to your house so you can visit MORE OFTEN. Mine is like 10-15mins away so I visit almost every morning to bring midnight prepared hard boiled eggs via mykasih's..

Yes it’s really not easy to take care of the elderly

I sympathise with you TS, make sure to take care of yourself as well

bear the weight, guilt and plight within. Not everybody is rich and can afford luxuries.

Just make more time to visit them often. When with them tell them stories and happenings with your life and family so they won't feel disconnected.

Get the family together with the old folks when they are still alive and able.

No point doing big hu ha ceremony after they are not around and only write long ass poems for the internet to see.

Provided is not bedridden lar 😭

They will forget. They want to be in places with someone they know.

When u visit nursing home, macam2 behaviour ada. Those not mentally sick can become one later. One person cry, scream or shout, the entire old folks all siau jor 🫣

This post has been edited by mini orchard: Sep 1 2025, 05:46 PM

All the yima kucheh will talk behind your back as u are the bad person...

TS may I know how old is your parent?

work gets harder if they got dementia.

Once insomnia kicks in, you're done.

tell them stfu, no help then talk mat chart.

salute you. Not easy to take care of elderly. Need to have the patience & the heart to do it. All the best

Not easy. My wife suffered emotionally when MIL was alive, especially when MIL started developing dementia. We moved out to not be under the same roof so that got some breathing space. Yet, still kena kutuk tiap2 hari. Anyway, long story short, no shortcut except really.. tunggu mati.

I took care of my mom for 5 years. Change diapers and shower for her. I feel for you. Not easy.

I feel for you. I was broke too. Didn't work for 5 years. Now slowly rebuilding my life.

Actually it's true if masuk the wrong home. My mom passed away within 2 years after masuk home.

This post has been edited by BUprop: Sep 1 2025, 08:14 PM

My mother is suffering for dementia and minor stroke. I am taking care alone and need to work as well. Luckily, my workplace is just a distance away from my house. I feel helpless as I cannot do anything to help her but just try to spend more time with her and assist her in the daily life routine.

Personally, I feel that my life is gone....My daily routine is about working and taking care of my mother. It has been three years...still long way to go...

This post has been edited by StillAlive: Sep 1 2025, 08:36 PM

Agreed, some not good homes can end life faster. I've seen some 3 months, 1 month. While some can last for years even.

And then there are those bastards who just dumps the old folks and disappears. Family never comes, young ones too busy enjoying yolo life, the spouse will not bother, and some families even go to the extend to change contact numbers and addresses and abandon the old folks totally.

Bro, consider the daily carers/nurses too. Can come half or full day. 24 hours oso got. My acquaintances say they are good.

my family dealing with this problem. call daily nurse/carer also duwan. keras kepala duwan let 'stranger into the home', but can fall down few times a day.

some also kena minor stroke have mobility issues but insist duwan to use tongkat, nor apply for OKU benefits.

seems like that generation very prideful haih

i feel u man, my father is stubborn, gorilla person, misogynist, ( his dna produce muscle one and my sister inherit almost like 65% , even in her 30s she look like large girl but chubby )

and my mother is misandry, dont like his husband also

both are boomer generation, those era are prideful one, if u say bad about them, their dignity , face all pecah and angry one, like those korean / japanese boomer, say bad , go against their agenda / idea, then angry angry, toxic filial piety in another word

i really wish one day i can reborn into very good family environment

both like oil and water, have own ego and opinion. I need explain like hundred of time to change their mind.

Yea if worst come to worst just go nursing home.

This post has been edited by nelson969: Sep 1 2025, 10:43 PM

U think it's just good gene make most T1 can live long ?