hey dreamer lots of them will think tat u shd not get back to her but i will say y don't u juz give both of u another chance u had wanted all these all the while... no doubt she's been selfish to hurt u n no one can be sure that she will not do this again... but u had alredi gone through the 'hurt' part n u had grew with it... anyhow both of u r still young n at time it mite b to ur 'presence' tat makes her feel lonely... so my advice is y don't u just give a chance to start over a new relationship... who knows tis time both of u will treasure each other more... all the best...

OK...1st of all....dont put ur judgement based on this.
It happened to me before....these "lovely" and "romantic" coincidences.
After i wished for it to happen...a sign etc etc.
But ive learned not to put my sane judgment all based on these so called "fate".

And yeah....when i broke up with my girl...
i can sense if we r gonna meet somewhere....
One day ill feel different...feel strange....
then i'll know...i'll see her accidentally today...
yeah..these thing happens oso....
This is the power of our mind.....our brain...i dont deny it.
But hey man....me and that girl....eventhough i can sense if im gonna see her accidentally (not once but more than a few times...for about 5 years) we never make it as a couple.

She is married.

All i can say...it is kinda sweet, romantic...but...dont put ALL ur judgment base on it.
Good Luck.

Take ur time.

Okie, lets dont talk about this anymore. Im tired.

Haha..you were the one who started this 1 1st..Anyway,happy holidays..

heey people,i don't know where to post this but i think it'll suit here..i guess
i'm kinda trapped in making decision,to be involved in LDR or not.
well,things happen between me and a girl and it's pretty much we wuld be together if we wanted to but the prob is i'm going to KL to study next year.
She's studying form 6 in Ipoh.
Just that,i felt like i'll lose alot of things if i would continue.
and plus,if we're together for a long time already i wouldn't mind about that,but it's not even happening yet.
it's just 2 months away before i'm going to study,and i'm trapped in making decisions.

Nobody can make decisions for you ans tell you what you should do.We can only give advice and when the moment comes,you'll still have to decide for yourself.

my advice is...
go to KL 1st....no need to make unnecessary ties and binds rushingly just becoz u like each other. Take ur time....go to KL.....
after that....ull know what to do.

If ur rushing to make a decision (YES or NO to a relationship) then, i wont say it will be a wise decision.

Love is all about timing.

and one thing for sure....it takes time.
no cincai one.

what is 2, 3 months reevaluating the relationship compared to years of LDR rite?
LDR is not easy.

Dont rush...if she is the one....she will be the one.

Good luck

How true...

Hi everyone... Like you guys, i'm having LDR as well... unfortunately, she asked for a temporarily breakup abt 2 months ago... she said she was suffering... but then i found out from her friend that another guy is chasing her... and acc to my friend, she said that my gal almosted accepted him... i'm so dissapointed... we promised each other that this LDR will be our test, and we both need to work hard to pass this test... i cant believe she pull out first... It's so painful... now, it seems that she's advoiding me as well... acc to her friend, she said that my gf is trying to be fair to me and the other guy by not talking to each other... but i seriously think this is not fair to me... if only she knows how painful it is to miss someone and you cannot see her nor talk to her... to make it worst, there is another guy... my finals is tomorrow, and i still cant concentrate in my studies... i'm coming back in 3 weeks to msia... i really dunno how things will turn out... because after 3 months in msia, i will be back in aussie again for a year.... i really hope that we will be together again during that short period of time... but i'm really really scared that it will be the end.... any advise??? btw, LDR since Feb 2006, Aussie to Msia...

u have 3 months to make her fall head over heels about u again.
do it.
and remember to tell her this.
That other guy she likes when ur not around is just a replacement for u.
She doesnt really love him.
she is just alone.lonely and needed u...but ur not physically around.
ask her...wud she leave someone she loves everytime that someone is away and someone else is wooing her?
tell her u understand her feelings.

understand her feelings. Hear what she has to say.
Talk.

U have 3 months.

