Based on timeline, ragnarok online or maple story? lol.

stay strong bro. I have adhd as well, it's a torture to ur SO when u started to spiral. Rumah bersepah and procrastination is the norm.

not nescessary la. depends on the reason why u salary low also. if by choice then okay.

If u got trouble holding down a job long term keep kena goreng then end up become freeloader. Low salary is just a symptom of bigger problem. at that moment u just lose all the credibility to be the decision maker, everything u said will be doubtful by default.

Maybe go marriage counseling.

kids how old? Not easy jaga kids and the house. House work is the most insane monotonous repetitive shit that will drain your soul. Everyday without skip must take cloth masuk washing machine, wait 1hour+ then hang them all. Chase after the sun, beware of rains and to collect them as soon as dry else those cloths become damp when the weather cools suddenly. On top of that got kids at home ur sink forever has some stuff waiting to be cleaned, slack a bit the whole sink will become like gunung there. Other than that u need to plan groceries, plan what to cook, keep track of kids enrichment classes, school progress and attend to their daily request.

At the same time housewife social circle also damn limited compared to your work place. They daily interact with kids. The adults around them aint normal either, cos they will be similar housewife or educators (honestly in malaysia the teacher all got very bad ppl skill).

Finally those housewife will always feel "trapped". Cos everything they do will revolve around the kids/family. Totally no time to do whatever fuck they want. You can go snake at work place, go social with kolik. They have very limited options cos need jaga kids. At night need to be like prostitute attend to ur sexual need no matter how tired. worse if u sour face her and question her "what did u do whole day?".

And remember, housewife basically got no retirement fund. No EPF. Their fate is solely on ur hands. You can divorce her when she is 50s' . if u are cruel enough u can bankrupt her through divorce proceeding just so she give up on lengthy battle to claim half ur asset. because she literally has no savings for lawyer unless u give her bonus cash in her own name occasionally. Everything she has will be solely from u. It's not the type of life u will call secure. Which also the reason why housewife non stop asking for this n that, they just want to feel appreciated but using the wrong method.

I agree with your sentiment. But who am i to disallow my child to date person of his choice. I will have to trust my children choice la, after all they are the product of my genes coupled with my nurturing. On top of that i pray to god always that my children has good logical mind with great EQ. Fengshui is not my cup of tea so i havent done anything from than angle yet.

On the other hand many couple at home also scolding each other daily and fighting proxy war using the children, they remain married forever but deep down they hate each other to the core. This kind of couple the kids be better than kids from divorced couple? What i want to say is even non-divorced family also is not as good as it seems, probably worse. Your dotter may end up getting abused yet she don't dare to explore the divorce route because "my mummy said broken family don't deserve romantic relationship cos will break other ppl's kid worrrr".

World not so black and white leh.

btw. welcome back. lol

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U talking about real fishing or flame baiting? Lol.

I always believe money doesn't guarantee happiness. But for sure money can solve a lot of problem. I would choose to be the unhappy rich than unhappy poor anytime of the day. always. lol

err why not?

afaik it's agreement about how to split the asset in case of divorce. It's not valid only if it heavily favor one side of the party. ie. if divorce wife don't get to contest inheritance from husband.

You have to make it fair to make it legally binding. Both party have to engage their own lawyers to discuss the terms.

from the two divorce case i seen first hand.

Both also the husband is rich T20.

One end up with long legal battle. But the rich family drag it out, under report the financial to give the least possible alimony. Keep fighting until the ex wife give up because lawyer fee eating her up. Settled with 200k cash as alimony. Daughter stopped talking to him the last time i asked.

Another is lucky no children. But the mom is the typical MIL from hell. Husband my friend is good guy so i know the divorce is because too mummy boy. So the ex-wife settled with alimony until she remarried. They buy out whatever asset/cash with her joint name. She untung from the asset and alimony since she never pay installment at all. The MIL threatened to bankrupt her in legal battle if she ask for more.

Actually this is very true. Kids are not dumb, they know very well the dynamic in the household. You should think from the angle, divorce if u really love your kids. Do u want your kids to grow up, learning about love and affection from the way both of u treat each other?

Majority of retiree i know off ends up playing hide n seek in their big house. They live together but choose to not face each other unless necessary. Each have their own TV to watch their own stuff. Some kind of mutual agreement cos to them the less time they see each other the less argument/nagging. They still love and care about each other tho. I remember reading somewhere this is the result of not showing love n affection to each other from young. Started from your parents, they don't show love language, then it stuck with their children, then the children grow up continue the cycle again after married especially when they have kids, busy with job no time for each other. By the time u retire, when u finally have all the time for yourself u feel awkward to show affection. Our childhood plays a big factor on how we react to stuff, that's why therapy usually focus on childhood trauma and then they work on understanding the effect on u so u can work on to break the vicious cycle.