Keep calm and move on. Life still goes on
Dwelling on things that I can't change is just a waste of time, look forward to good things is the way I guess

That is the way.

I always believed: "Do the best in the things you can control. For those you can't control, no point worrying anyways."

Oh dear.

So sorry to hear that. That is actually quite bad. Is your husband a mummy's boy type of person? If he is, I hope that you and mainly your husband can talk to his mother and do something to make her accept and bless your marriage. I am sorry to say that according to some studies people have made, mother in laws are some of the root problem of a broken marriage and also can lead to a divorce. Especially if the man is the mummy's boy type. Unless you are both planning to move out and neglecting her which is also cruel.

But I hope that eventually your mother in law will slowly brain in the idea that she is not losing her son but gaining a daughter. Very strange because mostly is the girls side parents who would feel like this. Not the man's side.

Just my personal opinion. Cheers and we wish you a wonderful and blessed marriage ahead.....

He's not actually, just that he gave in too much previously out of pity and planting in the perception that was done is more of what she 'deserve'. And how this came about is that, she's highly dependable aka can't drive and rarely goes out to speak with others even around the housing area. Even purchasing groceries and paying bill, all sorts of misc stuffs is dependent on my hubby who's working full time.

I'm aware of that, and I've told my hubby that such situation have created 99% of the arguments between us. We have a place nearby, that's the whole purpose actually for buying a place that's only 5mins away. Knowing that living together will eventually create a war, which put my hubby in a difficult position. Imagine, I was told off last time for helping to cleanup "You have never sweep or mop a floor before?" or I get penalised for painting but forgotten to clean up a bench.

Did spoke to her, but she's those kind that would think that the world revolves around her..
In this case she will use myths or superstitious to prevent the son to get married by saying that my zodiac is 'larger' and I'll 'eat' him up and it's best that I do it after 3-4 years then it would be safe (which means I'm 33-34) and gave typical example that other couples ended up in divorce or dead (wtf).

And my hubby is not earning enough, it's better if he's a CEO and marry me then. Funny, we both earn a 5 digit nett combined income, just that his expenses is so great that he needs to pay for everything at his current place now. And why do I need a CEO to be my hubby?

We knew that these were all her excuses that she made up for not willing to let go. And she don't like kids, knowing that once we have kids we will have to commit more time to raise them.

Not any average girl would stand this kind of situation.

Sound very selfish. And I think you and your hubby knows what is best for both of you. You don't have to listen to all the negative thoughts from your mother in law. But that doesn't mean you should not honor and respect her. Anyway I guess I am not in any position to tell you what to do. You understand your situation best and is your choice to choose how to react.

That being said, before we moved way out of topic, hope everything will be alright and wish you will have a wonderful and blessed marriage ahead...... Cheers.....

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Oh my... That's a very unpleasant tale from @princessgalaria. I am terribly sorry to hear about your predicament, but as what you have said, just move on with life. Hey wishing you and your husband a wonderful and blessed married life ahead!

I wouldn't mind, just the Juliet would mind

For my case, is not Juliet mind...is our parents haha, family too big liao.

Nvrm one, as long as they don't kiam siap, you might actually earn from putting up a wedding
hahahha, kidding.

Thank you, but it's something that I can't change..
Felt like there's a heavy burden that's placed on me. I will still do my part if I could but I can't be pleasing every single individual, even though she's my so called MIL whether she acknowledge or not.. things would hv to be reasonable and not just comply blindly due to her own needs and wants which is never ending.

lol...this is not budget. from friend's experience, simple and budget all below 20k or even less

You and I have lots to think about man I feel you

Better to please yourself first before anyone else. It's selfish to do that but it's always better to be comfortable with our own circumstances before we deal with other people's circumstances. It's difficult to put into words, but this was what I was told a year ago. I was helping other so much that I neglect helping myself first.

Hi, somehow I understand your situation. Me and my hubby foot our own bill and angpow we keep. We never disclose to anyone included his parents about whether we earn or lose and how much the amount.. My MIL also roughly the same type or should be my PIL is roughly the same. My FIL knows how to drive but insist to wait my hubby come home and send him. My MIL only know stay at home, if always go out, she will at there complaint to my hubby about me going out too frequently and don't know how to save money..

Then that's ur friend's version. This is the somewhat traditional Chinese style n still being able to keep in such budget

Is budget wedding even possible nowadays?

Since costs of living went up, I was thinking of hiring my own cousins and friends to do photography and videography, some can become emcee, while others can do the bridal makeup and other stuffs.

Why not? There's still a clear line between what's luxurious ie opting for hotel instead of a normal banquet etc.
Also there's premium photographers and those freelance which still on an affordable range.
Also, some things can be DIY or cut them off the list. Just need to plan them out carefully.

I concur. So far, we just want to do a simple wedding, ie, some hotel in Subang Jaya. Photography and videography will be done by my cousins and friends.

Invitation cards by my friend's company, coz he give me "good price."

Entertaintment and emcee duties goes to my friends.

Bride and groom dress from some place in Jalan Ipoh coz its "affordable."

Honeymoon we have decided to go to Italy.

Should have done it before GST.

But nevermind la. Love is eternal and love can wait. Pokai a bit won't hurt (much).