Good Luck

It's the same for me. She did the same to me but everytime when she goes back to our hometown, she felt that she still loves me. Yea, probably the distance the loneliness. Tell her ur feelings and I hope u'll be successful to earn her back.

God bless u..

Erm ... wanna ask, LDR must be at least how many KM ka ?

anyway, if my case consider as LDR, it's alrd been 2 year + alrd ... this

coming Febuary is our 3rd Year Sweet kekeke

LDR sure is a very hard task that God give to everyone of us in this

forum. But i'm sure of one thing, if you and she / you and he are meant

to be together forever and ever, there will be nthg that can seperate

you two Of course, that doesn't mean both of us can do nothing at all

to maintain this relationship We do accept, sacrifice, being

forgiveness, caring for each other to bound our heart together

I sure that there are many couple outside there enjoying their sweetest

moment in this LDR situation, yet there are some that wasn't meant to

be together, but dear brother and sister, don't gave up, we are all

meant to be together with our own "special one" forever So, be

patient

God Bless ~ Cheer Out ~~~

*Broken English, please forgive me ><" Hope you can understand my language

i know it is because of the loneliness... when i get back, i will definitely persuade her using this point.... part of me wanna hate her for the pain she caused me now... i really wanna replace this feeling with hate... then it'll be easy for me to bear... but i cant... i still love her deeply... prob is, after 3 months, i'll be gone again, and we need to suffer the same thing... she will definitely reject me because of this... tat's why i dunno should i ask her to cont our relationship or not... i really wan to cont the relationship, even though it is for a short time... but wat she thinks is another diff matter... i feel like i'm losing her... i told her that i'll be back and whether will she wait for me at the airport... i got no reply... i don't know wat that means...

i am sorry to hear about ur case brother, but can i beg u for one thing?
Please don't hate her just to ease ur own pain .... don't you love her? Love doesn't consist hate, please don't hate her .... Something that doesn't meant to be together just won't last together .... maybe "the one" for you is waiting some where else? Anyway i still hope you can make the last push to know what is the answer lying deep in her heart about this relationship, because IMHO, what i can see in ur case is she can't give you a clear statement in your both relationship ...

Good luck brother, will pray for you ....


* The above statement is just my humble opinion, it doesn't represent the correct nor wrong fact of love. so please judge yourself *

It's so hard to bear... i dun hate her... i still love her... and i wont give up this relationship so easily... what i need now is a plan to get her back... anyone care to contribute?

She told a friend of ours.. when she's back in our hometown, she has the strong feeling for me but when she's back to KL for studies, the feeling for that guy comes again. What do u guys think about this? Can someone explain?

what my point was...
make her feel guilty.
make her feel guilty of not being loyal when ur not around.

use her guilt to buy her loyalty.

it is kinda a sleazy way...but hey....thats how to do it

hmm... will try it... thats a good idea... thanks..

yeah...remember to tell her the things i told u in my earlier post.
about that guy is just replacement oni.....ur the original...why want a fake one...bla bla bla..
tell her u understand her.....

haha..read my earlier post about this la...


But remember
this thing can backfire.

If she thinks she cannot stand being loyal...
then maybe she'll ask for breakup.

if this happens....if she think she is not capable of being loyal....why bother to hang around anymore? i know u love her...but does she deserve ur love? ur loyalty? i dont think so.

dont let love blind u.

up to you to make her be confident that she can be loyal to u (If u want her)
u have 3 months to sweep her off her feet....and convince her she can be loyal and LDR can work out for u both.

hey...the article in Yahoo says that the success rate of LDR ans SDR are the same.
Dont worry

good luck.

May I have the link to the article?

Okie damn it.. I know why the reason already.. It wasnt because of the stress.. It was because that guy who previously she said she like.. was spannaring. He started courting her since she was there.. and thats why she was kind of touched... or something..

okie fark it.

oh ya, she still told me that she doesnt know whether that guy likes her or not altho she already knew it........

what is all this about?

im the biggest fool

This post has been edited by jdreamer: Oct 25 2006, 02:58 PM