Hi all,

Me n my bf has been together for 9 years, coming 10 years. During our dating, we do have some arguments, but we manage to get back together after 1 or 2 days. Last week, we have a 3 days 'cold war' period. And yesterday he told me he has an affair with his colleague. How's that happen? He went for a drink with this girl, and the girl wanna see the kl view from my bf apartment. There's end up they sex on our bed...YA!!!IS ME and MY BF BED!!!

I said he has changed...n he told he will change it back to my old bf, he is asking me for forgiveness. I told him in 1 condition, I need him to say it clear in front of me n that girl. <------ May I know is this request over? He told he can't do it...n the reason? If I force him to do it, he will hate me.

Guys and girls,
Can anyone tell me what shd I do to comfort myself? I'm totally lost.....

Thanks.

why u want to force him say out loud in front of the girl ?

Bcoz tats how the gal know im his gf.....in fact the gal know my exist, but she still sleep with my bf...is obviously wat she trying to do...

What is the reason for you making this specific request. It's more like you should ask yourself whether are you willing to forgive him in spite of him cheating on you or will you not bring this issue up in the future whenever an argument ensued between the both of you.

There's really no point making him confessing that the "affair" was wrong in front of all the parties involved unless you want to make him lose that girl he had an affair with and thereafter you to initiate a break up with him, leaving him with nothing.

i dont think its a good idea for u to do that TS
since their working together its abit troublesome as well..

10 years and still bf?

get over him, there are other men out there who would give an arm and a leg for you and will not cheat on you, just don't friendzone them

cheer up, bf-gf things are not the end of the world. treasure your family, stay close to them, and then consult them.

i am not saying you should not give him a chance, if he is worth it, why not

How old are you?

What's wrong if i wanna make him to lose tat girl?I love my bf alot n alot...i just dun wan tat girl come n kacau us anymore...

Izzit wrong im trying to secure my feeling? I request to get marry, but he can't do it, marry is impossible for now. I can't lose him but it didn't tat he no need to so anything to win me back?

Are u guys suggesting I shd forgive him right after he confessed infront of me n said sorry?

Tat gal has surrounding my bf for quite sometimes, I did told my bf...but tat time i really got my trust on my bf, I tot he can tahan himself from making mistake..but I was wrong. Is this means my fault? I'm the one who make this happed?

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Added on January 2, 2013, 9:23 amI'm 26 n he is 28....we talked about marriage, but his family disagree me...

This post has been edited by qinetics: Jan 2 2013, 09:23 AM

Did you pay for half of the bed? If you did, just ask for your half of the money back.


It's just sex, unless he's got STDs from it, there's no reason to get your panties up in a bunch.

I'm trying to convince myself that was just a sex...but my heart feel pain when I tot he was having sex with other gal on tat bed...

thats why u woman sometimes dunno how to jaga his face, you can just look for that girl yourself and have a talk with her.

Ask him what is he willing to do to earn your forgiveness. And please let him know what he is asking. He is asking you to live with a splinter at the back of your head for rest of your life without having the right to mention it ever again.

Ask him how much does this sacrifice he is asking you to make worth and if is it too much for him to ask your forgiveness in front of that girl.

Well, if it is. I guess you should know the depth of your relationship with his answer and know what to do.

Not sure if ur bf kacau her or she kacau ur bf lol.

And marry doesnt mean he cant "curi makan"....

And why impossible to marry now?

This post has been edited by WaCKy-Angel: Jan 2 2013, 09:30 AM

is it purely just sex or feeling is involved? no point requesting him to do this and that if deep down inside you, you cannot forgive and forget. It will just haunt you.

Did he say this? Did he say he won't do this because he will hate you if you make him?

LoL. It's just sex. How is having sex with another woman behind your gf of 9 years back, is just sex? It's the destruction of 9 years of trust and love.

Ts, you should question his faith and loyalty in the relationship. He doesn't wanna get married and he can cheat on you after 9 years together, that's a red flag to me. A definite and clear warning shot.

7chai...im jaga-ing his face tats y I ask him to go talk to her...If i go n find tat gal myself...the gal n my bf face will gone to hell...

Go sleep with another guy - score settled

Ya...he said it...my heart stop beat at tat moment...

then i think u dun understand, sometimes for a man that already curi makan is hard for them to tell straight to the girl just end the relationship.

thats why what u should do now is meet up with the girl and have a table talk, but before that inform your boyfren 1st. Whether he agree or not, u also insist must go and see her