QUOTE(gashout @ Oct 14 2023, 03:52 PM)
I offer my input in this situation. I've counseled a female student post spm. Get scholarship for her. After talking for so long, she didn't study. She went to work to help fam.
Valid point..
But Chinese has a saying. Can poor anything but not education.
Parents who guilt trip their kids sacrifice their future just to help out with short term expenses are selfish. Dead selfish.
Rather hang on suffer a bit let your kids study then can help later. Than forever work as factory worker.
Selfish parents in this case.
I get this really. I'm in similar case but I'm glad my parents were gomen servant so my burden ain't that much. But I was really lacking. No money for breakfast, always worried for next semester money etc. And they're irresponsible.
Life is good now.
Many people talk shit about education and university. Don't join these people. It's always safe to have a paper with you, that's the least you should have in today's time.
QUOTE(dwRK @ Oct 14 2023, 04:22 PM)
my kids friend ... malay girl... her parents from young told her its her duty to take care of her special needs elder brother... wtf
my kids share her stories... make my blood boil man... not just selfish but down right cruel... m40 family some more... cb
QUOTE(gashout @ Oct 14 2023, 05:19 PM)
Very selfish. Her future is finished, mostly. 20 30 years down the road, ask uncle kentang for help. Her parents literally destroyed her future.
That's why when I look at uncle kentang stories, i feel very sorry for the kids, I don't feel sad for the adults. There are exceptional cases as well of course. People who somehow got into deep shit and couldn't recover financially..but most I dunno what to say or what to feel. Even been through those period.
Don't poor education. Do whatever you need to get some education, be it paper, knowledge, or a set of skills.
Basically these sums it up...Chinese even poor, knows the importance of education, It's the only way out of poverty. And modern chinese ukur badan sendiri. If can't afford 4 kids, then have 2 kids. Simple. Not simplly fark every night no pakai condom.
I don't have sympathy for people who knows the problem but won't do anything to change the situation and passing their responsibilities to their kids...and the vicious cycle continuous. This is why this country really on Final Destination. Just a matter of WHEN, not IF.