i took some of u guys advice and did what i had to do.

I talk less to her and focus my work, I don't show much initiation and didn't give her attention at all.

After few days past, she's been all flirty and talks to me very often and she makes a lot of effort to talk to me, but I just gives her normal answer.

Then recently she asked me why I have been so lansi(action), I guess she sees that I talk less to her and my behavior bother her, I just told her that I have been very stress lately, like work.

Then after tmr, My colleague who knows whats going on to between me and her, only he knows, the rest office colleague don't know. He informed me that she asked about me, the way why I had been so strange toward her.

Today, she's been acting even more strange, she's been mimicking my behavior and my colleague point it out to me. Geez, this woman can't let me move on is it?

Also, whenever I have conversation to her.

Me: so, you and your mom go out la?
Her: what do you think? DATING with my mom?
Me: huh? I don't mean that le..

I was like no need to RUB it in my face one...I really got offended. There are number of time where she disregard my feeling... =/

No idea what i need to do... help?

interesting girl

but guess she's teasing you. but for what reason, no idea.

Plant, try not to totally ignore her. just normal casual interaction is enough. they are sensitive creature anyway.

suggest you continue as normal but once a while hint to her that she's giving signals that bothers YOU. if she play dumb-dumb what signals, then you confront her mildly, saying her signals are as if she's interested with you but you're confused

no harm be upfront once a while too. see her reaction if she's serious to spend time with you and considering to go further, OR she's just plainly like to play/tease you.

Finally got TS update. Sometime going low profile rather than high profile work well. Look like she paying you some attention at least. Keep it up but dont be so cool la all the time. Try talk like a normal fren will do, come out eat together, share stories, etc

how about a confession for the second time? this time you just tell her straight that you're a little in love with her, and if has no intention to accept you, then both of you will just be friends, just normal friends, and you'll move on, look for another suitable one. try doing it during a lunch or dinner, just both of you, where she can't just run away like that..

Well, if you can tahan stay like that, just friendly layan her like the above forumer says until there is moreobvious signs or maybe if you're lucky, she will confessed to you.

If you want to solve it once and for all, confessed the second time, this time states clearly that if she dun want to accept you, you want to move on for good and hence, act the way you act right now to her. Just give her a clear explanation, you don't want to be hurt anymore and can't focus all attention to her anymore as your attention are now shifted to "a new girl". The rest is up to her, either she ask for some time, accept it, or don't want to accept you've done your part, now she must do hers. She can't blame you anymore because you already clear it all up anyway.

Yes you are friendzoned and she thinks you are not good enough for her. All sort of excuses are plain bullcrap I honestly tell you. When you fall for someone, you want that person. So she has no feeling for you that why she says she wants to be single for the rest of her life until she met someone she wants and desires. Move on and get a better girl, you just reach 30s and you can get a better girl at a lot younger age.

this type of age 30s girl. they wont wanna waste time pak toh lovey dovey dy. they look for people to marry dy riao.

no ler, not that desperate

thse girls some of them are mostly probably established/stable (career, financially), so not rushing oso.

at this stage, the dating period could be shorter (1yr perhaps), instead of 2-3 years for younger couples.

1yr, imo, is enough to know the person, the bad and the worse. the personality, habits, behavior, family n friends, etc.

couples at this age range also more willing to share than hiding/secrecy cuz these "games" will prolong the relationship, and they are not willing to waste time doing so

1 year, maybe for you is enough

Continue giving her the cold shoulder treatment, but dont ignore her. As in like dont make her a priority, if you have plan go ahead with it rather than be with her.

Continue doing so until she ask you why you're treating her this way. Then just tell her you're just trying to move on with life (since you already confessed).

Then see what she says.

problem with most of the guys nowdays, they dunno how to kau lui.

True that, most guys when the girl show some slight interest, they already show them all their undercards.

So you must learn how to play the fishing and poker game.

She wants to be single yet not happy when you don't bother abt her, proves that she wants attention n she is yearning fr it since no one will give it other than you, now that you have gained the upper hand find other girls n rub it in her face

According to my colleague, she's doing that because we passed that period and now she thinks I am okay and now we can be friend, however when I pulled back, she got offended, that's what my colleague interpreted it.

Of couse, will keep you update.

From my point of view, no need to confess twice to gives her the satisfaction of validation or stroking her ego. IF she ever confess to me, I think I would think twice before accepting her into my life. Will she bring happiness into my life or will I be the one who needs to constantly validated her ego. I look into mirror and be honest to myself, since she don't have any experience in relationship, I would be the one suffering but the question is.. will she learn how to be in a good relationship, will she sacrifice her work in order to be with me? Relationship needs each other help and create balance, that's what i see in a relationship. I really do not want to be her emotional tampon.

+1 she knows my bad traits and its either my greatest weakness or my greatest traits. It's my temper, this traits of mine either help me to motivate other worker to fear me or people will scare of me but I think i only shows my temper when it is work related cause I am passion on doing my job.

but some people called it confidence.. lol

Tell you a story, bro.. when I was young, I chased a girl for 2 years and the half, I did not get her.. and getting over her took me 1year+.. haha but this is when I was young. lol Have you watched 500 days of summer...?

This post has been edited by Plant: Oct 25 2013, 03:10 PM

I was thinking to do this, but my colleague says that she will never understand why cause she never experience this "move on" thing before. If one cannot understand these feeling, one could only be angry at that person. :-/

That's a high chance that she will says "Why.....?!! I don't understand."

I dunno how to kao lui one.. lol

Yea, she wants my attention! but i really don't want to lower myself to rub it into her face... =/ I feel like I am lowering myself to her level.. isn't that right?

yes you are right, she has been single for so long she has forgotten what its like to be in love and now that she has felt it she wants to get more of it from various sources and also try her luck with a few guys, my suggestion is dont be with her even if she is pretty she os bad news for you, such a girl with so much insecurities in life would have easily dumped you and leave for another guy, she doesnt know how to love a guy and knows only how to play around with the feelings of others , just ignore her, you can get better girls than her, let her have her wish of staying single until her final days

+1 for second time, if no then move on and don't waste time playing courting with such childish wimmin.

Some wimmin loves to play tug with you, like TS's wimmin even in their 30's.

Man up or completely let go. Lowering yourself? Who are you to begin with. You are nothing more than a lowly chimp to be egoistical. Simple Yes or No to a wimmin in your life.


Grab the wimmin or completely let go (be foreveralone keep fapping at /k wimmin drillz and moan to yourself every night being alone in bed).

you need to show her that your market still in high demand, give her the idea that without her u still got alot of girls outside waiting for you. Let her feel that she is just a small potato in your eyes.

With that, she will easily stick back to you. I mean, if she still have interest towards you la. Or else, is even better just let go of her.

No need to think that far yet la dey, just that from your update you seems like kinda getting annoyed with her asking why she acts like that, why can't she let me move on etc2. If you still have some feeling for her, why not go try again but since you seems like not interested in her anymore, either ignore her or if you want, explain your action to her once and then go separate ways. No need to be too nice la, just layan professionally, focus go capture new gal pulak.