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post Mar 18 2013, 08:09 AM, updated 13y ago

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As per topic, how do you define successful man?

my friend dumped her bf because she think he have no future ... My friend was a "school flower" or prettiest gal back in secondary high, and today she is still pretty and working in CIMB management trainee..

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apparently, my friend dumped him cause he always laze around, couldnt bother to find a job after graduate.... have no idea what he wants or wat to achieve in life other than, enjoying life (like those college kids)... no offence to college kids, cause you are still studying, you do deserve to enjoy life for now....

so yeah, if were my friend, i also will dump him... smile.gif


This post has been edited by siew14: Mar 19 2013, 08:36 PM
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post Mar 18 2013, 06:05 PM

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dear all,

thanks for the strong response..... laugh.gif

the purpose of creating this thread is to reflect my ownself actually..... i m still single and would like to date a chick with brain (like my friend in this thread for example), my belief are so long both of us can clique/click (i dunno how to spell it), can make her happy - not in monetary- then we are good to proceed to next level of relationship.... in fact, seems like I need the another factor, or most important factor, be a succesful person, which i m not for now since i m just a freshie who just started to work in a SME currently... sad.gif

you may say, " please pee and look at yourself in the pee" or who do you think you are or do you deserve this kind of gal? well, i m just prefer and wish to date this kind of chick la.... i bet you do right??? not just me... xD

will provide more detail about my friend later, gona dig her news more... laugh.gif




QUOTE(drcoolz @ Mar 18 2013, 08:23 AM)
Obviously, the girl have a strong future. Management Trainee in CIMB. That's a strong threshold.

I will describe a successful man as in financial stable and have a stable career. Earn a lot or less is just a number. Able to use the money wisely is an important issue. That's what I consider a successful.  Also, able to maintain a good relations with friends and love ones are criteria for a successful man. That's what in my mind
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still live with parents, earn less than you , but trying his best to save money, and climbing up corporate ladder, is that ok with u? or is that consider a guy with good prospect???? not a succesful man yet... laugh.gif

QUOTE(Jimmy Two Times @ Mar 18 2013, 08:46 AM)
Usually, arrogant pretty and beautiful girl will always end up getting old and lonely, with cats (edited as previous statement was too offensive).

I feel sorry for her.
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she felt she deserves better because of her beauty and intellectual.... what you say?

QUOTE(KVReninem @ Mar 18 2013, 08:50 AM)
trainee only, already put high status.

not even fully employed...

If she think she`s that good, prove it.
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CIMB managmenet trainee yo, hard to enter ler.... and yes she is pretty, but sorry no drillz cause abit dangerous...

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post Mar 18 2013, 06:08 PM

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QUOTE(MishimaZ @ Mar 18 2013, 08:51 AM)
A successful man is always the man with deep pockets. But of course, with brains and attitude to keep the money growing and has the balls to kick any female leech out from his life.
Btw ts your friend may dump the man who she perceives as a loser, but any more 'successful' man that knew her case will perceive her as a sperm depositary aka human toilet.
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QUOTE(Beth79 @ Mar 18 2013, 10:05 AM)
i know a few girls like ur friend, think they so great and mighthy, marry money & power so they can show off.  shocking.gif

remind her that flowers have short life spans. she marries for money & status, he marries for her beauty. ten years down the line, when she has wrinkles, cellulite, love handles, spider veins etc, let's see if he still loves her.  whistling.gif
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how is their life now? are they happy with it or they are just faking it? or you have no idea at all???

lets put her situation in your shoe, will u dump your bf if you find him not going to be succesful ? or he is struggling to become succesful, but yet you already accomplished , like can afford to buy a house, earn more than him , etc-etc....

