Try figure why TS picked 30 and above.
Try figure what would hv changed significantly after 30’s.

I’m damm sure it’s not maturity. It’s more like his b*llshit starts to walk if u know what I mean.

He pursued u and u rejected him outright; You probably did all the above.
If ur now fiancee had taken your advice; will he still be your fiancee? The answer is obvious.

You say you rejected him. I can't imagine how un-reciprocated creepy text for 365 days allows your relationship to progress to this stage.
That leaves two possibilities. 1) You never rejected him to begin with. 2) The narcissistic him, just don't give a damm about what you think or said.

My interpretation of what happened then was, he topped the chart in the pool of the guys your were dating. He knows he topped the chart. You "rejection" isn't rejection. It was more like provocation for him step up his game. My take is, you already approved him wayyy before that 1 year. The pursue is more like spending honey moon together and enjoys the "chase".

Else, please do elaborate on what he had done that changed your mind and how did that happened. What did he do exactly during THAT defining invitation that your normally says "NO" to a "YES" that qualifies him to be in the chase. That will be useful.

TLDR
1) Top the chart of the pool of the guys the target is dating.
2) Be a narcissistic prick that do not accept a woman's no means no.
3) Guys, you gotta know how to tell if you are in "the chase".

P.S. I know. TS, It's not easy to admit that he is hot and you have fell head over heel over him. The story "rejecting" him is more like a futile effort to redeem ur...

That exactly what they want. And that exactly who he is.

There is one type of man that can be emasculated. The alpha-wannabe.

So, did u approve or disapprove his pursue on you?
And if you disapprove it, why did he continue? How would someone did something you disapprove eventually gets your approval.

Because, you neither reject him as a person, nor his pursuit. You admitted that. You all you just said, it's A problem. A list of problems.
That's not the same as disapproving his pursuit. You refuse to come off easy is not the same as rejecting his pursuit. I totally get that.

To large extend, you actually wanted him to find ways to get around it which would define your worth. You would be disappointed if he didn't wouldn't you.

Alright, don't bother to respond to that. It's obvious and pointless continue.
There is nothing useful discussing there.

What you obviously demonstrated here is, a woman's no doesn't always mean no. It's a conditional no. Perhaps, temporary.
What would be useful is how to identify a woman's no is a conditional no. Don't bother with unconditional NO. That would be "gave up and shut off".

What I believe is the problem is men confused between the conditional no and a real no means no. And in that process, he wasted his resources unnecessarily.
This is resonates what Drian said. And when dudes in Drian's example comes here, the bottom line is he failed in meeting the conditions of the conditional no.

You did set a list of condition for him. You admitted he met them one of after another. And in that process, you are checking those condition is the list one after another. Probably, with very inflated ego. How is that defined as "rejected his pursuit"? That's more like accepting and validating his pursuit. Don't answer. It's OK.

Topping the chart in my context is being top 1% in YOUR 100 person dating pool. Not playing games.
And that's not true. Scandals of different degree proved that.

And trust me, it's alot easier if guys did a quick assessment the target's dating pool and where does he actually stands.
Personally, I would have saved alot of embarrassment if I have been better at that. One of my few most memorable lesson ends with, "Nice try!" i totally came off an idiot . If just I know that my "business" card isn't as impressive as those business cards from her dating pool. Its still pretty impressive to me. It would be a pretty fun story to tell.

First impression matters, totally agree with that.
Because that would be the inception of a person's bias. Once the biased is formed, it's not easy to debunk or correct.
But if used correctly, it could be very useful to form a stronger favourable bias.

I'm just gonna summarize this with one word: STANDARD

Before anyone can set a standard for anyone else to meet, he/herself must be of a person of certain standard.
There is no way for anyone to expect Snapchat CEO to come pursue you if you aren't Miranda Kerr.

What useful here. Embrace the profound truth that, "Begger can't choose. If you wanna choose. Don't be a begger".

1) Are you trying to rationalize BAD BEHAVIOUR with childhood fantasy?

2) In your Cinderalla story, everyone loves Cinderella. She is hopeful. She is grateful. She appreciates everything and everyone around her. She goes through hardship without complain. The problem is not the society has increasing numbers of Cinderella, but Cinderella's STEP SISTER. Ungrateful. Lazy. Entitled.

The right social conditioning should incline towards conditioning women into Cinderella. Cinderella has lot more to offer than a pussy. But step sister literally have only pussies. Hopefully, u get where is my disagreement with your statement, "who you are determines what you deserves". The society do not glorify virtues of Cinderella and her sacrifices. It's more like glorifying the step-sister bad behavior. Try pay attention to this when u r in ladies nite out.

It's always what you do. That's empowering because everyone single one of us has a choice to choose what to do.

There are many other bullshit to deal with. It's u hv affinity to deal with other bullshit.

Personally, I deal with bullshit that pays. The reason is there no other tools more powerful than money. There is no other better definition of success other than the ability to make money.

Any man of value would understand the concept of appreciating value and diminishing value.
No man of value trades something of appreciating value with diminishing value. In any successful partnership, both partners offers leverage.

What i'm trying to say is, "Sorry, the boat has left". She might be still in my standard if you maintains/improve on whatever leverage she has.

He blew her scale. But we don't know what her scale is. But he blew her scale.
U know, the 99th person in her scale might did everything the the number 1 in her scale. But, she will never talk about it.

I always ask my female acquintances...when Z did this and you despises it. But if A, did it...you say, Awww... how sweet. Why so unfair one?
They hate me for pointing that out.

You may disagree. What I'm trying to say is, if you are top 10 in the list, maybe you can outlast the other 9. But if you come from the bottom 10, it's more like no matter what you do, you will never be mentioned.

U are basically playing a number game.

You want a trophy?