jdreamer i suspect she is trying to be cruel so that i will get anry which will make me hate her making it not so but... but then its just hurting me deeper ... i need to get up again

Suspect is one thing, if its real, its another. Bro, just move on. U need to be strong.

4 years relationship also broke coz of distance problem.....very very hard to maintance.. (3 years ago).....

Mine ended after 4 years too. Looks like its not quite a good year for LDR eh.

well .... gues we all will have to move on.. no matter how deep the cut is...

It's true that we'll need to move on. No matter what will happen in the future, this relationship was being polluted by a third party before, thus it'll never be that pure anymore. No more firm faith or trust will ever be produced anymore. It's better to walk on.

YEAH... jdreamer u are right.... if it was really to happen and get back together then its called faith if not is called played

Life goes on guys and girls. Be strong. If your fate is there, you will find it.

well people that cares.. i have not been eating a lot recently ... 1 meal a day??? and just plain water i see food no mood liau... how arr???? sry to span in this LDR thread

Honestly, I had gone through 4-5 days without food but only water. I lost weight in a short time too. Just to let u know that.. it's normal when u just broke up. I understand the feeling and the situation but well, at least eat to fill ur stomach. Dont torture urself like me. It doesnt worth it afterall.

hahaha yeah its nto worth it but i see food i think about all the times we use to eat together in my house and stuff..... cant eat.. yesterday eating in PJ my tears was come out like bomba

you're not spamming la..Its okay to share ur probs here..

yeah...i agree...
but not all girls....
still majority of girls are like this i think.....

guy oso like this....but then again minority.

This attitude shows that they are only thinking of themselves, being selfish.

i hate it when this happens.....
then will start give lame excuses....dont wanna hurt u more in the future...better break now...
or...
take a time off when LDR....when get back try again...BS
BZ, no time.....spanared....

all reasons....

reli hate it when this happens....


Miyoko....how's everything at work?

miyoko is pretty busy with her work but i think she'll reply tomorrow morning

Hey guys....My girl is from sabah and im from kL...She's coming here this december 4 holiday and yeah we'r goin to meet 4 d 1st time...damn at first i was like soo xcited bout d date...now im freakingly nervous..i dun wanna flop at my 1st date..

Good luck for ur date. And enjoy.

it's absolutely normal to lost appetite after a breakup. i lost my appetite for a few months. see food, no appetite, when i forced myself to eat, i feel vomitty. i'm glad to see that you seems to be doing fine and i'm glad that you know you must eat.

yes, you have absolutely the right to be angry with her. however, let me repeat myself, forgiveness is your road to your recovery. yes, she might sound selfish or she might sound like lying now. however, it's not important to you anymore. what's more important is getting yourself to the road of recovery.

i'm fine, thank you. work is fine too but superly busy. well, dont worry, i'll be able to handle it. i guess, everyone gotta learn on how to handle problems, one way or another.

actually, in my opinion, there is an equal amount of guys & girls who's like that. after all, both guys and girls are human and human are prone to mistake. FORGIVE is vert much needed. dont hold grudge because it's just self-torture.

dont think so negatively, yeah. all the best. how's your trip and work back in Malaysia?

yup, yup, miyoko replying now.

just be yourself, ok? dont be too nervous. everyone have been through first date before. so, just be yourself and enjoy the date and accompany.

This post has been edited by miyoko: Nov 9 2006, 08:53 AM

true...everybody either eats too much...eats less...or dont eat at all.
Summary, our diet gets affected when we broke-up.
i lost 8 kgs after my break-up with my 4 yrs gf (y here a lot break-up after 4 yrs one?)

and i oso couldnt agree more.....
forgiveness is the best way of recovering...healing.
it takes time.....and u cant force it...but dont make an effort to do the opposite, for example...finding more n more reasons for hating ur xgf.
when u can forgive and forget....u can move on...ull feel like a burden is lift off from u.

well...
i still stick to the gurls screwing up more in LDR than guys...and this is still based on the emotional factor.....
maybe its just the gurls around me though.....i see a lot of LDRs ending unsuccessfully bcos the girl side cant handle the loneliness etc.
Then again.....as i said, not all girls.....and these are girls around me oni (my frens, etc)

My work is ok...bz liao.....havent spend time with my girl yet....
i mean like on a date or samting...not yet.

about the 1st date...hmmm.....
from what i read.....she is already ur gf? so...dont need to worry....
just be urself.....u want her to like u bcoz of urself....why wanna be someone else?
if she ends-up not liking u (ur real self) then i dont think it will be a smooth relationship...u cant try to make it work after that...but its gonna be a bumpy road and probability of not ending up together is high oso.

I really feel u man....i met my girl for the 1st time...was so excited and nervous....
She was afraid i wont like her...and im was afraid she wont like me...
but when we look back at it....we laugh....
dont forget...ur already her bf liao...
My point is...just be urself (ur adi her bf or she like u adi for the way u are)
Relax and enjoy the ride.
Good Luck!

This post has been edited by quiksilver: Nov 9 2006, 09:14 AM

Because 4th year is cursed!

really???

dun scared me la...