Lately, many people say to keep a simple wedding.
How simple is simple wedding?

As i'm chinese, let make a example of chinese Wedding (sorry, not familiar with malay and indian wedding)

A - Tea Ceremony
B - “jip san leong” (pick the bride)
C - Wedding dinner (Close relative - max to father/mother bro and sis only)
D - Wedding dinner (relative + Friends)
E - ROM Party (Garden Buffet or reception with light food or cocktail)
F - Buffet
G - Honeymoon
H - Pre-Wedding Photo

Case 1
A + C =
A + B + C =
A+ B + D =
A + E + F =
E + F


Which 1 would you all plan to have?

This post has been edited by angelgemini: Jan 6 2014, 03:15 PM

E is compulsory my dear

My simple wedding

Tea Ceremony: planned to be before the wedding dinner
Jip San Leong: As simple as possible, without the silly games
Wedding Dinner: close relative (parents siblings and their immediate family + bride/groom friends only)
ROM: compulsory
Honeymoon: Local destination, not yet plan
Pre-wedding photo: the basic package

Instead of a grand wedding dinner, have a reception with light food/snacks.

just go for honeymoon will do, dont need any dinner. Is just husband and wife.

Just A+E+G , was it fine?

A&E on the same timing.

Can have ROM twice?
Example in Singapore and in Malaysia?

This post has been edited by angelgemini: Jan 6 2014, 03:19 PM

ROM and honeymoon to somewhere nice

All of the above, plus 5 star hotel banquet and honeymoon in Europe.

C & F enough.

but this is one side clapping. should ask gal.

Gal side say better go ROM than travel, nonit mafan

G & H is my choice and favourite...

A+B+C is like bare minimum must have I think

Tea ceremony is giving tea to elders and relatives, traditional families want that

B probably can skip

C - my cousin did that, only families and relatives about 6 tables like that

H - comes in a size and packages, pick moderate one. so what they give 1000 photos? by half day you wont be smiling anymore

personally, I think best is ROM then do a small dinner© then go honeymoon, photos compiles from your honeymoon trip

A & G, if I ever even decide to marry.

i got think before the "C" but my grandmum bro whole family just stay behind my house.
if din call them like to weird.

Do the must - ROM + Tea Ceremony.
Wedding dinner/luncheon optional.

HCG?

A + E (with close family and friends only) + lots of G

Dang... So close.

You need an E to get married la
G anytime also is G to me.

I can do E, just for you

“jip san leong” (pick the bride) - without those stupid/disgusting games Malaysians like
Tea Ceremony
ROM - over here we can have the marriage registry minister booked and perform the ceremony at our decided places church/hotel/wedding boutique/home
wedding dinner only close relative , prefer serving food, but we can do western, serving 6 course meals, individually
Honeymoon
Pre-Wedding Photo, not those traditional gowns/suits THICK MAKE UP type, just ask a passionate photographer best friend to shot very natural, nice pictures

A simple chinese wedding for me
Tea ceremony is a must for chinese family + together with jip san leong (without games) + wedding dinner with close relative and close friend + Pre wedding photo and thats it=))

Without ROM party or buffet.

This post has been edited by lenne: Jan 6 2014, 11:54 PM

A + E + G

i wonder how much will be the cost for Garden ROM + buffet?
was it enough?

most simple wedding i heard is

Just C

and the best i think is to follow all the traditional thing and do all.
at least does not have any regret and 1time only.
i no wan older time wife/husband say can we go photo wedding cos we young din do .

Prefer to felt embarrassed 1 time then twice.

c and/or d with h

Based on the lists of weddings that you have attended, how many of them are actually as simple as described by most of the forummers here i wonder?

As much as i would agree with the fact that keeping it Simple would be the best, but there are so many other factors to take into account when you are actually planning a marriage. Whatever the plan is, you will need to ensure that you please BOTH sides of the family as well and not just you & your future spouse and this is mainly to avoid conflicts in the future.

Budget is all that matters. So if budget allows can do A-Z. If not then just A is totally fine.

Mine will be photos/honeymoon/wedding all overseas. Need to register locally and then only do those. Sweeettt!

Why must ROM party? just register not enough eh?

Yea just register can also. My thinking is that it'll be a 2 in 1, celebrating with close family and friends and registering marriage one shot.

I'm planning for a ROM and distribute nasi lemak and 1 soya bean packet drink to some close relatives and friends invited only lah

Tea Ceremony is to show respect for the elders. so it is important.
Pick the bride is important too unless u want to break the traditiona and ask her to come to your house by taxi or her friends car.
wedding dinner can be family members only if lack of budget. else open to family members and friends. it all also depends on the venue.
ROM is important else the government won't have your record.
No money honeymoon, can go local places.
Pre-wedding photo if on a budget, ask a friend to shoot a few pics for you.

most important, don't get into serious debts just for that a 1 day occasion.

