so am i welcome here?

wah... mandy, dont say until like that leh... not professional leh... still learning and growing (hopefully not sideways). we share experience and opinions and share ups and downs here. ok?

yeah, jdreamer, i, as the professional advisor here, 100% welcome you in this thread.

sy813, dont worry too much... everything will be fine. you've got us here. if you have anything, you are always welcome to share with us here. all the best and have faith!

quiksilver,
from the way you described, it seems like you've done all the you could do. since you are in LDR, there is indeed some limitation to the things that you can do. and when this happens, i guess, both party needs to accept and compromise. well, if she doesnt want you to get all worried about her, maybe she indeed make you less worry by telling you where she goes and things like that. as for you, try to have some trust in her, as in believe her of being capable of taking care of herself. hey, there might be crime here, but doesnt mean Malaysia is so unsafe mah... crime happens everywhere and in every country mah... dont be too over worried, ok?

yeah, i understand that. but since you have even bought him a pepper spray, then i think it's enough liao. well, maybe buy her a personal alarm also?

*miyoko touches wood*
jdreamer,
dont be pesimistic, ok? how are you doing? do take care oh.

losing weight is normal. i lost a lot of weight in the beginning of my break up. however, as you recover and slowly adapt, you'll gain back your weight. dont worry.

depression? hmm... i guess you ought to talk more to your friends and have more outing activities and destress yourself more. dont constrain yourself into remembering about the break up and dont force yourself into forgetting about it. cos the more you try to forget it, the harder it is to let go. because by doing so, you are actually subconsciously reminding yourself to it. try to relax and do more activities that you like, ok? find some new hobby to start off with. you've got all of us here.

what's bipolar disorder? care to explain?

thanks quiksilver. bipolar disorder is kind of scary. sui teng, hope you recover fast fast oh.

no worr... well at times, i do feel helpless lah, but not to the stage of suicidal. i dont dare to suicide, cos it's painful lah... scared!!

jdreamer,
yeah, quiksilver have replied what i wanted to say. it's absolutely normal to lose weight post-breakup. just take your time to recover and eventually, you'll gain back your normal life without her.

well, your sms to her sounds like you are still devastated. anyway, since you have already replied, no point regretting it. now, just stay away from her for some time because every single words that she say hurts you very much. when she call, you can choose to not pick up the phone and when she sms, you can choose to delete without reading it. the is ABSOLUTELY NO OBLIGATION on you to talk with her nor reply her. however, you ABSOLUTELY HAVE AN OBLIGATION to heal yourself. so, if you think contacting with her will not help in your healing process, then by all means, dont contact with her. as for me, i think you should stay away from her for some time, until you heal. because you really do sound very hurt of whatever she say or did. i couldnt understand why she still wanna pour salt to your wound by telling you AGAIN that she like another guy. this, i think is a bit immature. however, things have been done and couldnt turn back. so, just take the pain as a push to let go of her and the relationship. be strong, ok?

you've got us here.

we are kind of like so close with each others, huh? anyway, suiteng, you ganbatte in conquering your bipolar disorder, ok? you've got us here too... long time didnt hear from jorineb. how is she?

yeah, we do have a gathering but a sad case that i couldnt attend it. well, i'm always afraid of pain, so i dont dare to cause any wound on myself one. hahaha...

anyway, quiksilver, i think you only feel like that when you are hopeless, right?

wei... firewire, coming to my place means going to your place lah...

erm... did i just made our relation sounds fishy and complicated? i leave out for you to explain lah... hahaha...

welcome to the thread. mind to feed us with some information?

try not to think so negatively. be optimistic. instead of letting the feeling of hopeless and helpless pull you down, why not use it to make you a better person?

no, you didnt miss anything ah... you always up to date one.

This post has been edited by miyoko: Oct 4 2006, 03:58 PM

wah... talk til kuching festival ah? when is it?

she's just trying to get you to respond to her because she's not use to not having you respond to her.

you absolutely have the right to ask you to not find you for a certain period. and by doing that, it's not that you are being not respectful of her. you ask her politely and tell her that you wanna be left alone at the moment. she should understand that you need time away from her in order for you to let go and she should at least be less selfish to think that by her always contacting you, it will not do you any good. sincerely speaking, she should leave you alone because i believe, she wouldnt be having any trouble letting go as she's found a replacement. now, spare yourself some tortures and try talk to her and ask her not to bother you.

well, if i'm her friend, i might have advised her to leave you alone at the moment. you guys can always be friend after things have calm and cool down and certainly not now.

firewire,
why put my age there lah? simply guess only ah? your own age didnt put pulak. apalah... a girl's age is a secret lah... hehehe...

quiksilver,
girl's age is a secret if they hit thirties. hahaha...

anyway, jdreamer, i'm glad that you are moving ok. i read through your blogs. you seems to be doing fine. keep up the good work.

jdreamer, as what quiksilver said, now is just mix feeling you have post-breakup. i would say, take some time to cool thing off first and when your mind have calm down, then think about it. anyhow, bear in mind that if you guys do get together again, then, it might not be the same already because there's a scar there. so, gotta think whether you can make it to make the scar invisible or not. a broke glass will still have a broken trail even after you try to glue it back. all the best, yeah.

WildChai, welcome to the thread. feel free to post but not spam (quoting mandy).

jdreamer, i read your poem and posted a comment there. dunno why not appearing one