As per topic, how do you define successful man?

Who? Her? or me?

her.

This is where you are wrong,  A woman's natural assets are her youth, but his asset is a depreciating asset - i mean youth and looks.  As the woman grows older, her youth and looks will decline and men who are after youth and looks will look else where. Hence, a woman must have some level of certainty before committing herself to a relationship.  What if it does not work out or this dude fails in the rat race.

But do not doubt yourself and always believe in yourself - what makes a man attractive is self confidence.  Hence, the most attractive men are often the married men, cos these men have nothing to lose if the chick does not want them,  Get my drift - don't act desperate.  Be yourself - Be Kind - Be Compassionate - Be Sincere - Be Confident -

Since you're reflecting on yourself, I'll be a little harsh on you so you can set yourself straight. As it stands, you won't be a successful man. If you keep your attitude the way it is, you will never be a successful man. Why? Because you are not defining your own worth. You're asking others what "successful" is, you're asking others to determine your worth.

THAT IS WRONG

Your success is determined by your own life goals. You set it yourself, and you work to achieve it. Everyone's going to have different goals in life, often you might look at someone and think he's successful, but he himself might not think so, because his goals are set much higher. Likewise others might look at someone living a simple life and think he's not successful, but in fact he's happy living the life the way it is.

Ultimately, find out what you want and just work towards it. That will put you on the path to success.

1) If the define "no future" as mean by the bf low ambition, then a lot of guys will be out. As many gals holding high positions nowadays.
Many policies and laws are tailored towards women currently. More women study at universities compared to guys. There is one thread on CC that ask about whether women consider guy education level first before entering the relationship with guy. Ambition is the key here, if the guy does not make plan for future(such as prepare for marriage after in a stable relationship), I wont be surprise gal will dump such guy for other better guy out there. Planning for both gal/guy future together, such as buy house, etc.

2) If the define "no future" as mean by good guys characters such as financial control/saving, then I understand why she dump her bf.
There is a saying that goes "My money is my money, your money is my money." If guy cannot even feed his own other half, what will make the guy able to feed the whole family? The guy does not have to be rich, just good at saving money time and again. Also caring and trust each other. See below for good guys characters.

i guess for guys that are afraid of women cashing in after divorce, dont get married in the first place! it is a modern world, nothing bad about wanting to live a bachelor's life.

i agree about the growing trend of feminism. but how a women takes it is individual. i do not believe i am sacred and i do not believe men are disposable. My father is a man, my brothers are men, my husband is a man and i value them as much as i value my own life.

however i do believe that in certain segments of society women do not have the same bargaining power as a gal like me and they do need some extra protection. By certain segments i mean the poor, where women are brought up without education, without the freedom to choose and without self worth.

my senior (a female) at work once told me for a guy to be succesful, he has to be rich, for a girl to be succesful she has to find the succesful guy.

What about the men who are poor and brought up without education?

Another statement that implies women are prostitutes. I don't know why aren't any women up in arms on this.

It implies that SOME women are no better than prostitutes. I'm not at arms on this because it is true.

There is no such thing as SOME. Its either generally its like that or not like that.

To be frank I have never seen a hot chick that are with a poor loser guy. So I would correct it to 'MOST'.

They do have protection, we are moving towards a less gender bias society. The world is starting to recognise that men too can be victims of domestic violence etc and have started to take action in protecting them. Unfortunately msia is still far behind. But seriously, if u feel so strongly about issues involving men's rights, why dont u join a men's rights NGO to voice out your concerns. After all, pre election is the best time to be heard.

It implies that SOME women are no better than prostitutes. I'm not at arms on this because it is true.

It's not some, it is MOST. Most women will not marry a man who is financially worse off than her.

I don't feel very strongly involving men's rights as I am not a sexist. I do, however, feel very strong AGAINST issues involving women's rights, constantly claiming victimhood for "extra protection", which they don't need because they choose to ignore that men have the same problems too, worse in fact.

What happened if the man is gay? Does he immediately become unworthy even if he's the richest man in the world just because of his sexuality that most likely won't benefit female?