Cainis wedding really waste of money. In the end who benefit? The restaurants, the wedding photographer, the MC you hire, the wedding planner and the wedding dress designer. Its totally a mafia extortion scheme.

If I get married, I just want to drive my future waifu to putrajaya, with family, relatives and friends for the signing ceremony.

No tea ceremony and hell no stupid dinner banquet.

Thats what my friend's dad did before he got married. He transferred the family home title 50/50 between him and the sister.

25 years later, the marriage gave birth to 2 sons (my friend and his brother), the father suddenly suffer from old age dementia. Now the mother needs money to pay for the 2 son wedding, wants to sell the house. But the sister in law is refusing to sell the house.

because of this happen,
i feel like the girl i know for 3 years suddenly change... really scary...

If you can give that much, just give what you afford. No need make it like trading. Why spoil wedding happiness because of money? Money can earn back, happiness can't?

Dowry is used to buy gold and other accessories for the bride. The property itself will end up becomes the guy. Besides that, it will use to buy wife cake (老婆饼) to all the guests that arrive for the wedding. Renovation for the wife room for the bridegroom to fetch the wife, that room itself will be a place for the couples to rest feet when come back for dinner on special occasion.

The dowry normally not enough to cover it all and the bride's family side will cover the remaining one. Unless the bride's family no need to do anything, no gold, no accessories,  no fetching. The bride goes to the bridegroom's house herself, sit there ignored and waiting to be married. TS, if that happen, better just do the ROM and forget the rest. Marry is just a waste of time and money to TS.