Sounds like a scam. I am currently talking to a scammer to pass time too, he/she been trying to ask me to invest in stocks with him/her which I have been coming out with excuses to reject so I can continue to see what tactics they can use.

Seriously bro? Haha. Just be careful you don’t end up kena jampi and do something you’ll regret!

Hahaha. already obvious scammer, I just chat to pass time. Ask to meet this Sunday to see what kind of excuse he/she will use to bail out.

Hahaha. already obvious scammer, I just chat to pass time. Ask to meet this Sunday to see what kind of excuse he/she will use to bail out.

usually they will ask you to meet in a group
then flash you with scarcity scenario
even induce fear

Late 20-something Chinese dude here.

I met another woman online, and for the past couple of weeks she's very keen to chat with me everyday. After all, she claimed that she's interested in me too. However, whenever I try to invite her out, she always rejects it with various reasons such as her outstation work demands (she works far away and only return during weekends), weekend events, having to rest...etc.

I expressed my dissatisfaction earlier and she agreed to meet another day. So this week I attempted to invite her out again. But again, I was greeted with the same resistance. Only when I suggest the following day, she agree to going out for a lunch with me without much enthusiasm.

Am I right to think that she sees me as a guy best-friend instead of a potential partner? After all if she's remotely interested in me, she'd have take the opportunity to meet me irl?

Late 20-something Chinese dude here.

I met another woman online, and for the past couple of weeks she's very keen to chat with me everyday. After all, she claimed that she's interested in me too. However, whenever I try to invite her out, she always rejects it with various reasons such as her outstation work demands (she works far away and only return during weekends), weekend events, having to rest...etc.

I expressed my dissatisfaction earlier and she agreed to meet another day. So this week I attempted to invite her out again. But again, I was greeted with the same resistance. Only when I suggest the following day, she agree to going out for a lunch with me without much enthusiasm.

Am I right to think that she sees me as a guy best-friend instead of a potential partner? After all if she's remotely interested in me, she'd have take the opportunity to meet me irl?

I think you already know the answer to your questions.

The only question worth asking is, why are you still holding out for her?

Never ever entertain women's mind games. If she says no, take it as a no. Man up and move on.

Move on dude. She's not that into you.

Be glad she's not scamming you.

Yet. TS have yet to see her, she can always find another excuse to postpone the lunch again until she finds a chance to scam

online is big red alert there

if you never seen her irl , most likely fake photo or maybe a guy even.

the only thing that matters is face to face or video call

gl

Takut last2 suruh bank in duit je bruh.

in my opinion she may try to scam you later after gaining your trust

hate to break it to you but you may be her 2nd option only.

you are only 20 something. Move on buddy.

Signs are there ,repeatedly shown.

Do not overthink it to your favor. its time wasting.

go chat with a few more girls

and ask them out

don't focus on only one girl

Bro, girl very simple! She like or love you, everything OK.

Base on what you write out, end it. Go for another.

I think you already know the answer to your questions.

The only question worth asking is, why are you still holding out for her?

Never ever entertain women's mind games. If she says no, take it as a no. Man up and move on.

So how many times you've actually met so far and how were the sessions?
I think it's fair to give an ultimatum and work together to minimise the risks, so that you know if even that fails, you can move on.

My attempt to be in her shoes:
- her brother doesn't stay with them so it's a big deal when he returns. Maybe it was a last minute plan.
> Manage this by ensuring she knows his next return (or whoever other family?!) so she can plan her schedule accordingly.
- terribad traffic jam
> She should clear her schedule and depart early morning. You can ease her burden by letting her decide a place convenient for her to eat, or you offer to pick her up (if she's okay with a stranger knowing her address)
- work schedule / events
> She needs to book ahead or even apply annual leave if all else fails.

Honestly, I think she has a few problems.
Breaking promises
She ought to uphold a promise she makes to someone she's interested in. Otherwise, why kill her own chances of getting to know you? Before labelling her a liar, you might want to understand her values regarding promises. Maybe she doesn't even think it's a "promise", more like a casual "eh if I can then let's meet lah, if cannot then let's chill online lah"

No respect for others' time
You need to set the record straight: you're clearing your schedule to meet her so she should do the same and respect your time.

Priorities
Is she young? I bet young ladies tend to be carefree in dating so they're not invested to quickly work something out lol. Anyhow, it's obvious you're way below in priorities despite her apparent interest, her list looks something like this:
1. Work
2. Family
3. Herself (me-time)
Whatever next excuse she may have
??. You
...I guess you being on the list at all is something

If she keeps letting so many things get in between her love life, then I can imagine it'll be very difficult even if you progress further with her.

Thanks for the detailed response Takudan. I've actually given my ultimatum prior to this post by informing her that I'm not happy with her excuses after multiple attempts. It's her who reached out to me again afterwards (hence the confusing mixed signal), so I decided to give her another go. Unfortunately, she chose to act funny again so I'm sticking to my guns this time. Even if she become my girlfriend afterwards, I already foresee a lot of drama afterwards due to incompability in our priorities.

Did u actually went out with her? How many times?