ok I think this should be the last update for this story, unless any further new developments in the future.
Met up with the friend during CNY (yeah it's May now, I just malas to update until today lol) and I asked him how's things with him and tinder girl, are they still together or did he managed to break off with her or how. The stuff he told me... I really dunno wat to say lah...
So he was able to stop seeing her for much of 2020 and 2021, and it was kinda relief for him, though she demanded him to chat with her at least once a day. He told me, he diverted her to telegram and stop using whatsapp coz his kids sometimes check his phone for messages from the teachers (this was during mco ya, and classes were conducted online so a lot of homework and announcements were done via whatsapp group), but she still spam message him on whatsapp if he dun reply her on telegram on time. So much so until he had to block her from whatsapp. Yup, there's quite a bit of fireworks but he managed to hold his ground. She actually demanded him to curi2 go see her during conditional mco opening period, gila to have sex with him until liddat
Then in 2022 he almost managed to break off with her. He told me la (and I could see he was still kinda pissed while telling this), that time was a busy period with work and he was so fukken stressed n tired, sometimes work until late at night, yet she kept trying to gaslight and guilt trip him for not seeing her more often. The climax came when they planned to meet up, but so happened his wife was sick that day and he had to take her to hospital, so he had to call off going to her place at the last minute. He showed me their chat (which after that I advised him to better delete the history eventhough its in telegram, coz u never know lah), she was seriously BITCHY and gaslighting him off, stuff like he always cancel their date coz family this n family that; or how much she sacrificed her time and arrangements just to be with him yet he can't do the same and come see her. I think she was too into him until she forgot what a secret affair means and still thinks their's is an open legit relationship
He told me he actually broke off with her that time at the hospital, and he had to go down to the lobby to type all that argument in telegram instead of in the ward with wifey (he not idiot la ok this guy). He closed telegram but the girl started to spam sms him. He had to put his phone on silent, yet the sms kept coming in eventhough he never replied, until he off the phone. Telling me now, he kinda regretted not able to make the break permanent that time coz he was also worried if she'd do any crazy stuff and blast their stuff to the whole wide world (can see thats some really shitty position he's gotten himself in). The next morning he and tinder girl had a quick call, and she toned down her act dy. He was quite frustrated at me when he told me the rest of the story, heck even me

at this.
He started to ignore and be less manja towards her, yet she still wants to be with him. He told her upfront he can't take care of her forever and its time for her to look for a real bf and with possibly marriage, yet she still refused to break off with him. I asked him how she find contacts, he told me she used tinder and okcupid, but problem is, this guy cannot that guy cannot, so many excuses and all. As if la she's 18-22 supermodel with lots of options (she's 40+ weiii!!!). And best part was, she asked him, whats wrong if she kept seeing him even if she had a real bf or even husband
Yeah man I shit you not. I asked him, but she ok or not if her bf/husband got sidechick himself??? Cannot pulak, he said. Got girls so delusional until liddat ke?
So as of right now, he's still stuck with her... although he's managed to reduced their meetup to once a month or in few weeks. He also reduced their interactions to once a day and totally no contact in weekends (had some arguments on this but he told me he was so fedup liao he just told her back, what do you mean why family day again, family day is family day lah, anyday can also be family day!). His only hope now is she can get a permanent bf soon and they can mutually separate on good terms, but it seems like she's not getting the hint and not seriously looking for it, although she did dated a few guys but none of them worked out
So that's how it is lah right now. Way much lesser interactions but still not able to break off completely from her. I dunno whether to kesian him or padan muka him leh. So what do you guys think?
Oh and btw, I did asked him, hows their sex now. Had to slowly guide the conversation and also some mugs of beer lah for him to cerita this part ok

So he told me, its way less than last time liao, and he also tried to perform less with the dildo and pounding, yet she still wants him. They have now gone to anal sex, somemore stuff like double drilling (I was like WTF U ALONE HOW TO DOUBLE DRILL LAHHH???). Its actually quite easy to use penis on 1 hole and dildo on the other. Fukken BASTARD
This post has been edited by bigwolf: May 6 2023, 07:18 PM