My bf at earlier age 30, he having pre ejaculation problem. This making our relationship getting worst day by day. He has been seeing Doctor, problem not solving after taken the medicine. We are getting apart. Im stress to make love with him. It is suffering when after foreplay but couldn't go further more. He is stress too. Many times we are trying but fail , we are not happy, disappointed & keep quiet to each other. Make love is a sweet, sexy hot & romance bed activities for a couple. It is essential in a couple / marriage life. Don't you think so? 😢😢😢 What should I do?

Ask him to masturbate before making love or take medication. Second round usually takes a lil bit of effort, so he can last longer...hopefully.

hmm

healthy life style will help. regulate diet and more execise will help recover slowly

No need to masterbate...go for 2 rounds or more. U can take it..he has to learned to deliver more than one round.

He should also get you to orgasm first before actual penetration...unless you said your BF's PE problem is that he already ejaculated even before penetration.

Even if he already ejaculated, dun say GAME OVER....go clean up and continue again. If you get sluttier, he will be aroused again. Dun show disappointment. Work together.

Itu pun nak kena ajar ke?

This post has been edited by crewmy: Oct 15 2015, 08:33 AM

normally how many pumps before he ejaculate?

check your mail. thx....

eat telor ayam kampong for energy....

there is always 2nd,3rd and so forth round... dont give up...kipidap. is he a newbie?

Yes. He ejaculated before penetration. He said my moan when he bj me make him cum 😣 we tried second round, his dick can't stand.

Yup.. Newbie.. Im his first.. Newbie will have this problem always?

u both guys?

Yup.. He tried both. Problem he can't get hard again after first.

magic tissue or gambir serawak can help....

Sometimes none. It may 1 or 2 sometimes

2 pumps and he's out .
my dear, thats a very serious issue ....

what do u mean none? he just ejaculate without any stroking done?

Sometimes none. Sometimes 1,2

Yup. Before stroking. It may flow out b4 enter.

go to gym, have some workout, it really makes a difference.

Tell him to think about other things than sex when you give bj then he can last longer

agree, exercise plus some workout can make things different.
there is a also some medication indicated for premature ejaculation, seek doctor for help

Just go an see a doctor la.

Asking help from here won't help.

Just to ask, your BF a virgin ?

hmmm.. even if he is. it doesn't make sense bcos he can't recover in short time.
how long he need to recover? half an hour?
half an hour can foreplay a lot to the next round

does he exercise? cycle? gym? do push-ups?

Woah, can't even last before penetration? I think it's all in the mind. He have to relax and take it slowly when making love. When you foreplay with him, remind him to take deep breath and clear his mind. REMEMBER, DEEP BREATH HELPS A LOT. And also don't pressure him and make him feel bad about his condition. Assure him that it's ok and you will be rewarded once he learn to control. Lastly, like everyone else suggest, make him to some exercise to release some tension. Good luck.

yes. newbie always have this kind of premature eject. but as time goes by, things will get better. give him energy bar to keep up the performance. good luck yea. just dont give up in your relationship for this silly thing... that can be solved... take your time.. watch prawn

Half an hour may can't recover. It may take longer time. Imagine that the engine warm up & force to cold down wait another round to reheat again. May lost interested & no mood.

Yup exercise. Running

You both guy??

He must be too stressed thinking about this all the time. Stop thinking too much negative stuff and be more positive minded. Things will eventually happen naturally.

Plus, I suspect he is too sensitive to you (your touch, sound etc). So gotta train up on his resistance and endurance skills.

Go see a Doctor/Consultant for professional help and counselling. If he doesn't get this thing fixed, things will get very bad for him in the long run.

i have same prob as ur bf. premature ajaculation because i never
see women body... their body dazzling for my eyes.

so what i do is, i tried to masturbate in duration of 1,2,5,10,15 min in order. the longer the period to cum is better.

klu hari2 got some effect, erectile dysfunctions. please avoid it by not doing everyday. so make it got a day or 2 off from masturbate.

im doing it for a year. now i can get even 45 min for full course of sex intercourse...

tell him to stop watching porn.

is he ok before this then suddenly PE? or PE all the while?

