Im going to married soon,
but the price asked from my future mother in law is 10k,

im planning on doing 5k...

any one share with me your experience or any market rate to this?

ini topic best.

well... my experience is that dowry is something the bride-to-be pays to the groom-to-be's family.

You mean bride price ka? If you're a cainis, any repetition/combination/permutation of 8's and 9's and 3's is good.

is that the best you can do without holding anything back?

8-10k is the norm in kl according to what I have heard, but it is certainly open to discussion.

I won't pay a cent.

Seconded

Anything above 3k(the price of an average divorce lawyer) is overprice.

my in-laws didn't take any dowry from me. instead, they gave us RM10K to startup as they think that they're not "selling" their daughter.

their only request was to still allow their daughter to come home to visit them, have a balance family life for both sides of the family (be in-laws and not out-laws) and put God as the center of the new family.

This post has been edited by WWJD: Jan 17 2013, 10:03 AM

Not really,
but i have a family to start up with... i dont want start up with empty pocket...

5k, bcoz i already given more than 50k over 5 years.

I have to pay for wedding.

I have to pay for honey moon.

I have to pay for all the god damn stupid dinners.

I still need to give my bride's family 10k ?

What the f*** for ?

~_~

Free sex is oftentimes more expensive than paid sex

well you try and discuss with your would be waifu to see if can negotiate down a bit or not.
for your case try nego 8,888 or 7,888 or 6,888 maybe?

i got married recently.
12 january 2013.
traditional cainis morning ceremony and dinner.

the "dowry" or "bride monies" that i gave was rm6,888
many years ago when my waifu 's 3rd elder sis got married, the sum paid was like rm6,800 also.

i not much complaints there since the inflation not much.
thank goodness no ask for rm10k +++

me waifu got explain to her mum that i not earning much also.

This post has been edited by Deimos Tel`Arin: Jan 17 2013, 12:11 PM

how about your bride? she is sitting back and relax while you sweat it out to pay for everything?

she told me she need to give her mom also, which means the another 5k she give her mom from her own pocket,

but if she did that, which means all of her saving gave her mom and empty herself... other those wedding dinner , make up , bro and sister money including the red packet everything by me...

really hate this tradition man...

Cainis wedding really waste of money. In the end who benefit? The restaurants, the wedding photographer, the MC you hire, the wedding planner and the wedding dress designer. Its totally a mafia extortion scheme.

If I get married, I just want to drive my future waifu to putrajaya, with family, relatives and friends for the signing ceremony.

No tea ceremony and hell no stupid dinner banquet.

bro,
i have a same thinking with u , but when u really facing this, its totally a different case, you cant control due to
2 family come together...

the wonders of being the son.. you got the name but in return you gotta burn some holes in your wallet.

The rates now for a regular demanding chinese family is 20k..