Amazing how ppl think being frugal = miserable.

Some people feel happy coz they are able to buy something or use something. You might be happy while driving the brand new car.

Some, like me in cases, feel happy just with the knowledge of knowing we can afford it with money still in bank. We don’t need to own it or use it. And we are happy with it 24 hours a day with that knowledge

Must be type m couple? Type c usually newborn naik kereta. Type c waifu materialistic one.

this is fine too since you dont need to keep up with the jones, but the thing is some people's frugal level are extremely subjective

like for example, just because i eat chicken rice every meal during my lunch time im called "too frugal" by some ex-colleagues. for me i considered it alright cause i get my daily required nutrients in a meal plus its <RM10 per meal.

while ive seen before some people level of frugal where they skimp on everything, because they think it is good savings. an example would be something like skimping on proper meals because they think breakfast is a waste of money etc

is it worth it in the long run? i dunno, to each their own. but breakfast is important to start the day IMO

I would say some save up to buy things, some save up to for future, some save up to enjoy life. Neither right nor wrong. Everyone has different priority.

I spend most of my earnings on eating with my wife. When I'm alone I'll just eat simple food. Save up a little to buy things that last, hardly skimp on quality, yet not the most expensive. Travel? Occasionally if my wife asks but prefer to stay at home. Lol

this is fine too since you dont need to keep up with the jones, but the thing is some people's frugal level are extremely subjective

like for example, just because i eat chicken rice every meal during my lunch time im called "too frugal" by some ex-colleagues. for me i considered it alright cause i get my daily required nutrients in a meal plus its <RM10 per meal.

while ive seen before some people level of frugal where they skimp on everything, because they think it is good savings. an example would be something like skimping on proper meals because they think breakfast is a waste of money etc

is it worth it in the long run? i dunno, to each their own. but breakfast is important to start the day IMO

Sometimes also need to think.. we can't live forever and if we kick the bucket tomorrow, what would you or your wife regret not doing?

Also, we can't stay young forever. I have for example, already tried glacier hiking in iceland, dog sledding in svalbard and viewing the northern lights in Tromsø , all of this which is more difficult to do when older in sub-zero temperatures outdoors for long amount of time

Not saying that's what you should do, but need to balance affordability, and happiness (not just yours but your family)

i agree with what you said, on another spectrum.
i done nothing on your list, I've never been to Europe.

but if i die tomorrow, i have no regrets. apart from being sad that i can't provide more and be there for my family.
but I'm already dead then, what's being sad or regret going to matter?     

I've heard of so many unhappy marriages.

Sometimes also need to think.. we can't live forever and if we kick the bucket tomorrow, what would you or your wife regret not doing?

Also, we can't stay young forever. I have for example, already tried glacier hiking in iceland, dog sledding in svalbard and viewing the northern lights in Tromsø , all of this which is more difficult to do when older in sub-zero temperatures outdoors for long amount of time

Not saying that's what you should do, but need to balance affordability, and happiness (not just yours but your family)

I had 1 ex-classmate, lived a frugal life although he was rich (but stingy as hell). heard his wife was unhappy that never go holiday or spend any money on her and she eventually divorced him and got half of all his assets

Now his ex-wife very happy can go holiday in many places

As a 37-year-old earning RM8k per month, I've only managed to save RM100k in my savings which i know is insufficient. To ramp up my savings, I've adopted a frugal lifestyle.

However, this has led to tension with my wife, who feels we should enjoy life more and want to take control over our finance.

As a housewife, she is good at taking care our childrens but not in managing finance. i'm hesitant to hand over our finance to her due to her limited experience.

Should i prioritize making my wife happy and risk compromising our financial stability or find alternative solutions to address her concerns?

I'm torn between securing our financial future and maintaining a happy marriage.

Any advice would be appreciated.
Edit : My main question is should i let my wife happy and control our finances, even if it compromises our financial stability?

I once reminded my wife to appreciate what we have, pointing out that we're fortunate to have a roof over our heads and food on the table.

I mentioned that many people struggle to survive with much less. However, my words fell flat, and she gave me the cold shoulder for days.

The tension at home affected not just me, but also our kids' happiness."

I will never tell her this anymore.

As a 37-year-old earning RM8k per month, I've only managed to save RM100k in my savings which i know is insufficient. To ramp up my savings, I've adopted a frugal lifestyle.

However, this has led to tension with my wife, who feels we should enjoy life more and want to take control over our finance.

As a housewife, she is good at taking care our childrens but not in managing finance. i'm hesitant to hand over our finance to her due to her limited experience.

Should i prioritize making my wife happy and risk compromising our financial stability or find alternative solutions to address her concerns?

I'm torn between securing our financial future and maintaining a happy marriage.

Any advice would be appreciated.
Edit : My main question is should i let my wife happy and control our finances, even if it compromises our financial stability?