How men test women:

1) $$$ - greedy or not
2) xoxo - compatible or not
3) family - how she thinks of his family and buddies
4) hobbies - how she perceives his favourite activities
5) honesty & loyalty - will she go for the next guy if she meets a better one?

I notice most guys feel frustrated when trying to get the girls they want. It's either the girls aren't interested/ rejected them right at the start, or suddenly ghost/ leave after a few months, or change to become worse/ demeaning and the relationship becomes toxic or end with betrayal/ sudden breakup.

I grew up having more male friends than female ones, but I'm not a tomboy or the brotherly type. Sometimes I have empathy/ sympathy for men, seeing them so frustrated and hurt, either during pursuit, or during the initial stage, or while in the relationship, or the breakup.

Actually what men want are simple, it's women that's complicated, as they have more wants and needs = more picky and demanding/ high expectations. I'm guilty of this as well, but I don't play guys' feelings or take advantage of them.

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I'm a woman, so obviously, I don't (need to) pursue men.

I've gone out with 22 men, one-on-one lunch/ dinner dates via dating apps. Most of them are in their 30s (that's the range I set), and are professionals. Among them are engineers (mechanical, O&G), managers (software development, app designs, logistics, real estate, finance), business owners (car parts supplies, water filtration systems, logistics), a scientist in manufacturing technology, a strategy director and others.

Of course, I've chatted with even more men, about 100-200 in the past few years. When I first used Tinder, I got 99+ likes and 30+ pm's within 12 hours. (Side note: Now I know why I was popular. I asked my male buddy to show me his Tinder girls, we swiped left and right together, hmm... I was kinda disappointed? The photos and profile write-ups were kinda...unsatisfactory. Then I looked at how he chatted up with different girls. )

So yeah, I'm quite seasoned. I don't sleep around & all my dates are serious/ proper ones (not looking for hookups). Now I don't use dating apps anymore, and funnily, I met my fiance via lowyat forum. 
First Date Matters

Men are actually more feeling-based/ visual ("I like the girl, I have feeling for her, so I chase her"). Men tend to fall in love hard and fast when the gut feeling/ instinct/ hormones gets triggered (by her looks, her smile, sexy photos, body shape etc).

Women aren't like that. They have a mental checklist when it comes to screening and selecting potential partners. Let's begin with the first date.

First impression is, of course, important. As long as you look decent and presentable, display good table manners and etiquette, you score points.

Women tend to be naturally guarded, so you'll need to make them feel at ease/ more relaxed, and show that you are caring, such as asking "Would you like some hot tea?" "Do you feel cold?" "How's the food? Is the soup hot enough?" Ask simple questions to just have a quick check on how she's feeling, and if she says she's fine/ it's okay, then say something like, "That's good. I'm glad you enjoy the soup/ you're feeling comfortable" and then smile at her.

Then the topics you talk about should be something interesting. Usually, men will need to lead the conversation first to break the awkward silence. It can be telling stories (about what happened at work, or a project you just completed etc), or talking about some fun activities that you'll be doing, or asking for her opinion about vacation ideas etc. It should be interactive, and ideally, men should listen more than they talk. When you can get a woman to open up and talk about what interests her, and make her smile and laugh, the date is then a successful one = you are making her feel good and happy.

After the lunch/ dinner ends, pay for the meal (you asked her out and you like her). Don't schedule the next date immediately. Just say it's kinda late, she should go home now and sleep early, get some beauty sleep after a good meal and chat with you.

If you like her, accompany her to pay the parking ticket, or to the car park if it's kinda late. Then when you're home, text her to say you're home and ask her if she has reached home safely too. Then thank her for her time to dine with you, and you enjoy it. Don't ever ask her how she thinks of the date, or how she thinks of you. It's still too early to judge, so please don't invite unnecessary preliminary evaluation.

Up till now, notice that on the first date itself, you'll need to:
1) pay attention to details
2) show that you are warm and caring
3) don't show your desperation (by asking her when's the next date or how she feels about you etc)
4) unguard her by 10%-20%

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As mentioned earlier, I've gone out with 20+ men. 90% of them paid for the first date. Some of them asked if I would consider a serious relationship with them, which I rejected outright. On the other hand, with some of them, I had a second and third date.

Why Women Reject Men

Many reasons, such as:

1) physical compatibility: height, body shape, body frame
2) bad impression: lack of punctuality, no table manners, poor body language (yawn, burp etc)
3) lack of common interests or common topics
4) lack maturity and depth, e.g. cold jokes or sarcastic remarks, which women don't find funny at all
5) don't feel safe or comfortable with him; he's too desperate for next date or for sex

and other reasons, of course.

The thing is, don't feel frustrated with women reject you outright. If it's something you can change to be better, you can impress her again in the next date, provided that she will give the 2nd chance and you still wanna pursue her.

& yes, back then when my bf-now-fiance pursued me, I rejected him straightaway, but he didn't give up. He didn't let my rejection diminish his value and self-worth, and he proved himself to me that he truly deserved me. I was really impressed with his high self-esteem and confidence. It took him a whole year to pursue me, and to get me give up dating other men. (Another tip: Women like to test men, level by level.)

A man who is very sure and confident of himself (in a good way, not delusional), despite the "disadvantages" he has, is very attractive and sexy to women. I call it the winning attitude/ mentality.

If you are at a disadvantage (no good looks, not rich etc), you need to demonstrate to her you are a man worthy of her in some other ways, such as you can make her laugh and be happy, you are caring and filial etc. Demonstrate your strengths despite the weaknesses you have, and don't feel inferior.

