I noticed that the guys that I've been chatting with don't ask me if I know how to cook anymore. Just curious if they've finally accepted the fact that most girls dunno how to cook/ don't want to cook 🤣 or guys would rather cook themselves as a lot of guys know some basic cooking skills these days. Would love to hear yr thoughts on this.

This post has been edited by parisiansky: Jun 15 2025, 03:18 PM

Eat out better. Cook how many dish you can cook since each dish require some special ingredient.

Eat out can have more variety unless the the dish that crave for is easy to cook or cheaper to cook etc herbal egg

I think its not that it don't matter but more like its not the top priority. especially if the girl is working too.

if they guy expect you to cook and to work then it will be a red flag.
likewise, if you don't work and don't know how to cook simple meal, it will be a red flag too coz then wth are you doing with your time?

its just chatting. to marry or not is so far ahead yet.

People at different phases will give you different ways of viewing the issue. I'll leave these observations from my angle:-

In our teens — we have one set of mentality.
In our young adult age — we have another set of mentality.
In our middle age — we will have yet another set of mentality.

At different phases of life, our priorities shift.

Someone who once proudly said, “I will never cook,” might one day find themselves willingly preparing a meal — not because they gave in to expectations, but because they wanted to offer something from the heart. Especially when it's for someone they truly care about — like the younger generation asking for a home-cooked meal instead of something available from dining out.

Scenes like these — I’ve seen them unfold many times. People evolve. The one who once resisted cooking out of rebellion against tradition may one day cook with intention — not out of duty, but out of choice. And this transformation - from expectation to offering - is something worth observing whether in men or women. When it is no longer about “what I must do,” but “what I wish to do for someone who matters,” - the act becomes meaningful.

What you do not do now, you may one day do with joy. What others ask of you today, they may forget tomorrow. But what you do willingly for those you cherish — that endures.

So when it comes to the question, “Do you cook?” — if he or she doesn’t bring it up, just let nature unfold when the time is right. And if someone does ask, be honest: “I don’t cook at present.” That’s just where you are right now.

Being able to cook is not essential at the beginning. But when kids comes into play, either one of you or both would wish you'd pick up some skill to ensure your kids eat well and eat healthy. You can eat healthy outside, but healthy eating = money.

For me cooking isn't about my partner, but more about picking up some of my preferred dishes that my mum cooks. If most lose interest in cooking these days, soon all the good recipes will die along with it. For most, nothing beats mum's cooking

Lol I'm not planning to have kids so 1 less prob for me. But it's kinda refreshing to see someone willing to pick up some culinary skills in order to continue enjoying mum's dishes. I can relate to that. My dad's dishes may be ordinary but he always cooks them with love ❤️

Anyone good!?

May I learn!?

I learn to cook so i can eat food i love and stop eating maggi for life

It's not big issue but at least bare minimum. I am a lazy guy so I prefer one pot meals.

Vincenzo plate
Hermann
Orsara recipes
Cooking for peanuts

This post has been edited by Ramjade: Jun 18 2025, 12:35 PM

I do most of the cooking. Simply just because I cook better.

Otherwise it's eating out.

Weekend meal prep is a collaborative affair. Just tend to prep more so weekdays can have quick meals without too much fuss if don't feel like eating out.

But honestly, and this might rub girls the wrong way, they are getting lazy. Prefering to just GRAB your meals than actually making something so their cooking skills don't get developed and refined. Not having time to cook is not the issue.

A girl not being able to cook beyond Maggi mee is a red flag. And it's not how well you cook, it's the effort you make to make something that counts. At least offer to cook even when you can just GRAB something.

I don't speak for most girls but I feel the need to highlight to u that there are ppl who have to OT till 8pm/ 9pm. After braving the long ass traffic jams, it'd be around 10pm by the time they reach home. These ppl are probably too mentally/ physically exhausted to cook anything. It's not that they don't wanna make an effort to cook. It's just that work can be extremely draining sometimes.

Yes.

She must know how to cook. At least some dishes.

If dont know, then should learn. "Dont want to cook" is a red flag in a girl for me.

I myself as a male knows how to make some dishes.

Yes there are those who work like that.

But you can try to cook once a while during weekends and holidays.

This post has been edited by Cubalagi: Jun 18 2025, 02:12 PM

Perfectly understand that situation. But, you don't work everyday to 10pm do you? If you do, you have more serious issues to deal with then.

Dunno wor... U should ask my female friends abt that

There is this thing call 1 whole week meal prep.

If a girl is always constantly OT and not available, that is a red flag to me. Totally no no.

It tells me they priotise career above relationship and having a family.

Yes I have seen and talk to girls like that. I just see them one time to confirm my suspicion then move to the next girl. Give them chance to prove me wrong. Hear their side of the story.

expect cooking + share bill + working.
gender equality they want.

I don't see anything wrong with that. Some girls just want to climb up the corporate ladder as fast as men do. However when girls do this, they're seen as not prioritising their rship. But when guys do this, they're being championed, getting all the big pats on their backs. Gotta love the double standards we have here.

most girls cant cook.

5 days a week OT, some even worse 7 days a week, where got time for husband and kids?

Evsn me who is a workaholic, I tone down my working hours so that I got time for my girl because I know what is more important. Spending time vs chasing money.