I'll admit I still want some celebration.
So will still do a small garden/beach ROM celebration with good food and beautiful decorations.

Damn.....means need to put this expenses into my budget then

Don't worry about the Budget. When u get married, just invite k/tards and we will give you a generous amg pow to celebrate the end of your single-hood and the beginning of your Life Sentence

my case:
H - Pre-wedding photo
B - Only a group of very close friends got together for this. no games. no relatives. went for ROM
E - ROM lunch with selected close relatives of both side of family, and the earlier close friends.
A - tea ceremony during lunch
G - Honeymoon
D - small wedding dinner for bride side of immediate relatives.

simple enough?
both sides agreed not wanting the hassle of going through the usual stuffs

This post has been edited by tsunade: Jan 10 2014, 04:20 PM

Depends on your future gf ma
Maybe she want to just sign paper and leave for honeymoon.

Fingers cross and hope I find that type of girl

Done all except G.

Advertise that you're single more. I'm sure you'll find her someday.

Private wedding liao. Only invite closest people, totaling at most 20 pax. Then live happily ever after.

We did
C
+ lunch after ROM in nice restaurant
+ dinner with close friends in nice restaurant

simple wedding for me

- normal chinese jip san leong day
- buffet style dinner
- wedding photography

That seems like any other traditional chinese wedding dinner. Doesn't seem simple to me.

guys, since we all on wedding topic, just wanna ask opinion,
1. how much will it take to have a garden wedding? (ala Twilight style..)
2. is it even possible to have this wedding at Kedah area??
3. who can i contact to discuss on this wedding more?

thanks in advance.

But buffet cost lower a lots than dinner at restaurant

say only la make it simple.. when your parents.. ah ma.. ah ku.. ah sam... and your bride's idea add up.. it would not be simple anymore..

A - Tea Ceremony
B - “jip san leong” (pick the bride)
D - Wedding dinner (relative + Friends)
E - ROM Party (Garden Buffet or reception with light food or cocktail)
G - Honeymoon

Mine.. initially was only planning to have a honeymoon saja after rom... now it turned out differently.

Which place you checked? Most which I've gone to them they charge approx rm88 per head count. which isn't cheap at all to be honest.

cilakak later if they troll like in kopitiam ang pow rm2 how?

For me I really truly want it to be simple.. I hate crowds, I hate eating with beautiful clothes on, I hate the hot weather (it is alwayss sunny whenever I attend a wedding), I hate a wedding dress that doesn't absorb sweat, and the labuci and lace and whatnot, it is itchyyyyy.... I hate the shoes too coz my feet is wide, it is dang painful man... why wedding ceremony needs to be so troublesome, sigh...

i did a b d e h

not too bad, had to do it cause im my dad's only son
if no will end up with a b only
haha

i think what they mean by simple wedding is $$
my wife did a good job saving lots

just make an excel file out of your savings vs spending for marry vs other important things you should get for your future(house downpayment) then u can understand

to me, simple wedding only include tea ceremony, wedding reception with close relatives and friends (15 tables or less), pre-wed photos and honeymoon.

hate those silly jip san leong games.

all in 1 time sure very heavy,

i did almost ( going to la for ABCDG) everything in the list

EFH is done 3 year ago..
the balance ABCD going to do this year
and G ahahah depend on budget liau.. probably next year

simple wedding is simple banquet la and pre photoshoot ( that one always cost alot)

If you want the simplest and most effective wedding,

Just do ROM (Registration of Marriage) is enough. That's the only legality that tie both of you as husband and wife.

Others are for show only and need money, you can skip.

This post has been edited by wilstroth: Jan 29 2014, 04:04 PM

do you think can get RM50-RM70 / person for buffet dinner wedding in a hotel?

i cant do in a restaurant because some my friends are muslim.

After discussion between both side.

Finalize to only have A + C + G + H + ROM only.

Honeymoon with backpacking, was it to over?
backpacking 25 days in NZ.

ROM this coming 22 Mar 14.

My Ring ..

Or you can decide to do the ROM then continue same day straight take pre wedding. After 1 or 2 months when your album is ready, arrange for actual day(jip san leong). No games, no fancy car decor, no wedding gown, no diamond ring. Maybe a bouquet of flower. Go in brides room kneel down give flower, put on ring then kiss. Then tea ceremony, then hop in the car for lunch buffet reception with both side parents and friends. Then go for vacation.

But before you decide, will need to consult your you know who first.

Cheers........

who photo you when honeymoon? honeymoon is private and just 2 people lei..

ROM is the most expensive, need at least 50k, beware

Bodoh tu simpan sikit,lain hari boleh pakai lagi

That will be F,G,H

Completed E

Now waiting for G & H in July/Aug.