Let him rest a while like 15-20 min and try again.....it take practice and both side must practice daily...

Maybe he can try to control to hold it while watching Porrn for twice a week? - Practice make perfect.

wow. how long you guys been making out?

only a guy will compare this to an engine you trap you

My suggestion do daily or 3-5 a week...

Training make it well.....

Unless he tension with work

did he get too excited about doing it with you that caused him to eject early?

or your skill is too good that he's not able to hold it any longer

there are some free exercise/activity on the internet that can help on this kind of symptom

Yes. Not touch any & wet his underwear.

I not doing anything something not even touch.

At first second time was ok but it was long time ago, can't recall back well. After that, thing go worst.

advice to Doctor lately. The medicine Doctor given not much effect. If he take the medicine, it may delay his ejaculate to 1 or 2 pump only. If not take the medicine, it is totally cum b4 penetrate.

Tq for useful advice

Having PE problem in a relationship may cause a lot of damages. I understand you, TS. It's essential that every couple should have a fulfilled and satisfied Intimate relationship. How long have this been going on? 1 month? 6 months? I think you should suggest your boyfriend to masturbate every day to control his duration of orgasm. Practice everyday e.g. today, try to masturbate 1 minutes. 2nd day, 2 minutes. 3rd day, 3 minutes. Until he is able to last his cumshot until 5 minutes or more. Later then he goes into real sex with you. Be supportive to him.

In my case, it's the other way round. Before being in a relationship, I had been single for 2 years. And over the past two years i had been masturbating like mad, downloading different porns(JAV) everyday until I can't find excitement in real sex. When I was engaged in real sex, I can't get orgasm but self-masturbate. Sometimes the sex session lasted 40 minutes, still I didn't ejaculate. My gf turned exhausted and started to think that whether she is not attractive to me. It took me 1 month to adjust such excitement of my sexual desire until I'm able to get myself orgasm within 20mins.

Everyone has sex problems. Give him a chance.

Someday when he is able prolong the sex session to 1 hour, U'll regret.

This post has been edited by beahappyman: Oct 15 2015, 02:10 PM

Did you consult a legit doctor?

Pretty sure after a dose of some legal drugs which I am not allowed to type here, I don't think anyone will cum after 2 pumps

the first few times ok maybe is too nervous also.
some guy, when nervous, cant even get it to stand up, but for some, they can stand but takes a long time to shoot.
so maybe the first few times, he is nervous until take long time to shoot. now he is more comfortable, his weakness in tahan lama shown.

my friend (male) already got 1 baby, but just recently he confessed to me that he also start to PE, like maybe 30secs or less shoot already.

possible that he may not interested to have sex.
so just choose to shoot it fast then no need to continue.
try talk with him if that so.

This post has been edited by jackal75: Oct 15 2015, 03:02 PM

walao, I don't know got such thing .... without even touching, already done .....

got. maybe you never heard of it because most ppl that encounter it is too shy to tell it around.

yeah, but I don't agree on how this thing should affect their relationship ....

Maybe he just love you too much ..

Happenes to me when the girl im doing with , i sayang her a lot .


Sometimes , when i bang girls i dont find so attractive , can last for hours.

For you maybe not.
But didn't TS already tell why it affecting their relationship.

Happy to heard you can adjust urself flexible as you want & it is work on you. My bf did masturbate & he told me it can last longer b4 he cum. But when come to real sex, he said it is too warm inside & he lost control in 1, 2 second.

did you cum a lot when he go in?
sometime, too dry can cause him uncomfortable.
can try consider put on some lubricant.

hmm, use condom?

few technique

1) jelqing - like squeeze cow nipple to force the milk out
this is done with the shaft partially harden
2) consume health drink like tongkat ali or bazi alcohol to increase blood flow
3) do more physical activity
4) stimulate more on the head with either listerine or toothpaste, so when intercourse it wont be so much stimulated
5) when intercourse, try do and stop to prolong the duration

Is he uncircumcised?

