Based on your description, isn't it apparent that you're being facilitated as plan B?

Can see you're being transparent by didn't even bother to create dupe ID to post this, therefore, I'd be honest with you. If I were you, being used as plan B, I'll return the favor treating 2nd person as plan B too, or if I have to be diabolic a bit, you could have already guessed it.

Many better options out there, doesn't it? It's best not to allow yourself manipulated by the feelings.

When a person with this attitude, you think you'd want this as your lifelong partner? You decision to make.

I know.

I am trying

Bro run.....you are friendzoned and a backup....runn!!!

wtf dude..like this also can kesian many are without parents ok je..

Man up and walk away..love yourself first

why is this trauma? drama la this girl

I know.

Better options out there

So silly of me for feeling sorry for her.

Can't help it.

Care about her too much.

Probably after we stopped communicating, then I can finally moved on and feel peace again.


Fair point

This post has been edited by Antje: Jan 30 2025, 04:53 PM

Today we chat a lot

And she hated my guts

Each time I tried to correct her.

So she made a list...

no routine, no priority, no expectation, transparent, sincerity, honesty.





Easy though

Made my life easier

No need to ask her this and that everyday.

Thinking about her text messages and voice notes gave me cold feet.

This post has been edited by Antje: Jan 30 2025, 05:59 PM

You don’t correct a person with a different level of awareness; it will backfire.
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Truthful words are unpleasant; pleasant words are not truthful. The one coming next is unpleasant:

1) Are you so desperate that you need to be entangled with the late 40s woman with a juvenile mentality?

2) We never met.
Words can be deceiving; emotions can be fabricated; videos can be faked. Trust none of it until you meet face to face. Until that happens, all the words, voice recordings, and video recordings carry 0 reliability.

3) She knows I have feelings for her. Made me think.
Even if you guessed it right , what is next ? Even if you guessed it wrong , what is next? Does the thinking solve the issue ? If not, stop wasting the effort. She stated it clearly; you are just her BFF, and she got a BF.

“Women don’t like men to 'fix' their problems”.

She is happy with the problem. Stop interfering. That is her own cause and effect to be faced by herself.

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What should you do? It is an easy decision - cut.

Very good point

This post has been edited by Antje: Jan 31 2025, 06:20 PM

RED FLAG. GTFO

At best she's treating u like a convenient tool to vent frustration. At worst you end up in somewhere in myanmar. Now u know what to do

If your feeling to her is real based on my experience even stop communicating and you will still cannot move on but of course ours is difference. You just chat online while mine already have sex few times plus dating.

This post has been edited by kesvani: Feb 1 2025, 07:42 PM

Whoa~
You had sex etc.?
That's tough

Have you moved on?
And when did you break up with her?


As for me, I am ready though to let her go

Thank goodness we just chat on social media.

So no pain at all probably.

I always have lots of things to do.

This post has been edited by Antje: Feb 2 2025, 03:59 PM

TS, I fear you may be falling into a mental trap thinking you can be her "hero". From what I read, she has no intentions of changing and does not want your help, so your good intentions will be wasted.

You cannot help someone who does not want to be helped, so plan your exit lah. Any further "but I love her..." will only kill you slowly. Good luck and hope you find your love again.

That's true.

She's living in a fantasy

Somemore she have kids both 5 and 7. Well kinda expect thing not go smoothly and maybe she her feeling to me is short live since. Can feel it from her chat later on

Not easy to move on if you found someone that feel compatible with. If you read my last two post you know i still cannot. Not sure if can or not

If you feel nothing then her to you its just another person you meet and talk to. No feeling involve in first place, more like a friend

This post has been edited by kesvani: Feb 2 2025, 04:28 PM

I stopped hoping.

Feelings began to fade away.

Because she's been with her bf for 6 years.

So, it's probably difficult to sway her heart.



I will read you topic.

Well. You mention you already late 40. At this age marriage is not suppose to be priority anymore is it. If you both can meet and maintain contact why dont just continue with it. I myself hope can have it with GF2 unfortunately the distance between us is too great , different country.

If you really have feeling for someon I think it is not necessary to own them via marriage. Matter is both still in contact.

This post has been edited by kesvani: Feb 2 2025, 07:25 PM

Walk away la don't waste time. You people spend so much time online, not realising 90% of the shit is fake. Go out, play pickleball and meet some real chicks ok.

TS haven't met her?