A & D for next year ba.




A - Tea Ceremony
B - “jip san leong” (pick the bride)
C - Wedding dinner (Close relative - max to father/mother bro and sis only)
D - Wedding dinner (relative + Friends)
E - ROM Party (Garden Buffet or reception with light food or cocktail)
F - Buffet
G - Honeymoon
H - Pre-Wedding Photo

Congratulations!

Thanks.

My ideal one will be ROM Party (around 50 pax) + G in Maldives

samkps

This post has been edited by cheryee: Apr 7 2014, 07:04 AM

Elope is most simple Save the $$ for a nice honeymoon

after H? how come ROM first then H?

cause planning to have my Honeymoon and Pre-wedding photo in NZ.
Book a NZ local photographer.

I means ROM party liao including the dinner liao..

I dun know why women here not include the wedding dinner, I think that's compulsory!!!

My Wife request not to have wedding dinner as well.

Wedding dinner was never compulsory

Good,work within budget ba
You definitely got a winner there

just travel oversea will do, others no

Walau in societies around me, all my friends did the wedding dinner liao and the guests are more than 500 persons..
I am also sick my gf wants to follow her friends to have wedding dinner especially her parents want to show off..if no wedding dinner is shameful..means poorfag.. I also want to have wife like u with no wedding dinner, I myself prefer have good honeymoon than wedding dinner just waste money.

A - Tea Ceremony
B - “jip san leong” (pick the bride)
C - Wedding dinner (Close relative - max to father/mother bro and sis only)
D - Wedding dinner (relative + Friends)
E - ROM Party (Garden Buffet or reception with light food or cocktail)
F - Buffet
G - Honeymoon
H - Pre-Wedding Photo


I hope I can have:

1. ROM at Putrajaya

2. Pre wedding photo

3. Pick the bride + tea ceremony (if can I wanna skip this too but I think it's kinda compulsory for chinese as a respect for the elderly)

4. Buffet at restaurant e.g. Passion Road max 50 pax (I really don't fancy big crowd and non intimate event)

5. Honeymoon

PS: can this be consider as simple?

This post has been edited by LoveMeNot: Apr 7 2014, 02:46 PM

Congrats!!

High society la you. 500+ people.

Some of the pretty well-to-do couples I know, just have a small 5-6 tables dinner at some posh Chinese restaurant for immediately family members only. If I ever get married, that'll do too. How to layan 500+ ppl in one night la. Friends can celebrate on other nights.

Simple liao
My pre wedding most probably will be free
Buffet at some poolside place or golf course,kautim
I'm not gonna skimp on honeymoon

Please no Passion Road.

Why?

Food tak best.

i do not want other people look down on us, so i planned a 26 days NZ honeymoon trip with Pre-wedding photo at there.

Which it can cover all the mouth of the relative that say us poor-fag or cheapskate.

Which consider Travel marriage.

dgaf about ppl's opinion la,janji you and your wife happy,sudah

no la, not high society, just average joe.. generally, they also invite the parents' relative and friends too.. my gf's mother have 11 siblings liao and not include the children etc already 11*2*2= 44. This does not include her parents; friends that she told me around 200. And how about father side? and my father got 9 siblings liao.. at least for relatives are already consist of 200 people. Not include our friends. she said this will be once in our lifetime so this is a must to have.
And the reality, I need to bear the costs 100%, sian..poor and pity me? If cannot do this, have house and car, she will not marry me coz her parents told her these are the requirements to marry her..

This post has been edited by leonhart88: Apr 7 2014, 09:02 PM

In our society have many people tell bad things..my gf and I don't care about people opinion but her parents care so much liao..how?

I also have planned to have honeymoon travel 21 days to Japan,Korea, and China But she told me her mother and her sister also wants to join walau
can I decline her mother to join?

This post has been edited by leonhart88: Apr 7 2014, 09:04 PM

Your society so keng meh? Masuk tabloid ka? Masuk TV ka?
If you're rich and don't mind paying for all then by all means go ahead,if not then tell them to pay for their own side or max you sponsor their 1st 10 tables

Grow a pair off balls la,tell both her mom AND sis should bugger off
Really,draw a f*ckin line for godsakes

This post has been edited by elimi8z: Apr 8 2014, 12:33 AM

Lol if you're bringing your in laws to your honeymoon, I have bad news for you.

I wouldn't mind bringing her sis if she was hot though

Lol. Kesian you. No komen. Hopefully your relationship will turn out well la.

I am not rich yet. If I tell max I sponsor them 1st 10 tables sure got rejected.. Yup, but how to decline? she has scary mother liao. too rigid and very strict.. I even often kena scold by her mother. coz of that I seldom go to her house.

what is the bad news?