QUOTE(firewire @ Sep 22 2006, 01:39 AM)
I'm not sure if this works, let her know every friend you got over there, be it guy or girl. How long have you been with her and how old is she at the moment?
yeah....i let her know about my frens...eventhough she never knew them personally...but she met my housemate ald...ive been with her for almost a year now....and she is 22 yrs...
QUOTE(miyoko @ Sep 22 2006, 10:54 AM)
usually, in this kind of situation, it will better if you could change the way your girl think. well, my advice will be, you try to make your point clear saying that you need her trust in order for the relationship to work. because it is really hard to maintain a long distance relationship if there is no trust. you'll eventually get pressured because you will be overly worried that she will think nonsense and lack of trust with you each time you have any outings.
well, in this kind of situation, i will try to make my points clear that i need trust. STERN and CLEAR. well, this is what my dear did lah... hehehe... of course i wasnt checking on him but sometimes, if i just overstep the border, then he would say his point of view and we come to an agreeable solution lorr...
well, i always give 101% of trust to my dear, since the beginning of relationship. and he hasnt violated it even once. so, basically, there's no trust issue between both of us. well, maybe both should work it out together. you play your part to give her more trust and she play her part in being not so suspicious and negative thinking. it has to work in both way. all the best yeah.
thanx...
thats what i did. I told her sternly and strictly, if this is ever gonna workout, we need trust. I need to trust her and she needs to trust me.
We had this TRUST talk before bcoz when I asked her before, with whom did she go out with...she never gave me a straight answer...just some frens she said. I dont wanna accuse her of anything that time...I just wanted to get to know her frens...a way to get to know her better...and be accepted in her colleagues...But she told me she answered like that coz she thinks if she tell me their names is no use, coz i dont know them...
Anyway...my point is...we had the TRUST talk a few times ald....and like u said, i did tell to her about it firmly and sternly. When i go out, i will tell her. If i go out with frens, i will tell her. If there is any girls around, i will tell her. If i have to go out with a girl, i will ask permission from her 1st....I do that not becoz she asked me too...but i feel i wanna do it....
But still...sometimes she will ask me...(if i go out unexpectedly) with whom did i do those activities with? any girls? things like that....
I dont know how to be more honest with her...
And i never cheat on her...
Is this normal for girls to sometimes be afraid and feel insecure?
Sometimes she just provoke me...like..."owh, there are girls with u over there?" and i will tell her la..they are just my juniors, and im not the only guy bla bla...
Is this her way to test me? to convince herself of our relationship? meyakinkan diri sendiri...?
Thanx for ur time Miyoko and Firewire
This post has been edited by quiksilver: Sep 22 2006, 10:13 AM 
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