If yes, I would suggest him to go for circumcision. It will reduce its sensitivity.

After all, he can last the sex session longer.

This post has been edited by beahappyman: Oct 15 2015, 03:54 PM

he climaks upon ejecualtion or not climak

if climak upon 3 stroke when eject, its fast climaks, not PE

use gambir to reduce the sensation. apply a bit at penis head 30 minute before sex.
ask him eat one or two skyfruit seed 30minute before sex.i think he could easily go for round 2

from my experience, normal for newbie. Be patient.

Certain posture can help him last longer.

Im not sure if this will work because I do not have PE. I am looking at this to enhance performance in terms of recovery time. Maybe it will help. You have to try anything now.

https://forum.lowyat.net/topic/3481799

Or, look for perfomax by durex. They don't sell it locally here. They have it in Thai for sure.

Or, you can always look for me if all those can't help. I will help to take away some of the sexual tension you have now.

You joined today just to ask this?

This post has been edited by lingleeyen: Oct 15 2015, 04:07 PM

hmmm, maybe first round, you just forgo it. Then when second round, wear a lingerie and act slutty to make him stand. I am sure he will stand but wont shoot that fast

How long have you tried for the 2nd round? It wont be hard immediately, but give it 5-15 minutes and it should be able to be hard again.

Other than that, the best way is for him to do his own solo endurance training.

magic tissue

main selalu boleh baik

for newbie is like that
need practise more.. wear condom so can last longer
when you moan, try nt to moan out or dont moan to loud
so your bf wont feel too high
as for 2nd round, watch porn together while waiting for him to hard again

I was just thinking this. Wtf is PE?

Mayb u too pretty or hot. Try wear a mask.

Masturbate first or viagra

Need time geh. Ask him play more la

5-15 minutes huh? u r making me jealous

does he have the same problem when watching porn on his own?

eat more tomatoes, stop drink coke and pepsi, consume more chicken eggs (2 biji per day), eat any foods contained vitamin E...

masturbation helps. it helps make his thing less sensitive, lasts longer and good for his prostrate glands.

on the other hand, he can make use of his tongue and finger to give you pleasure beyond your wildest dreams. he can make you cum like there's no tomorrow and ovaries explode.

try it, teach him the tongue tornado.

ask him do endurance training. fap till want to ejaculate stop, fap stop fap stop fap stop.
just to get him familiarize of self control.
half hour also no problem after that

ask him do endurance training. fap till want to ejaculate stop, fap stop fap stop fap stop.
just to get him familiarize of self control.
half hour also no problem after that

Most of the people here recommend 2nd round but it does not work this way unless the guy hormone is very strong. The moment is shoot, the chance of going up again is very difficult.

Best is jerk him out in the morning. By evening, it will be very difficult to come again because the body cannot replenish the bullet so fast. If still come fast, then try jerk him out in the afternoon.

The key is to unload him once in the morning, but let his hormone build up again in the evening. Because his hormone has recovered but his body has not replenish the bullet, for sure he can last longer.

Therebsome natural supplement/food u suggest to him.

tongkat ali and Queen Termites will enhance the longer period.

Queen termites u need go into palm oil field to search it

Firstly, don't give sex more credit than it deserves. Though it may play an important role for couples to bond, it may not necessarily be "essential". Most couples break up on the basis that they have sex lesser than before. The frequency of sex is determined by many factors. For example, can you claim that a 60 year old couple love each other less just because they probably have sex once a year or maybe none? Brush that off your mind then you're set to advise on your relationship because little that you know, your boyfriend may be under stress because he knows you have expectations on it.

If you think doctors aren't helping him then the problem may be with you OR you are the only person that could help him. Instead of letting him take control of the situation, why not you take control of the situation?

Preventing fast and deep penetrations will greatly reduce the sensation of cumming. You will not notice a vast difference with just a few sessions but you'll definitely see an improvements. Sex means penetration but penetration doesn't mean you need to constantly penetrate.

You're the female, i'm sure you are better in this field.

