but not bad, u went to chinese school?

at least ur guardian bothered to educate u.

Nope only 3 and half year in srjkc, not even finished my primary school
Until today i masih pakai bahasa rojak 😂

I count myself blessed that I don't have to contend with these painful issues yet ... (well, you know, never say never until one's dying breath is breathed).

However, with her being retired and me joining the ranks of the unemployed early (targeting next year), there'll again be a change in the couple dynamic. We might now find that we have too much time on our hands, and too much time to spend ruminating on the small stuff that we would have otherwise happily ignored under the weight of accounting reports and patient case loads in the past.

I look at my uncle and aunt, both in their late 70's (sadly, I don't have parents on which to base my observations, since both of them RIP'ed young), and whilst it's undeniable that they still care deeply for each other (my uncle flies into a panic attack every time my aunt complains of some pain or ache, for example), the 2 of them can't stop arguing and nagging at each other....

*SMH*     

If this is what happens to waifu and me post retirement, I'd either bungee off some canyon in NZ without the harness and cord, or make her do it and I'll cut the cord myself.

Kidding!

Majority of retiree i know off ends up playing hide n seek in their big house. They live together but choose to not face each other unless necessary. Each have their own TV to watch their own stuff. Some kind of mutual agreement cos to them the less time they see each other the less argument/nagging. They still love and care about each other tho. I remember reading somewhere this is the result of not showing love n affection to each other from young. Started from your parents, they don't show love language, then it stuck with their children, then the children grow up continue the cycle again after married especially when they have kids, busy with job no time for each other. By the time u retire, when u finally have all the time for yourself u feel awkward to show affection. Our childhood plays a big factor on how we react to stuff, that's why therapy usually focus on childhood trauma and then they work on understanding the effect on u so u can work on to break the vicious cycle.