QUOTE(dameun89 @ Mar 18 2013, 11:05 AM)
In all my life I've done really crazy and stupid stuff,however your dear friend just took the crown.. rclxms.gif
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you are a dude isnt it ? rclxub.gif

QUOTE(valsyr @ Mar 18 2013, 11:30 AM)
I hope there's more to the story than that. Maybe they just don't have enough chemistry. If u understand what u need to make u happy and there are other pple out there who can provide better, maybe it's not the worst thing in the world to end rship early. It still doens't sound pleasant.. but even for me sometimes u think love is enough but if after some time u feel like u are doing everything for your partner then it sucks.
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your first impression is that her decision is acceptable?

will update you more after i dig more about her... smile.gif

QUOTE(omgimahero @ Mar 18 2013, 11:58 AM)
CIMB management ah? ok i go find who tongue.gif
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good luck! tongue.gif

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post Mar 18 2013, 06:09 PM

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QUOTE(Ketchum @ Mar 18 2013, 05:02 PM)
1) If the define "no future" as mean by the bf low ambition, then a lot of guys will be out. As many gals holding high positions nowadays.

2) If the define "no future" as mean by good guys characters such as financial control/saving, then I understand why she dump her bf.

My definition of successful man is:
A) Have good stable career and able feed the family, wife, to-be-children(good financial condition, does not have to be rich)
B) 2C(Caring for each other, Compatibility with each other)

Flower will fade with time. As long as both gal/guy care for each other and tolerate, relationship will last.
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder
If the rich guy does not do Donald Trump prenuptial agreement, then it should be good for the woman to enjoy.
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can you please elaborate more for (1) & (2)???

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post Mar 19 2013, 08:59 PM

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updated my first post...




QUOTE(cfa28 @ Mar 18 2013, 06:42 PM)
This is where you are wrong,  A woman's natural assets are her youth, but his asset is a depreciating asset - i mean youth and looks.  As the woman grows older, her youth and looks will decline and men who are after youth and looks will look else where. Hence, a woman must have some level of certainty before committing herself to a relationship.  What if it does not work out or this dude fails in the rat race.

But do not doubt yourself and always believe in yourself - what makes a man attractive is self confidence.  Hence, the most attractive men are often the married men, cos these men have nothing to lose if the chick does not want them,  Get my drift - don't act desperate.  Be yourself - Be Kind - Be Compassionate - Be Sincere - Be Confident -
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thanks.... notworthy.gif

QUOTE(silverhawk @ Mar 18 2013, 11:47 PM)
Since you're reflecting on yourself, I'll be a little harsh on you so you can set yourself straight. As it stands, you won't be a successful man. If you keep your attitude the way it is, you will never be a successful man. Why? Because you are not defining your own worth. You're asking others what "successful" is, you're asking others to determine your worth.

THAT IS WRONG

Your success is determined by your own life goals. You set it yourself, and you work to achieve it. Everyone's going to have different goals in life, often you might look at someone and think he's successful, but he himself might not think so, because his goals are set much higher. Likewise others might look at someone living a simple life and think he's not successful, but in fact he's happy living the life the way it is.

Ultimately, find out what you want and just work towards it. That will put you on the path to success.
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well said... thanks for pointing out, my mind is more clear right now... smile.gif

QUOTE(Ketchum @ Mar 19 2013, 09:47 AM)
1) If the define "no future" as mean by the bf low ambition, then a lot of guys will be out. As many gals holding high positions nowadays.
Many policies and laws are tailored towards women currently. More women study at universities compared to guys. There is one thread on CC that ask about whether women consider guy education level first before entering the relationship with guy. Ambition is the key here, if the guy does not make plan for future(such as prepare for marriage after in a stable relationship), I wont be surprise gal will dump such guy for other better guy out there. Planning for both gal/guy future together, such as buy house, etc.

2) If the define "no future" as mean by good guys characters such as financial control/saving, then I understand why she dump her bf.
There is a saying that goes "My money is my money, your money is my money." If guy cannot even feed his own other half, what will make the guy able to feed the whole family? The guy does not have to be rich, just good at saving money time and again. Also caring and trust each other. See below for good guys characters.
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thanks for elaboration....


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post Mar 24 2013, 06:53 PM

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QUOTE(Beth79 @ Mar 22 2013, 09:31 PM)
Just wondering cos i noob, what is a CIMB trainee training towards? Investment banking? Relationship manager?  hmm.gif
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train the candidate to become a manager ? more or less is like that.... the main thing is not easy to get selected... you need go through assesment center, presentation ,etc-etc..

if you do shortlisted, i would say you have bright future ahead la...


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