Ask him to buy a thicker condom. That will help greatly too and ask him to wipe off those pornographic scenes that he sees when having sex with you because those are what arouses him.

Either he's super sensitive or you're just too damn good in giving blowjobs but either way, you're in control of the blowjob. Pay attention to his face and his inner thigh muscles. You'll know when he's about to cum, stop it.

Only a few is blessed with the ability of going for a second round in such a short period of resting time unless that men has been deprived of any form of sex for 3 months, at least. Then, his first round would be a quickie and then the period prolongs thereafter.

Newbie has nothing to do with PE. PE is the state of mind controlling ejaculation. If you're constantly thinking of things that makes you high and reflecting on erotic images that arouses you then you're finished. The biggest problem with newbie is their fear of cumming IN the female. That fear in fact will actually make cumming harder.

By the way, you should ask him if he masturbates. If yes then how long before he cums? Every men has fetishes, ask him what's his then try to avoid mimicking his fetish. Try to shut him off the things that arouses him.

Is your boyfriend circumcised?

the more he stress, the more he can't perform.

My friend says kangaroo extract is good for little brother. Natural ubat kuat

Just relax, stress can't get what you want.

tq for the quote

TS meaning?

dont have dry problem all the while.

he get both also. when situation better is fast climax, else would be PE

nope. 5-15 mins cant get hard also. it may hard when bj but when stop bj, very fast soft back.

See a doctor and ask them to prescribe prilegy pills.

sometime i get lost in my life. Couple argue, they have intimate to get better & closer back. But me is the opposite way. Intimate make us argue & make us apart.

https://www.pegym.com/penis-exercises/last-longer-in-bed
this page can help u
it's completed

thanks a lot for ur helpful advice. if masturbates, how long before cums is the ideal time hold? He not circumcised.

Circumcise or uncircumcise has no big difference i think. before circumcised, i never have had sex. Now circumcised, sometimes can last >10 mins first round. Sometimes she was on top of me, 1~2 minutes already finished. It's all the state in mind.
When I feel stressed, couldn't perform=faster gaodim.

Try to look him into his eyes, lots of kisses and small dirty talk when having sex, can help. It's just my POV

Masturbate is always faster than real sex. Masturbate will not help at all in his case. He need to learn how to control the timing.

Try stop having foreplay. Foreplay will on excite him more. Do not touch his small brother.

Ask him to withdraw the moment he coming. Everybody can withdraw and valve will just close the moment he withdraw. Rinse and repeat. Eventually he will learn how to control.

If no touching or no friction and yet he come, then he need to see the doctor.

Sometimes when withdraw after few strokes, or simply stop inside, it would ruin the excitement
Women need constant strokes to achieve orgasm.

Why not grab a Fleshlight stamina training unit? It actually does help. I can last damn long after using that.

This post has been edited by xelium: Oct 16 2015, 12:58 AM

my bro used to have this issue,

i asked him to masturbate 3 times a day for 6 months

now he got new problem, always hard but can never ejaculate until his gf almost die of orgasm.

not sure if this is a good news or bad news.

try more bj on him. it will de-sensitized in long term.

few things i wanna point out here...

1. Unwanted Pregnancy - Even if u do get to hv all the thrusting action, due to his "ability" to cum fast, he might actually come inside u by accident and causing u pregnant...ever thought of doing foreplay then fingering u till u cum instead? (dun ask how. got minor here. go google urself)

2. what kind of doctor is he seeking? Premature ejaculation can be caused by several factors, which is divided into two:

-health issue - unfit physically, lack of control, lack of stamina, etc...
-mental/ psychology issue- low self esteem , performance issue, stress, etc...

3. understand that a lot breakups are caused by this issue also, we all know u are stressed due to this, but if possible dun stress the guy or blame him. it will eventually make matters worse. Guys who hv this issue will eventually hv lacking self confidence.

if u truly love him and would like to continue on with this relationship, pls be patient as this will take some time to recover. using tongkat ali /etc medicine may work, but long time consumption will leave side effects for sure...nothing can beat doing it the natural way.

-just my 2 cents.

This calls for Gambir Jantan!