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Ok, shared a lot. I'm not sure how you guys pursue women; I'm just sharing some input so that you can refine your tactics, and hopefully, increase the chances of succeeding. 

What a woman meant (what written here) doesn't exactly mean what she wanted at least in a subconscious sense. Here's my take throughout my 5 year seduction journey.

You can maximise your sexual market values by using look, fame etc. But for me the most important characteristic trait is psychological trait aka dominance. If I didn't have this simple mindset, how could I possibly protect my woman/future offspring from danger.

The game is about increasing smv by avoiding 'just be yourself' (what a nice sentence...) behavioral traits are changing from time to time. Just because today you're a nerdy shy guy doesn't mean you're remaining the same within the next 2 years.

Manage your expectation as well. If you want:
a) fast lay: pick an average girl with self esteem issues.
b) marriage material: screen for less than 3 sexual partners, loyal, knows how to please her man legitimately, avoid feminised, drama prone woman.

Objectively looking at every woman. What they wanted varies from time to time. In the past, I would waste 6-7 dates on singular girl that led to no where.

You can follow a woman dating advice, but selectively doing so. Because most women I encountered say the things that wanted to protect their village (feminine agenda).

I notice most guys feel frustrated when trying to get the girls they want. It's either the girls aren't interested/ rejected them right at the start, or suddenly ghost/ leave after a few months, or change to become worse/ demeaning and the relationship becomes toxic or end with betrayal/ sudden breakup.

I grew up having more male friends than female ones, but I'm not a tomboy or the brotherly type. Sometimes I have empathy/ sympathy for men, seeing them so frustrated and hurt, either during pursuit, or during the initial stage, or while in the relationship, or the breakup.

Actually what men want are simple, it's women that's complicated, as they have more wants and needs = more picky and demanding/ high expectations. I'm guilty of this as well, but I don't play guys' feelings or take advantage of them.

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Ralna's advice and opinion is always on point! Relationship Queen. Why not next post is about girls to guys? Since this post is about guys to girls.

tulis panjang2 ber ela ela tapi women only seek for money like men seek for sex

Not all women seek for money and not all men seek for sex.

But, almost all women seeks for security and men seeks for someone who they could rely on.

There's way too many stupid TS opening stupid threads saying that their other halves is materialistic because they ask the guy to consider buying a car or even a house. That is not really materialistic, they just wanted security. Would you let your daughter marry a broke ass man? Someone who have a lot of debt? Someone who needs to run from loan sharks? I bet you'd say no. You would like your daughter to have a partner that at least have a roof over their heads, be it a big roof or a small roof, at least some sort of roof will do. As for transportation wise, I can fly on my magic carpet anytime, but commoners like you, having a car is a necessity.

Most of the time, the key to courting the other half and escaping the 'forever alone'/'friendzone' cycle is simple. Just ask yourself infront of the mirror, "Would you date your own self?". If the answer is no, then why? Get into the point, improve the things that you are lacking.

If you're fat, go to the gym.
If your face got problem, go facial or clean your face better.
If you're poor, improve yourself, get a better job, get a 2nd job, don't be lazy - just work your ass off!
If you're stupid, no one is stupid, don't say that to yourself, just go and improve yourself by learning a new skill or language.
If you're not good in talking with girls/boys, go and talk with more people, you won't learn by watching YouTube videos or reading Self-Help Books, it can only guide you or give you some theory, but you will need real experience, just talk with more people IRL.
If you are smelly, freaking go and take a bath you disgusting filth!
But if you have disgusting mentality or keep giving excuses - saying that you can't, then no one can help you, may you Rub Your Own Genie for eternity.

I wonder how many girls Rub Your Genie with that mentality of yours.

tulis panjang2 ber ela ela tapi women only seek for money like men seek for sex

Not all women seek for money and not all men seek for sex.

But, almost all women seeks for security and men seeks for someone who they could rely on.

There's way too many stupid TS opening stupid threads saying that their other halves is materialistic because they ask the guy to consider buying a car or even a house. That is not really materialistic, they just wanted security. Would you let your daughter marry a broke ass man? Someone who have a lot of debt? Someone who needs to run from loan sharks? I bet you'd say no. You would like your daughter to have a partner that at least have a roof over their heads, be it a big roof or a small roof, at least some sort of roof will do. As for transportation wise, I can fly on my magic carpet anytime, but commoners like you, having a car is a necessity.

Most of the time, the key to courting the other half and escaping the 'forever alone'/'friendzone' cycle is simple. Just ask yourself infront of the mirror, "Would you date your own self?". If the answer is no, then why? Get into the point, improve the things that you are lacking.

If you're fat, go to the gym.
If your face got problem, go facial or clean your face better.
If you're poor, improve yourself, get a better job, get a 2nd job, don't be lazy - just work your ass off!
If you're stupid, no one is stupid, don't say that to yourself, just go and improve yourself by learning a new skill or language.
If you're not good in talking with girls/boys, go and talk with more people, you won't learn by watching YouTube videos or reading Self-Help Books, it can only guide you or give you some theory, but you will need real experience, just talk with more people IRL.
If you are smelly, freaking go and take a bath you disgusting filth!
But if you have disgusting mentality or keep giving excuses - saying that you can't, then no one can help you, may you Rub Your Own Genie for eternity.

I wonder how many girls Rub Your Genie with that mentality of yours.

Ralna's advice and opinion is always on point! Relationship Queen. Why not next post is about girls to guys? Since this post is about guys to girls.

Thanks for your compliment! 

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