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QUOTE(ChAOoz @ Jul 3 2018, 02:18 PM)
Taking the meat of the content, what we can learn from TS insightful sharing is:
1) Your standing as a man in society is important. You will be judge and screen even before they engage in conversation with you. Try to be a high valued man via obvious cues and your initial resume You can see TS only date within certain "scope". There is no college bums, no mechanics, no dispatch boys, no electrician, and also no fcuk boy in there. So if you want certain "scope" of women, prep yourself to be in their "profile" as well.
2) Cold read your profile to gauge what they value during dates to score points. Eg -> In TS case, she valued culture and well presentable men. Obviously this is important to her. So if your date value materialistic stuff, you can ditch that whole chivalry front and just order the most expensive things in the menu and follow up by impressing her with obvious bragging. In TS case, that is a no-no as you will come off as a show-off orge.
3) Act different to what is expected and be congruent to their ideals -> don't go for what's natural to you, but rather stop and think in their shoes and act according to their expectations. This demonstrate empathy and also good emotional control, key indicator of an emotionally strong man. This would prove you are a class different from the rest and they will have a good perception of you, leading them to lower their guard faster.
4) After going on first date and doing all that, assessed where you stand. Keep at it or pull back -> If you did all those well, and she placed you within a reasonable range. Then you can redouble your effort and increase in the aggressiveness and intensity. If the girl is slightly interested, your action would further reaffirm her and reassured her of her worth and she would feel a sense of control in the interaction and loosen her guard around you. All human like attention, especially if given from someone they valued. If she see you as a pest, please pull back and stop. Anything you do further is a nuisance.
5) Once they consider you. Keep doing things to assured them and get them to justify their decisions -> Once a girl consider you, try to win points from their surroundings. Many girls highly valued people's opinion of their partner especially people close to them, so before they pull the trigger they would like to have assurance from their social circles. So act in ways that win points from their family, and close friend so she can further justify her reason to be with you.
6) Go in for the close -> Secure the relationships and make it official once you know they have all the reason to be with you and is able to confidently make that decision. This is a big decision for them, once they make it, the power dynamic of the relationships may shift as now you hold the key and they will die trying to justify that their decision is correct as their ego / pride could not accept otherwise. For girls that changes a lot of partner this may not apply, as they do not hold pride in their decision of partners and don't mind people knowing that they have made the wrong choices.
QUOTE(ChAOoz @ Jul 3 2018, 02:27 PM)
Our ego and pride is what feed us. We will do anything to justify and make sense of our decision. No matter how ridiculous and flawed the argument is.
This apply to both men and women.
Not sure is it just me or my insecurity flaring up but seemed like TS advice is coming from a very high place. It's relevant, but at the same time highlight how pretentious this whole courting process is.
Spot on.
Based on your points, let me further clarify:
1) Compatibility is important, be it family background, social status, financial standing, academic qualifications etc. If a woman is of high value and high status, and she dates a man of lower value and status, this is what will happen:
- He will feel inferior and insecure. His wife is tall, pretty, accomplished and attractive to many men. "Why would she choose to be with him? Will she leave him for other better men one day? What if he's just plain and ordinary for the rest of his life, will she still love him?" These thoughts will torment him and make him paranoid. When a man feels paranoid, he gets suspicious easily → becomes controlling (fear of losing her) → the relationship becomes toxic and suffocating → domestic abuse?
- A woman can't love a man whom she has no respect for. If he's inferior to her in everything, then she has to develop & push him to perform? What is she then, his teacher/ mentor? The power dynamics in the relationship becomes reversed.
- There will be plenty of disagreement, such as how to raise the children up, or educate them, or how to manage finances and who will be in control.
- It will be difficult to click. She can't understand his world, neither can he enter her world. Both of them have separate social circles and topics of interest.
FYI, women have much stricter criteria when it comes to dating for marriage. Men usually think of marriage after being in the relationship for some time. Women are different. Most women date because they want to get married and have children.
2) True. I've met several rich men in their 30s who tried hard to impress me with their wealth and business. I'm not exactly sure whether it's because they use this as tactic to attract women, or whether it's because they feel insecure around me that they need to use their wealth to boost their esteem (?), or maybe they just wanna be honest with me?
If I am the materialistic type, I'll be like
, but I'm not. Wealth and biz are important, but I find it kinda insulting and distasteful if all you can do to impress me is with your wealth, but not with your personality, charisma, strengths, life experience etc. If you want women with substance, then you gotta be one with it too.
Jul 9 2018, 11:49 PM
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I think maybe u think too much....
it is simple, naive and kinda romantic if u think about it LOL!
doesnt just affect women after men only kind of rship....it can happen to all and the main cause is MENOPAUSE lol....joking....anyway it happens laa
see meaning I am still his only dream girl rite? lol.....okies dont tell me the truth ok i dont want to know 
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