Just be frank and realistic with each other throughout the LDR. The worst thing about LDR is the uncertainty and blind faith on the other party.

Request that he inform you if he meets someone else, and don't leave you hanging in the dark.

Hi all. Sighning in to LDR club. How's everyone?

Thanks dude. Feels a bit better seeing so many others in a similar situation as me. I wonder if there's a Super LDR club though...my heart is in Korea *lol/sigh*

And man it's real tough...

Yes. Yes. Working.

Thank goodness for the new KBS World channel. I can pick up on more words now

Haiz. Don't wanna listen to depressing songs ler. Last night met up with a friend of mine, he said dun bother with LDR; won't work out one.

Then I felt like telling him that extra-marital affairs don't work out either...coz he was involved in one.

Wow he really doesn't appreciate the relationship. I respect you for being persistent despite all those harsh words. Most guys would give up at "Let's just be friends".

An update. My LDR is over after 3 months. She had lost the feel after a month or so. But I tried to push on. Finally the truth is out. I'm quite relieved and thankful she's the straightforward and mature sort, otherwise I'd be in some limbo of decisions. So, time to move on...

Anyway, thanks for all the support and kind words!

This has little to do with race at the moment.

Now you're talking about an LDR over an online game? I know there are success stories out there but it's as common as 21yr old self-made millionaires.

Besides, you like her over a photo and based on what she types online? C'mon. You don't even know if you like her true person. And a photo can be misleading. What if you meet her and she doesn't reach your expectations?

Let's just do a little post-mortem on her reactions:-

"My phone is busted so I can't give you my phone number"
- What kind of lame excuse is that? This is such a blatant cover line. Clearly she doesn't want to give her no to a stranger she hasn't even met. Guys already have difficulty getting phone numbers in real life, so your expectations are too high.

"Shy, secretive and forgetful"
- Cover personality. If she really liked you, you'll be talking about where you can both hang out once you reach S'pore.

My advice? Turn off the PC, go out and mingle in real life.

Try not to think so negative. This kind of thing varies from case to case. The most important ingredients of course is constant communication and that you have each other in your future plans. Such was not my case.

But I'm not too sad. Feel somewhat liberated. Uncertainty is worse than rejection.