QUOTE(Blofeld @ Sep 17 2024, 03:56 AM)
Yes, that special man would be a submissive man.
The one who will listen to you day and night, listening to your orders. If he is someone like Elon Musk, why would he be entertaining your whims and fancies in the long run? For the short-term, probably yes.
It's going to be very difficult to have two captains in a ship.
When you have two very dominant personalities in a relationship, there will be constant fights and arguments which eventually lead to a breakdown in the relationship.
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These are general assumptions as a male. Here's a broader perspective:
(It's long, but definitely thought-provoking especially for males.)Using an analogy, think of Wonder Woman, or some DC/Marvel female heroines-- these are definitely alpha females whom most men won't take as housewives or working moms. For ease of discussion, let's just call them "strong women"-- feminine, sexy, intelligent, physically fit, agile, high status, powerful, etc.
Ordinary men cannot and dare not control such women, but let me tell you about another group of men who can: the alpha males. The strongest and the most confident men in the male population. The top 1-2%.
These men listen to strong women, because strong women don't nag nor fuss on petty stuff like ordinary women do. When strong women speak, they talk sense, not talk sh*t. Strong women are comrades and equal counterparts, and alpha males respect such women.
I've met alpha males, and my ex is one too. These men do not get intimidated by strong women. They are the top leaders and strongest hunters of their packs. They enjoy hunting strong prey, like a tigress, a lioness or a leopardess, tame them, and display them as their prized possessions in their captives.
That adrenaline rush in taming a strong woman, breaking her willpower to submit to you, and f*cking her damn hard till she begs to stop... can make a man blood boils like he's conquered an army. It is highly addictive because it is a testament to a man's prowess to hunt and tame a strong prey. Ordinary women who are as meek as lambs do not excite such men; too easy.
Men are biologically programmed to need sex and reproduce as many healthy and strong offspring, and having intercourse with some of the strongest women will produce the strongest offspring that will ensure the best genes get passed down.
This is especially true for ancient civilisations, such as the Spartans. Only the strong and fit men were able and allowed to reproduce, and Spartan women were strong and highly respected by Spartan males.
However, as human population increased after WWII (no major wars after that), the need to reproduce strong offspring has drastically declined, and the popular notion of romantic love in marriage diluted the pragmatic nature of marriage: to reproduce strong and healthy offspring in a secure and stable male-female partnership, approved by both families of equal status, resources and power.
Hypothesis: If mankind is endangered, men would, again, select strong females to reproduce. Strong mothers are able to give birth to strong offspring and survive all hardships.
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From my observation, modern men have been emasculated due to a myriad of factors.
You can read this book:
Of Boys and Men: Why the Modern Male Is Struggling, Why It Matters, and What to Do about It which says:
Boys and men are struggling. Profound economic and social changes of recent decades have many losing ground in the classroom, the workplace, and in the family. While the lives of women have changed, the lives of many men have remained the same or even worsened.
Economically independent women can now flourish whether they are wives or not. Wifeless men, by contrast, are often a mess. Compared to married men, their health is worse, their employment rates are lower, and their social networks are weaker.QUOTE
Something is rotten in the state of manhood. Guilty of the crime of patriarchy, it is also tainted by toxic masculinity, the belief that most social ills – everything from murder and rape to online abuse – stem from men being men. Not only are men seen as (and too often are) violent and dangerous, in advanced economies men are three times more likely than women to take their own lives.
According to research cited in thinktank research fellow Richard Reeves’s new book, Of Boys and Men, males are much more likely to feel socially excluded, and far less likely to thrive after divorce (if they don’t remarry). At the same time, girls are outperforming boys in most academic disciplines, and rapidly closing the gap in those in which boys lead, not just in schools but in universities across the western world. In the US, 57% of bachelor degrees are now awarded to women.
The same can be said for many areas of the workforce too, where, in spite of the gender gap in pay – largely attributable to the burden of childcare placed on women – men are increasingly second best. What’s more, men are literally losing their grip. In 1985, writes Reeves, “the average man in his early 30s could squeeze your hand with about 30 pounds more force than a similarly aged woman. Today, their grip strength is about the same.”
Read more:
https://www.theguardian.com/books/2022/oct/...-descent-of-man“Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times.”
– G. Michael Hopf, USA Today bestselling author of post-apocalyptic fiction.
We are in good times, which is why there are more weak men now--- and these are the men who dislike strong women.
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Lastly, respect is earned. You want a woman to listen to you, you earn her respect first.
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When a woman tests a man and finds him firm, strong, dominant, powerful, and masculine, she becomes more feminine.
She:
- Falls in love with him harder and more deeply
- Becomes more sexually attracted to him and turned on by him
- Submits herself more and places her life more firmly in his hands
- Becomes more comfortable and feels more secure with him
- Behaves more feminine around him
On the other hand, when a woman tests a man and finds him flimsy, weak, hesitant, unsure, and unmasculine, she becomes more masculine.
She:
- Falls out of love with him progressively more
- Becomes increasingly turned off sexually around him
- Exerts independence and takes charge more and more around him
- Becomes less trusting, comfortable, and secure around him
- Behaves more masculine around him
Respect in a relationship is entirely dependent on whether a woman sees her man as THE man... or whether she sees him as just another Joe Blow who ain't really getting the job done all that well.
Source:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/respect-...s-where-it-goesWomen are biologically programmed to respect strong men, adore them and submit to them.
So, if a man feels disrespected or overpowered by a woman, something is obviously wrong somewhere. Fix that, instead of blaming women. Weak men whine and blame, strong men refine and tame.
This post has been edited by Ralna: Sep 17 2024, 06:38 AM 
Sep 14 2024, 12:49 AM, updated 2y ago
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He's gonna teach you how to trade options... beware lol
Since it happens naturally, you both should talk it out. I think he's a little anxious after being single for too long. A responsible man should be able to control his urges and desires and let things happen naturally. 
You know, two days after our last conversation, I did text him to say I honestly miss him... and asked if he missed me... but he didn't even wanna read my message... no reply. After waiting for a day, I unsent the message. He saw the unsent notification/message (immediately online), but he still didn't text me. I was so unhappy why he pursued me then disappeared, but after posting in forum to get male perspectives, I kinda understand his behaviour better...
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