i got 1 relation that need some advise ...
i know a girl from my friend which we alwalys sms ..... i get to know her ,
she live in Kajang .. at first we both are friends .. smsing ... its already
about 1 year .. and all of the sudden she sms me saying 'I LOVE U' .. i was
i have not meet her or seen her in real life .. i have turn her down
, she fell sad .. but she still keep on smsing me .. she said that the person she
love is me , and thats forever ... c'mon we haven't meet before ...

so should i continue smsing with her or just leave it ..

do you have that special feeling for her then?
i'm sure you guys did exchange photos?? consider meet already laa..

or ask her to go slow..date her out..spend some time alone..see if there's any chemistry..then only start to know each other better..who knows if you guys are really meant for each other..

actually...that's a little ridiculous. but heck, I can't say anything XD

not me ler..

special feeling ? got a bit lo ... ya we got exchange photo ...
dating is not a problem ... but now really busy with work and stuff ...
i'll give it some thoughts .. thanks for the advise ...

An update. My LDR is over after 3 months. She had lost the feel after a month or so. But I tried to push on. Finally the truth is out. I'm quite relieved and thankful she's the straightforward and mature sort, otherwise I'd be in some limbo of decisions. So, time to move on...

Anyway, thanks for all the support and kind words!

i got a confession!

although i dont like to do this but here goes...
i need to know what you think about this situation.

sorry if i just barged in like this without any introduction... i prefer it this way.


current situation:

im in KL, shes is Singapore.
im malay, shes chinese,
shes gorgeous, and im mad about her.

but.... shes only sends one photos,
its been goin on for 10 month since before new year in an online game.
last 3 month shes been away, cant contact her. until now. (talked like we were friends T.T)

wanted to exchange phone numbers, but at that time she said it was busted,
so i tell her "why dont u give me when u got 1" so i gave mine, still no contact.

shes kinda a shy shy person,

in the 3 no contact month period i was about to give up, but instead were started talking again....

i know there so many complication in a multinational-racial relationship but....

i dont know what to do rite now...

sometimes shes soo secretive... and forgetfull...

well if your in my shoes what will you do?

or theres something wrong here... ~~"

p/s: im not always active in this forum, so i wont reply that soon

This post has been edited by slainemcroth: Oct 28 2007, 02:11 AM

Hmmm yeah looks like something wrong.

I think she treats you just friend only and nothing much.

Have you try asking what she likes? what she do? what her future plan? If she don't really give much answer to you then i don't think you can even step into her heart.

But to create more communication 1st. Then see how it goes it later.

This has little to do with race at the moment.

Now you're talking about an LDR over an online game? I know there are success stories out there but it's as common as 21yr old self-made millionaires.

Besides, you like her over a photo and based on what she types online? C'mon. You don't even know if you like her true person. And a photo can be misleading. What if you meet her and she doesn't reach your expectations?

Let's just do a little post-mortem on her reactions:-

"My phone is busted so I can't give you my phone number"
- What kind of lame excuse is that? This is such a blatant cover line. Clearly she doesn't want to give her no to a stranger she hasn't even met. Guys already have difficulty getting phone numbers in real life, so your expectations are too high.

"Shy, secretive and forgetful"
- Cover personality. If she really liked you, you'll be talking about where you can both hang out once you reach S'pore.

My advice? Turn off the PC, go out and mingle in real life.

no problem
i also fell in love with my first boyfriend before i met him..which was about erm...8 years back..and our relationship lasted for 7 years, my 1st love summore..

good luck and hope to get ur good news ya

lol prozac.. at least u know the truth.. i'm still hanging.. and waiting.. for some sort of contact lol sigh

We're both still studying but he's gonna b start working by end of this yr and me, next year ba..

LDR over online game, his mum thinks its kinda ridiculous..

future plan.. we have but im afraid dat his mum might not allow us to be together.. she's kinda has those conservative mind..

Tryingt o work hard to see it happen in the future..

must firstly settle my parents i guess..

yeah, thx

after that 3 month... i did feel a little better, quit almost everything
started my old life back.

just wanna know your opinions.

now maybe i just wanna to dissappear, that what i was good at

This post has been edited by slainemcroth: Oct 28 2007, 06:12 PM

slowly lor.. slowly prove to his mom that u're not wat she thinks u are

huh...over d?broke up d....?
well...this is making me to think more negative ....
hey bro,dun be sad...try to save the relationship incase she has got some reason or wat..
if really gone d..then i suggest u to move on and look for other girls...many girl over CC for u to buaya 1 ma...dun be sad wor...
lastly...I would hope that u will still hang out with us over here and juz to tell us some updates of ur life...
u r always being welcomed over here ya!

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Added on October 28, 2007, 8:34 pmhave u ever met him b4???

This post has been edited by pandazhun: Oct 28 2007, 08:34 PM

6 year old successful LDR. Not everyone can keep a LDR going. It takes both people in the relationship to be loyal, and true to the relationship.

We will be together soon though.

congratz to u...
I wish i can be like u 1 day....
share us your luck ok??

Of course, she progressed from my classmate to my girlfriend and finally to my wife.

It is a challenge, you'll find alot of misunderstandings, you'll have to find a way to make it work.

It's different for everyone. But the main thing is that it takes the both of you to make it work.
It's always easy to give up and blame it on the distance.

My is still from classmate to my gf.. Haha

yeap yeap..
last yr July was the 1st time, met in SG, and his mum was with him..
and recently, end of last month, I went Syd to be with him for 2 weeks..
can only c each other once a year.. =p