QUOTE(guy3288 @ Nov 19 2025, 09:07 AM)
i never thought of that part ie to pass the bulk of wealth to wife when we die first.
i think most men would have decided in the will who gets what when we die
Wife takes this
children these....
others that...
is that not the case?
in your case sounds like you will let your wife do the bulk of distribution?
would not that be a stress to her and
also will increase costs of transfer of assets
direct transfer from father to children = 1 fee
if transfer all to wife then let her transfer to children when she dies = 2 fees
most important part is make sure what you passed to your surviving spouse
is more than enough for her to survive past 100 yrs.
in that case for those who dont have much, yes i agree with you
husband should not try to be too heroic
in willing his limited wealth to this
to that
while not thinking has he given enough to his wife..
Yes what you are saying is also correct. Thats why i say experiences define how we make our will.
We are so used to the culture that we are the center of the universe, so when we passes on everything will be distributed without much regard to our better half. The question is why should we entirely have the right to decide ? Most of us gifted some of our assets to our children earlier sometimes to assist , sometimes based on needs. For the reasoning that we just need to pass on enough for the wife to survive. The question is " why not distribute all and keeping enough for both of you to survive now" ? If able to answer it fairly then i will agree. I do agree that transfer of properties will incur twice lawyer fees but i think it is worth it. Transfer between spouses and/ or children is considered free except for lawyer and some minor fees.
QUOTE(Cubalagi @ Nov 19 2025, 10:41 AM)
In the Die with Zero approach, when it comes to gifting, it is recommended to give earlier when one is alive and not later when already dead.
There are 2 reasons for this:
1. Feeling the joy of giving and being able to share the happiness with the recipient. No joy when one is dead.
2. Time value of money. To the recipient, usually a dollar now to is much more valuable than to 10 dollars in 20 years time.
I feel this is more selfless than hoarding wealth till the end.
Even when we make our will, our lawyers fully agreed to the way our will was designed, sharing the horror stories derived from their experiences with their clients will.