Love & Hate come/manufacture/fabricated from/by the same source which is your brain/mind.
When you're in love -> you married her.
When you're in hate -> you divorced her.

Love & Hate are two sides of the same coin...sometimes it's flipped.

LOL

Matu bujang, or unloved soul….very Cham..

Waifu no good?

Studies already revealed that married men are happier, go google

Get married is becos you want your partner to be a lawful wife and also get children if possible. It is another milestone and achievement in your life time.

If you don't have anyone to love or enjoy being with her family, stay single and love yourself instead.

Many times, some people so desperate to marry and got into a commitment trap and be miserable for life. However, some adjusted and be happy for life.

Try find good and real love (non toxic) if cannot find also no choice…

It’s all fated…

This post has been edited by swanlover: Feb 25 2025, 08:14 AM

for me stay single

aka
stay single = easy mode in life

merid = hard mode

merid with kids = sucidal mode


if one can choose the mode in life,why not on easy mode since the end game is the same.

The refined scenarios for the decision-making.

1) If getting into a relationship or married brings the best out of your partner & yourself (win-win), proceed to be in a relationship or married. This will be the ideal case.

2)If getting into a relationship or married brings the best out of your partner but not yourself (win-lose/lose-win), you can decide to stay put or continue. Do be forewarned, at such a setup, the one who keeps giving/scarifying will eventually turn resentful/feel imbalanced, if you do not have strong mental energy.

3) If getting into a relationship or married brings the worst out of your partner & yourself (lose-lose), stay put.

If you are thinking of gaining something from a relationship/marriage, you still have a long way to go on this path.

If you understand that a relationship/marriage is about the scarifying life choices at a personal level so that it benefits the relationship/marriage, you are almost there.

The principle of decision-making applies to the above; if the decision makes life better, go ahead. If the decision makes life miserable, just stop.

The dynamic of scenarios 1), 2), and 3) is never a "static" or permanent; it is how much effort you put in to maintain it, make it better, or make it worse. Hence, the misconception of marriage = "happily ever after" is so wrong. You need to put in effort to bring your relationship/marriage to the next level.

Those who think that being in a relationship/marriage feels like heaven, wait till you witness the hell from the failed relationship/marriage.

Learn & understand the meaning of "darkness" before talking about the "light.". Without knowing the meaning of darkness, how would you know the meaning of light? Vice versa, without knowing the meaning of light, how would you know the meaning of darkness?

this. always happy mode year end cz bring them to holidays is priceless experience.

Yes. It's priceless. Every thing has a price. You paid for the whole family expenses and being single also need to pay for sanction which is forever alone.

work hard and get a bonus. that bonus (half of it) can paid for a great holiday session to all

If you wish to settle down, have kids, ready to take the much heavier responsibility, then you should get married.

If you still like partying, exploring places, freedom, only care for yourself, don't like people depends on you, then you should stay single.

Both have pro and cons, check on your married friends and learn from them.

U think being single no need to pay for it, can get away with large savings?

One way or another your money will still be gone even if you are singles (spend on other hobby)…unless u are type that can look at four walls and eat Maggie for 30 years..lolx

This post has been edited by swanlover: Feb 25 2025, 11:00 AM

Yes, money still spending in another thing which his own personal interest.
Family man/ wife also got their own personal interest right.

This post has been edited by giftfre: Feb 25 2025, 11:18 AM

If u don't plan to have kids, stay single.. I don't see the point of getting married if u don't want kids

It's so silly

THIS.

Also don't make 1 kid only. Single child is worse than having no kid. DUnno wtf those ppl thinking. Horrible fate for that child, grow up lonely, upbringing also damn challenging cos lack of interaction with other kids other than school. Then suddenly join workforce with all the social drama. The scale is against them.

Then old time the poor child going to solo handle two retired self centered old fart. They are fucking self centered because most of the time main reason stop 1 child because they not ready to handle the trouble and expenses for more kids. Choosing easy way out. And very short sighted just want to get a kid like some kind of life trophy.

Well said too.. At least minimum 2 kids.. The single kid will be lonely and most of the time will be spoiled / screwed-up when he / she gets older

I've seen so many friends who are / has single kid .. A bit of pattern

Also, remember quality > quantity.. Don't be like B40 breed but don't know how to take care of the kids.. Anything happen to the kids, blame God and fate

Usually single kid mean he/she dem 7 lansi, knowing ‘u both guarantee can’t live without me’ mentality Lolx

Sometimes its difficult to understand marriage before being in one to experience it firsthand.