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QUOTE(Project_Engineer @ Mar 5 2018, 09:20 AM)
Thank you for the sharing. My gf is christian (faithful, but not very hard-core type) and i am a free-thinker/atheist. I am ok to do the marriage in christian-style in the future (marriage being held in church), after all i don't really mind any marriage customs; but I hardly see myself to be a christian.
A question: can a guy who is not a christian marry a christian girl in the church and say "i ok, i steady" after the pastor say the infamous "Wilt thou have this woman to thy wedded wife, to live together after God’s ordinance in the holy estate of Matrimony? Wilt thou love her, comfort her, honour, and keep her, in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all other, keep thee only unto her, so long as ye both shall live?"
Everyone can get married regardless of religion but if you want to get married in a church then both of you have to be Christian. It's something like, if you want to use the gym facilities in Fitness First, you have to be a member, you cannot just use it because your bro is a member there.
Crude understanding but it's easier for you to digest.
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QUOTE(MakNok @ Mar 5 2018, 12:25 PM)
ok..like this
ask your boyfriend to convert to buddhist instead...bring him to temple.
see if your boyfriend willing or not for out of love.....
so far i rarely see Buddhist say other must convert so that they can get married.
it mostly and always happen to christian..
then why the huhuhaha over Muslim when doing the same thing?

you'd be surprised actually there is, just that people make less of an issue out of it. the lack of "ceremony" for conversion to Buddhism also plays a part. You don't need to go through the big hoo-haa just to convert, you just... convert.
also, the fact that adopting Christianity takes away a lot of traditional Chinese practices really emphasize its "bad reputation".
...and we all know why the "huhuhaha" whenever it has something to do with Islam (not Muslim).
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QUOTE(yungkit14 @ Mar 5 2018, 01:54 PM)
you wait when funeral time ,then the needle starts in

you don't need to wait until someone dies, if the family accepts you who you are during marriage. high chances are that they won't make a scene when someone dear to them die.
you think they want to create a soap opera at a funeral?
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QUOTE(Project_Engineer @ Mar 5 2018, 02:16 PM)
getting married in churches has a larger connotations than what the public perceived it to be (not just wear white, wedding bells and those things you see in movies).
it symbolizes a blessing from God. there is a verse in the Bible which speaks of "do not be yoked with unbelievers" hence, spiritually speaking, God cannot bless a marriage of 2 individuals of 2 different religion and if the pastor endorses that marriage then it's blasphemy and God basically contradicts Himself.
the pastor can ask any questions he wants and he still can stand witness to a wedding ceremony and issue a valid marriage certificate, no problem but it defeats the purpose. why would you want to go a Spanish restaurant and order a plate of Carbonara?
believe it or not, you are issued by the church who baptised you, a certificate to indicate that you have been baptized XD
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QUOTE(Project_Engineer @ Mar 5 2018, 02:19 PM)
hmm what will happen during funeral for non-christian husband and christian wife? let say during funeral the son need to take candle and pay respect to the passed-away, but the son already converted to christian during the marriage. then cannot take candle. this is a very sad scenario.
I think we have previously embarked on this issue before and a rather "heated" argument ensued with no parties agreeing.
the TL:DR version is that:-
1) the parents would have been informed if the child converted;
2) if the parents did not objected then basically they would have understand the repercussion;
3) being a Christian doesn't mean you forgo "filial piety", you can still pay respect, just not by offering "candle sticks" to the dead;
4) most of the time, judgmental eyes are from the public but why would we be bothered with the public when who you really need to care for are your family members;
5) at the end of the day, as long as you treat your parents right when they are still alive, there is no need to be ashamed or sadden because you are unable to offer candle sticks to them when they are no longer around; and
6) it is better for them to feel the warmth of your love when they are alive rather than assumed they felt it after they turned cold.
at the end of the day, no agreement was a achieved because some people emphasized that what you did after death is equally as important so yeah.
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QUOTE(Yggdrasil @ Mar 5 2018, 09:03 PM)
To be married in church usually you either one of them has to be Christian. Christians generally oppose mix marriages but Catholic Christians have been more open to it. They have been allowing a marriage between a Catholic and non-Catholic (athiest, Buddhist, Muslim etc) but it has to be consented by the local bishop. The condition is that the non-Catholic partner has to agree to try his/her best to allow and raise the children in church and must not oppose the religion. But the mass is also non-sacramental and a full mass will not be held on the wedding day. It is only a wedding ceremony.
If you are not baptised, you are not considered Christian. Usually the pastor will not allow mix marriages but this differs according to the church and denomination.
When a person is baptised, they receive a baptismal certificate which is proof that one is Christian. I heard that the Vatican has a complete list of the names of all Catholics around the world.
this is the first time I heard that Catholics are allowed marriage in the church of 2 individuals of different religion o_O!
the Vatican has so many things in their archives

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QUOTE(Project_Engineer @ Mar 5 2018, 09:51 PM)
true that. that's why i am willing to convert in (to hold the marriage in church) and convert back after that.
you must be crazy taking religion as a club membership

by doing so, you are not only lying to yourself and also to whoever you aimed at. starting a lifelong relationship based on a lie D:
honestly, i think this is worst than converting to Satanism.
This post has been edited by shaniandras2787: Mar 6 2018, 11:27 AM