Thanks for the sharing!

damn that's a lot of books u have read

another thing is how do u come by these books? by peer recommendation or youtubers?

i do believe knowledge is free, if u have the means to find it, why buy it?

most people buy books for the sake of buying books, not reading them. i was once like that, i have books but im not reading them, might as well do the opposite and not buy any, but download them, the outcome i desire is to acquire knowledge, which is the same outcome for buying and download books, while one u will have to pay and another is free

You're welcome.

I know about these books from different sources:
- Amazon Kindle
- Goodreads
- Video courses by those authors
- Personal recommendation (by my dad, friends, coaches, trainers)
- Podcasts, interviews
- Physical bookstores
- Websites, online articles
- Ads, social media posts

I'm an avid learner. I regularly study and attend classes/courses.

This post has been edited by Ralna: Sep 25 2024, 07:32 PM

I know I don't sound like it, but I used to work as a lecturer for years, and now I'm a speaker and skills trainer too.

Back then, my male students liked me a lot. I was prim and proper in classroom setting, but they still asked me these questions...


LOL. Cute. Seems like guys always have some fantasies towards their female teachers huh

My students were seldom late, always paid attention in class, and academically performed better than their peers taught by other lecturers. In the end, most passed the subject and scored As and Bs.

Nice. haha

For starters, you won't appreciate what you read. So it doesn't really embed itself inside you, end up you read and read and read and read, but still stuck in the same place.

If you picked up a book for free, you'll read it whenever. Flip through the pages, do a shallow read, etc. if you paid money for it, you're more likely to extract as much value from it to justify the purchase price.

Its the same reason I always advice people to pay for software which they use to do their work. There is a value perception and re-alignment that happens when you do that; and it changes the way you see your own work/future as well.

Vishen Lakhiani is a great figure for inspiration, motivation, entrepreneurship.

He is willing to share some tips of the core secret of manifestation.
Once a while he would be seen in his ads in YouTube break session.

His guidance are easy to absorb. People who can't afford his professional classes still benefit a lot from his various sharings.

Male students flirting with their pretty teacher? Totally normal

Question is, what about the other way around

He is charismatic, but my BS meter explodes with him

haih cannot la... not interested in young dudes who haven't started making money yet.

I'm still young and wanna be sayang by male peers or older men.

until now i've probably read about 10 books regarding self help books, all downloaded and read on phone, i get what you mean, that a person will value something more as for what he or she had paid, however physical book is actually a burden a carry everywhere when i can just read it on my phone, its more a matter of accessible but not the money, and its more of how bad you want to know things from the book

I'm starting to think you have a fetish for old man smell

You can buy an e-book reader, which is what I use nowadays. Books I really like, I buy the hard copies to keep on a shelf

as for appreciating what you paid for, its not just that. It goes deeper than that. For example, say from the list that Ralna gave you, say you only had budget to buy 3 books. You would then need something to help guide you to choose which to pick, you would think of areas you want to improve first as your first elimination criteria. Then from that list, you cut it down further by doing research into the author and the book reviews, etc.

Even before reading the book, you've already primed and aligned your aim and value perception to be ready for the book. Then you are more likely to pick up on what the book is trying to teach and embody that into yourself.

Just like how an atheist can read the bible and look for contradictions, a christian can read the bible and see God and Wisdom. The physical text is exactly the same, but the aim and perception of the reader changes its meaning.

Yerrrr so bad. I got fine taste la. haha

After several FFKs in early Sept (he repeatedly initiated but kept cancelling), I felt unhappy and told him about how I felt.

Then, he disappeared on 11 Sep, and messaged me again on 17 Sept. He asked me how I was doing, said he'd come to my place... but he cancelled again because of work tasks. Haih. I told him I felt sad when he cancelled again; wondering if he was playing with my feelings, and said his behaviour really confused me. He read my messages (text and voice), but didn't reply.

He disappeared again on 18 Sep, and messaged me again on 24 Sept. He asked me how I was doing, asked if wanna watch a movie together, but I wasn't free at night, so I said Friday. He didn't reply/confirm anything, and he disappeared again...

& in one of the following nights, I was feeling stressed about something, so I messaged him around 4 am+ that I wished I could hug him, then I'd feel alright again.

He replied but a few days later, asking "What happened? Why?"

I said I didn't know how to express myself; just let it pass.



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Today is the last day of September, so I thought I should I message him.

Me: hmm.. are you always busy with work? whole month until today, we still haven't met yet. miss talking to you
Him: miss me is it? tonight then.
Me: hmm do what tonight?
Him: what you wanna do?
Me: want to spend time together.. dinner, hug, cuddle... Can? or are you still shy with me? If so, then we just voice/video call lor. I'm okay. You decide

But he didn't read and disappeared again for several hours... haih. Tak jadi again.

I was upset bit, so I went to sleep a while.

At nearly 10 p.m., he messaged me again to ask where I was. Then he said he just finished his program, and asked me when to meet again.

I told him my availability, and said I felt glad he completed his program; could relax more from Oct onwards.



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Apart from his initial push-pulls/FFKs/some disappearances due to work + working full-time + completing his studies, I do feel he cares for me and likes me a lot through his efforts to communicate, initiate meetings, and also probably resolved his own emotions when he pulled away.

Did some tarot reading yesterday, and it says this:



Haih. Super accurate. Yealor. Currently, I have 2 men in my life. Ex-fiancé still wanna be together and refuses to let go. I told ex I couldn't promise anything yet, and I was currently seeing other men. Ex agreed to just let things flow naturally although he felt jealous. I did encourage him to meet other women, but he said he lost his heart to me already.

Honestly, if the new guy overcomes his own inner struggles, is willing to commit, get married and have kids, I think he'll make a more suitable husband than my ex. We're peers (he's a year younger than me), both highly successful in our own ways, highly educated and physically compatible, and I'm in a way his first gf/first woman if we successfully date. My family and friends would be so happy seeing us together. I think his family, too... like, finally there's a girl who wins the heart and body of their mangkuk son. LOL.

I don't know how things will evolve in the next few months, with ex moving back to Selangor permanently and the mangkuk guy more free to meet up. Haih. Will give both men equal chances, while I continue to work on myself and my biz. I need to have everything properly established before I settle down with a man, while they also sort out their own issues.

I told my male BFF about it. He said, "You are a smart lady. You'll figure it out eventually. Give some time. I wish you all the best to you! Whatever the outcome is, I wish you happiness." ❤️

I don't like my situation right now, but apparently, it's something that I need to go through... will act wisely and let God/fate/universe decide whom I should be with, based on their words, actions and sincerity. I believe that when I am ready for the next stage, my future husband will also be ready... time will tell.

This post has been edited by Ralna: Oct 2 2024, 12:22 PM

Closing this thread as I have gotten the answers from previous discussion and reached my own inner resolution for now.

Thanks, everyone. Your time and effort to reply is much appreciated. ❤️I'm happy to have made several new friends in real life too. ^^