https://www.drwealth.com/2015/05/06/your-pe...g-angpow-rates/

so i can stop giving ang pow and call it a tradition?

thats an inviting thought.

not about simply go people kenduri bcos its free... buy a gift can cost more than the physical money im going to give them.... just dont like to give money physically lar.... malay kenduri they wont ask for angpow and their tradisi wont say datang mesti kasi angpow... meaning this is real wedding... what they want is ur blessing to them... u wanna give angpow or gift suka hati, and u didnt bring anything over also they wont cucuk belakang... get it ar.... not talking about want to eat free... eat only what so big deal, athome also can eat why must go other people place eat free... the point is chinese wedding 99% u give ang pow little we cucuk ur belakang and maybe some unnecessary problem will arise...

you guys should also look the bright side of these wedding dinners;
its a great place to meet singles (my friend met wife there)
and usually the girls spend the whole afternoon if not the entire day preping themselves for the dinner

not no face problem... she asked so i just ok.... im those type that rarely say no .... so ok my salah la next time people ask i say no more....

u actually can,...it's not a rule written in stone,.. what will the host do ??

This post has been edited by Special Agent: Oct 15 2015, 04:25 PM

syukur lah dpt rm50. From experience, meleis kawan n yindian kawan give around rm10 only. Unless they datuk/datin, then they really give big big

no I'm following a new tradition, of not giving ang pow, i find chinese weddings too materialistic and selfish

I'm sure the other guys who critiqued chinese weddings being materialistic would agree somewhat with me



on another note you sound very familiar

gift melei colleague RM100 damn happy dia

actually no need to argue, end of day if you not willing to give just dont give
if you give because of face problem, then have to blame yourself not the one invited

you got choices, and you decided it
1. reject invitation 2. give amount you willing to 3. follow rate 4. give nothing

you guys are spoiling teh fun lol

malay wedding, we meraikan pengantin
not share cost with pengantin

this one let me think first... need sometime...

wow..pity those mat salleh..no wonder they're did not achieved much...owai..cavemen thinking...

The reason why the guests have to give RM100 for one person to attend a chinese wedding dinner is due to FACE VALUE.

If the guest give RM50, then he/she is scared people will criticize him/her.

In order not to lose face, therefore give more.

The more you give, the better you can protect your face.

Chinese people are always scared to lose face.

This is the BIGGEST WEAKNESS in Chinese.

This post has been edited by CoffeeDude: Oct 15 2015, 04:32 PM

its his choice to rant, its not a law to stop him from doing so

this is just like people who vote BN still praise BN. So meaning u dont want to have a change in this ang pow thingy... to u its good....giving money away feels good...ok get it...

so meaning its just people make this thing up la not a must? ok i give rm50 only then...

Sound like a "tongkat" .

I dont think the origin of this culture people give angpow to pay the bride wedding.

They no hardwork until cant afford and force people to pay money.


The name angpow also have nothing to do to pay the dinner?

My friend wedding, that time we all student, he graduate so invite us for wedding, none of us brought gift or anything, and they layan us like we the king there. But chinese wedding, kanasai so demanding.

girls usually transform that day lol, more power than transformer/supersaiyan

next time not close friend just reject la, unless you think they are worth your blessing
going to these kind of occasions is wasting time in my opinion, i prefer to sleep at home
those "normal friend" if you got trouble most of them wont help you oso

imagine if you want to pinjam RM10K, imagine if he is willing drive you to clinic in case of emergency at 3am, if you think he will then go he is worth
for those i go i am willing to give at much as i can afford, it is a token to show my gratitude toward our friendship or relationship, not about money at all