Being able to cook is not essential at the beginning. But when kids comes into play, either one of you or both would wish you'd pick up some skill to ensure your kids eat well and eat healthy. You can eat healthy outside, but healthy eating = money.

For me cooking isn't about my partner, but more about picking up some of my preferred dishes that my mum cooks. If most lose interest in cooking these days, soon all the good recipes will die along with it. For most, nothing beats mum's cooking 

I do most of the cooking. Simply just because I cook better. 

Otherwise it's eating out.

Weekend meal prep is a collaborative affair. Just tend to prep more so weekdays can have quick meals without too much fuss if don't feel like eating out.

But honestly, and this might rub girls the wrong way, they are getting lazy. Prefering to just GRAB your meals than actually making something so their cooking skills don't get developed and refined. Not having time to cook is not the issue.

A girl not being able to cook beyond Maggi mee is a red flag. And it's not how well you cook, it's the effort you make to make something that counts. At least offer to cook even when you can just GRAB something.

Perfectly understand that situation. But, you don't work everyday to 10pm do you? If you do, you have more serious issues to deal with then.

There is this thing call 1 whole week meal prep.

If a girl is always constantly OT and not available, that is a red flag to me. Totally no no.

It tells me they priotise career above relationship and having a family.

Yes I have seen and talk to girls like that. I just see them one time to confirm my suspicion then move to the next girl. Give them chance to prove me wrong. Hear their side of the story.

5 days a week OT, some even worse 7 days a week, where got time for husband and kids?

Evsn me who is a workaholic, I tone down my working hours so that I got time for my girl because I know what is more important. Spending time vs chasing money.

Find one with a provider mindset lo. It's never about looks or chemistry. I go for what personality the girl have.

I never expect my girl to pay when we goes out. But it's nice for her to pay once a while and yes I do pay most of the time.

You have no idea how long it took me to find one which lives frugally.

You're in the wrong circles then, my circle of friends, all the males have provider mindset. My professional life also the same, whether its business network or colleagues.

However if you're asking if they have enough to provide for you.. that's a different story la

You are right. It took me almost 3 years (2 years +) to find someone able to live frugality. Able to come down to my world of living.

It's not about economy. Just be honest with the guy..Me and the girl I am seeing was being super open honest and upfront on what we want in our partner from the moment we met. No playing games, no trying to mind reading. Saves time, not romantic though. Romantic only comes after clearing out all the stuff we want from each other.

Stuff I told my girl, no yearly overseas holiday, I am on FIRE path so I want my girl to live frugally. No unnecessary spending. She is totally ok with it.

Girls value guys with high income much more than guys value girls with high income.

A high income woman normally will look for a guy who is higher income than her or at least about the same level. There are exceptions but those are rare.

A high income guy normally wont care what a girl income is. Its even normal to date much lower income girls.

Aiyoh. It means guys don't look at girls income while girls look at guys income lo.

Lemme try to break it down:
Generally speaking,
⬆️ Corporate ladder = ⬆️ Income

Girl POV:
See man ⬆️ Income = ⬆️ Attraction
Replace the equation...
See man ⬆️ corporate ladder = ⬆️ attraction

Man POV:
See woman ⬆️ Income ≠ ⬆️ Attraction
You get the rest...

I think you may not see the connection, perhaps because you think women climbing corporate ladder is not necessarily associated with money, but perhaps just a sense of achievement in general. In that case, you're right it's unfair, but society often works in collective thinking / stereotypes so there tends to be a skewed perception between men vs women in this context.

Lemme try to break it down:
Generally speaking,
⬆️ Corporate ladder = ⬆️ Income

Girl POV:
See man ⬆️ Income = ⬆️ Attraction
Replace the equation...
See man ⬆️ corporate ladder = ⬆️ attraction

Man POV:
See woman ⬆️ Income ≠ ⬆️ Attraction
You get the rest...

I think you may not see the connection, perhaps because you think women climbing corporate ladder is not necessarily associated with money, but perhaps just a sense of achievement in general. In that case, you're right it's unfair, but society often works in collective thinking / stereotypes so there tends to be a skewed perception between men vs women in this context.

Well I am going to be brutal honest with you. Men who wants a family will want a homey woman. If you are too focus on career you can lose your future man as what's the point he come back and there is no one for him and you only see each other on weekends.

You better be upfront about this to the men you are seeing that you will be a career oriented woman.