Srsly man.

ayam feel yesterday ayam at breaking point alrdy. Work is already tiring, then come PH, no rest, have to take care full time . felt that even merid life oso is taking a hit. I miss those days when there are no responsibilities at all . well, that's being adult, I guess.

taking care of elderly is really hard man . 60kg + want to up and down each n every time , change pampers, etc .

Now I'm trying to diet and exercise almost daily, quit all vape n smoking, so that I'd either go out early with heart attack or live healthily like Tun at 100 and not be dependent on anyone.

Caretaker job is never easy. Those look down on caretaker's job go experience yourself then will know.

Pay for caretaker job also complain expensive.

exactly

never try, never know it is not an easy job

You won't last long..

That’s why I let my ma go ham with food, enjoy lol the delicious food and laze around as much she wants

Either go happy or go in pain, ur choice

My nephew just sent my aunty to one of the many nursing homes in PJ.

This post has been edited by Nofusa: Sep 15 2025, 12:52 PM

Children see, later they will follow ... U lead by example.

I quit my sinkie job come back fOr fAmIlY, turns out everyone see me like a retarded loser instead of filial piety.

I don't cope. I'm now broke and broken. Hope I'm more intelligent next life

Why not send to nursing home and let the pros to handle?

Unless earn 15-20k a month, nursing care easily up to 5k for bedridden excluding nursing supplies, medical and special food.

That, also no guaranteed they will handle like a pro unless one don't mind or no eye see.

You'll either mentally or physically collapse then that'll be even worse. Go survey and send to a nursing home that's within your budget..

This post has been edited by Atrocious: Sep 1 2025, 04:13 PM

Taking care alone , siblings?

This is time to talk to them about hiring a helping hand, either fulltime or part-time. Or if budget allows, you can consider send to daycare for old folks in the morning then pick them up at night bring home. Like kindergarten for kids.

Sometime the old folks themselves dunwan to go also.
Die die wanna stay home

Explaination of benefits are needed. It's the best for both sides. 24hrs with staffs monitoring is way better and safer, you won't be able to do that. If you do, your bio clock will get severely messed up.

seems like a taboo for type M to send to old folks . now manageable with caregiver . but even then when the caregiver is on leave i have to take over.

unfortunately no help at all since they all had their own family . also since the parents house i bought for a discount. so no choice .

if i known it would be this hard, i would've chose otherwise.

true. not even locals want to do these kinds of jobs .

my mum is at 72 now, she's by herself and she spends time gardening and TV and sometimes with her smartphone .. no observation needed, just sometimes she tend to forget something

Manage to sent eventually, but everytime visit they also cry say wanna go home.... How ..?!

how much?

Here in JB also got type M in nursing home. Once your bio clock's messed up, your immune system goes..