ic... need approval one ah? anyway, how are you doing now? hope that you are fine, yeah...

i'm tired and moody today. yesterday slept too late and woke up too early. the haze is causing me coughing nonstop. a bit of argument with my dear yesterday have cos me more gloomy today. however, dont worry, things are fine. just some argument and both me and him take it lightly. no cold war. we are still communicating as normal.

so sweet... then you must be feeling great emotionally. as for me, i'm sick physically and emotionally.

quiksilver is a good guy lah... the way he talk shows that he really very sayang his gf one lah... well, at least he dare to admit openly to everyone that he miss his gf dearly. so, dont frame him leh...

as for me, feeling bad not because auntie gonna visit. but because if the haze and also the fight. good news is, it's raining now. so hopefully the haze will be gone in no time.

but anyway, i'll still make a good counsel. anyway, i'm just worried cos recently, me and my dear seems to quarrel a lot, after he starts his own business. well, maybe he is too stress and i wasnt controling my temper well myself i just want us to be happy again like we used to be. too much of quarreling will do us no good.

This post has been edited by miyoko: Oct 9 2006, 02:22 PM

me and my dear is coming to 3 years liao. yeah, we are quite a sensible couple. maybe i should find some time to talk with him. usually i'll talk with him when we laze around. dont worry, i think me and my dear should be ok.

oh, suiteng's dear is a she. suiteng, what happen to you?

quiksilver, what course are you doing there in Japan? how long have you been with your gf?

i'm coughing cos of the haze also

suiteng gotta take good care of yourself oh. hope you will recover soon. now that it's raining, i hope the haze would be gone in no time.

This post has been edited by miyoko: Oct 9 2006, 03:39 PM

hello guys. sorry for MIA. i was sick yesterday now recovering. jdreamer, glad to hear that you are moving on well. all the best, yeah.

suiteng, smoking is no good, especially when you have asthma. you wouldnt want jorineb to be worried about you, right? must take care oh.

hmm... maybe a little bit more of the background story between both you and her will help us to give our advice. anyway, i think you should follow your heart. well, your intention is to go Bangkok for holiday, dont let it spoil your holiday. when you are there, find your answer. it doesnt have to be only her doing the decision. what i mean is, even if she found that she wanna be with you, but you think that you dont wanna proceed on, you dont have to just follow to her decision just because she wants to. hope you get my hint.

sorry sorry, double posts. well, things with my dear is ok liao. we had a talk yesterday. glad that things is ok.

This post has been edited by miyoko: Oct 12 2006, 09:23 AM

i dont know how to answer your question. hehehe... actually, you should ask your gf and ask her how she feels with your callings. if she's ok, then just be it lorr... dont worry, just ask her and explain to her that you scared that you'll be disturbing her with too many phone calls. well, basically, once a day is acceptable lah...

my advice is, just be yourself. your gf loves you for who you are.

yeah, you gave me an impression that you are those mushy type of guy. never fail to express out your feelings. this kind of guy is usually sensitive. however, looking from the way you put some of your reply, especially to jdreamer, i also feel that there are some sense of maturity in the way you handles problems. as for being funny, that i dont know lah.

i mean, the way quiksilver reply to your problem shows his maturity. i was talking about quiksilver mah...

anyway, i'm glad that at the age of 18, you handles your problem well. i believe that you are in the good hand of good people. though i'm not a christian, i believe that your faith in Him has made your problem seems lighter.

so, how are you doing now? havent got time to check on your blog. sorry...

This post has been edited by miyoko: Oct 12 2006, 04:22 PM

hi guys, good evening. sorry that i reported in late.

joshua,
quiksilver has pointed out some very important points there. to tell you frankly, me and my dear quarreled a lot lately after he started business. eventually, both me and my dear realized the changes in our relationship and it's unhealthy. so, recently, we had a talk rationally and calmly and the situation is resolved. dont be emotional when you face problem. who said relationship is easy? it's never easy and it's not always rainbows and butterflies. remember the song? --> "it's not always rainbows and butterflies, it's compromise that move us (in this context, relationships) along".

being emotional will not help to solve problem, actually, it will create another bigger problem. dont let your emotion controls your brain, but instead, let your brain control your emotion. in your case, if you find that talking on the phone or face to face will not work for both of you, find another alternative. sms or e-mail, maybe? one benefit of sms and e-mail is that, you can re-read after typing and edit if there's any inappropriates. you see, sometimes, when we are emotional, we tend to says things which hurts our partner or might accidentally says things that triggers to our partner being emotional. the key here is having good communication. absolutely no shouting and blaming each others. when one problem and the cos of the problem is found, your objective will be to work together to solve problem cos both of you is together. not put the blame on another party and let the other party settle it themselves. the key is "TOGETHERNESS". dont blame. when there's a hole in the wall of your house, you dont dig the hole to make it bigger, instead, you work together to close the hole.

points to ponder ---> "Relationship is about giving WITHOUT expecting anything in return".

I found that from the things that you said, you mentioned that only you trying to be patient while she just lose her temper. well, you shouldnt be expecting her to not lose her temper just because you keep your temper (NO EXPECTATION). however, you can be patient and show her through your action that keeping cool and calm and controling temper is the key of solving problem. or i should say ---> set good example, start it from within yourself.

"two wrongs doesnt make a right"

all the best, yeah.

i wish you all the best, yeah.

oh yes, as what Quiksilver said, real relationship is nothing like romantic love movie, drama or novels. i found those things entertaining, but sometimes misleading. hahaha... self-help books are better

This post has been edited by miyoko: Oct 13 2006, 04:29 PM

opps, sorry that my point is long

i'm glad that you understand about the giving without expecting anything in return part. hahaha...

one way is to talk softly to ask her to cool down. say that you dont wanna fight with her. just wanna resolve the problem together with her.

i used to hate man's tears. i used to think that man should be strong and shouldnt cry. however, over the long run and with experience, i realized that man's tears is even more valuable than woman's tears. why? cos man seldom cry but woman, always cry. well, i would definitely heart pain if i see my dear cry, as he would too.

it is absolutely ok for a guy to cry.

i'd prefer guys so show their weaknesses honestly to me, than pretending that they are strong and even worst, pretend to be someone that they are not.

hello everyone, hmm... i seems not to be able to think of anything to post today. mind blank. hahaha... anyway, nice topics you guys have got there. however, i would still say, both guys and girls do cheat also. not just one gender.

i guess it's kind of true because girls tend to be more emotionally attached. i would say...