0! Hence this post.

0! Hence this post.

Sometimes persistence does work in getting a girl.

The key is to have the correct mindset. Continue to pursue but at the same time dont get emotionally invested much into her.

In this way, you can pursue several girls at same time, date some of them when there is an opening.

he hasnt gone out on a single date with this girl, and then tried to act alpha by telling her he's not happy with her excuses. Just shown he's clueless about women. If a woman is not hooked on you emotionally or sexually, any action is just deemed as low value

But in all fairness, from OP’s posts, it seems it’s always the girl coming up with some last minute reason to fob him off… very mixed signals.

Giving ultimatums to a girl who hasnt invested in you (havent even met in this case), is a desperate unattractive behavior.

Its the same with "confessions of love".

Fair point, but I still can’t help feeling that the feelings are more on TS’ side, and less on the girl’s, given her repeated excuses and reasons for missing appointments and appearances….

It’s better for TS to move on…

TS can move on anytime, no need drama. But maybe he need to relook at his approach if he is not getting much success in attracting the opposite sex.

Whenever a guy is hitting on a girl,  the default starting position is He will be more attracted to her than she is of him. Natural. The more attractive or marketable she is relative to him, the bigger the gap.

The art or game is to change that default starting position and make the girl similarly attracted to the guy.

Attraction is build on demonstrating high value. Some men make the mistake (commonly see in this forum) that when a girl responds positively, the guy becomes needy, pushy, desperate. Low value actions that kill any attraction.

Yes, it's always a balancing act.

Come on too strong, big turn off to the party being chased after.

Take it too slow, run the risk of her getting swooped up by another party.

I'm glad all these masak masak games are behind me.

Yea its balancing.

Also doing more the right things and less the wrong things.

But there is also a thrill that maybe u would hv forgotten.

The thrill of the hunt.

Late 20-something Chinese dude here.

I met another woman online, and for the past couple of weeks she's very keen to chat with me everyday. After all, she claimed that she's interested in me too. However, whenever I try to invite her out, she always rejects it with various reasons such as her outstation work demands (she works far away and only return during weekends), weekend events, having to rest...etc.

I expressed my dissatisfaction earlier and she agreed to meet another day. So this week I attempted to invite her out again. But again, I was greeted with the same resistance. Only when I suggest the following day, she agree to going out for a lunch with me without much enthusiasm.

Am I right to think that she sees me as a guy best-friend instead of a potential partner? After all if she's remotely interested in me, she'd have take the opportunity to meet me irl?

I expressed my dissatisfaction

It really shows you don't know the dating game.

I believe TS has moved on already.

Hi yes it's not meant to be, I don't have much experience growing up due to personal reasons, so this is actually a good lesson for me.

As long as you don’t a life lesson affect you too deeply, instead, use it to help you grow as a person.

You’ll be ok my friend.

Hopefully the lesson is not to be forever alone.