I have personally witness a guy, I would rate him high, nice guy, awesome temper (or lack of), caring., loyal, nice looking (might be biased was my best buddy), a specialist doctor (now). He liked this girl in college, but they were both too shy to initiate... so then another loud mouth, crude lady comes along, she was aggressive and finally got the guy... they are married now.. its his first relationship.

Yeah, being aggressive can make a woman get the guy she wants (if he reciprocates), but then she will emasculate him and play the domineering role = becomes possessive, easily jealous, and perhaps, controlling.

Emasculate = "deprive a man of his male role or identity"; "make someone or something weaker or less effective".

If you like a woman who's like that, then accept her pursuit.

Real life is different from manga/anime/ drama, as in, cute girls confessing to guys, and then this and that... in the end they are happily together ever after.

As for your case, I have a similar story. My aunt pursued my uncle when they were both single, coz my uncle was tall, handsome, good-tempered and gentleman type. You know what happened after their marriage? She yells at him a lot (from upstairs), calls him by his full name, and says things like, "If it's not because of me, you'll still be poor/ useless" etc, and scolds him. They have been married for decades, but the marriage is long broken, and affects the children (my cousins) a lot.

Now that's real life.

Girl pursuing guy is not something wrong, but please be careful as to why she takes this approach and not let you do the chase. Is it because you are too passive yourself, or she has ulterior motives, or she does this to other guys as well, or what? Don't instantly feel happy and think, "Yeah, finally some girl is interested in me and chase me!"

Yeah, you can say it's gender equality or her personality type is like that, but whatever it is, do know that if something or someone behaves out of the norm, it's either skewed to the extreme left (bad) or to the extreme right (good) of the spectrum. Most of the time, it's too good to be true. If it is genuinely good and true, then it can withstand any tests.

u chased after your husband last time?

good to hear that

as raina implied, have u ever bullied your husband?

You are an extrovert while he is an introvert.

I think in cases like this, it's okay for extrovert women to pursue introvert men... as long as it doesn't scare them away.