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post Jan 11 2012, 05:35 PM

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QUOTE(BAlm @ Jan 11 2012, 05:30 PM)
I always accompany slept beside with her (sometimes whole month no sex and touch). Please dont blame bf only think those, we dont (maybe your bf ask for it everytime lah i dunno)


Sifu, im going to follow your guidance onward. Go sunway bungee jump and go i-city night photoshoot can boh(never tried both)? But soon i scare i run out of ideas woh.
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Surprise her with some small gifts then the rest, you know what to do right ? brows.gif
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post Jan 11 2012, 05:40 PM

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QUOTE(LingCF @ Jan 11 2012, 05:07 PM)
I think im in the same situation with your gf sometime really need the mood le im currently staying with my bf so we see each other everyday but we only do once a month and for kiss is like 2-3 months once and whenever he hug me usually I will push him away because I always work so very tired and dun really feel to have intimate moments just want to have his accompany

sometime we girls just want bf accompany but bf always think those only...
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Forget to mentioned, the problem also might be yourself. Any change on you might turn her off, odor from body mouth hair. And other also
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post Jan 11 2012, 05:45 PM

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QUOTE(yuyuyu @ Jan 11 2012, 05:23 PM)
if you r TS's gf i think he already break up with u ..hahaha
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yeah maybe... tongue.gif
so Im kinda lucky he being so patient and understanding with me
sometime less intimate doesn't mean we dun love our bf de sometime we need the right mood biggrin.gif
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post Jan 11 2012, 05:46 PM

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QUOTE(LingCF @ Jan 11 2012, 05:45 PM)
yeah maybe... tongue.gif
so Im kinda lucky he being so patient and understanding with me
sometime less intimate doesn't mean we dun love our bf de sometime we need the right mood  biggrin.gif
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QUOTE(uest91 @ Jan 11 2012, 05:40 PM)
Girl, go get a pet pls, bf is not a toy.
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post Jan 11 2012, 05:51 PM

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QUOTE(BAlm @ Jan 11 2012, 05:30 PM)
Sifu, im going to follow your guidance onward. Go sunway bungee jump and go i-city night photoshoot can boh(never tried both)? But soon i scare i run out of ideas woh.
They might work - bungee jumping gives you an adrenaline high, which might lead to sexual arousal. And i-city looks quite romantic at night, I guess. But I recommend you just stick to the basics. Dinner, fancy restaurant, dress nice-nice, good food and wine. It doesn't have to be something new all the time.

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she maybe bored of life...sometime u need to excited it..
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QUOTE(LingCF @ Jan 11 2012, 05:45 PM)
yeah maybe... tongue.gif
so Im kinda lucky he being so patient and understanding with me
sometime less intimate doesn't mean we dun love our bf de sometime we need the right mood  biggrin.gif
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This is how guys will think. If you reject them out of no reason, they will feel unloved, unwanted, frustrated and angry. They will feel that we don’t love them. To us, making love is not everything because in guys’ term, we have ‘communication, hugs, eye contact, breathe on his chest, lye on his arm watching TV’ to make us feel loved. To guys, is either you tug them, or there is less love or no love. After 2 or 3 times they will be furious, asking why this happened like TS.

I am not saying you sleep with them out of your will. That sound like getting yourself raped to me. I will suggest all ladies to go into your own head and mind, ask yourself why do you reject the intimacy. Telling them tired or no mood is confusing as they are not tired and in the mood. If there is this mood that makes you feel not wanting it, tell them how you feel, and not a mere, “I am tired/ not in the mood”. Try to get yourself in mood. Paradigm is important and what you eat is important too.

Sex is a big thing in relationship. Talk it through and solve the situation, guys and ladies. It is always a 2 way thing.

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QUOTE(BAlm @ Jan 11 2012, 04:20 PM)
Hi guys and girls here,
need to share something and get inputs, because i have no idea whats happening. My first thread anyway:)

Me and gf are both working adults, we had known each other and together for a year already. She is the happy go lucky kind of girl, many laughter and i love to make her smile and laugh. When we first started, we are very happy everyday, not much conflict, had a fair number of intimacy. Everything went well, though some argument becomes big, discover many conflicting personality, but the end of the day, we are really happy together when we are not arguing. There are laughters, smile everyday.

Lately, things start to change. Its been that way for few months already. I realise she reject MOST intimate approach, citing no mood. Fair enough. But even fonding, caressing she will also reject. Ok since if she dont like, i dun wish force too.

But this had been going on too long. I began to feel uneasy, and ask her. She says really no mood and dun wish give anymore.. But she say still got right? (yeah like once a month, which is very much less than when we first started). However i dun wish to force, if she no mood i also dun wish.

What is she thinking exactly? Our relation is still going good, still happy, laughter etc but when intimate things come into picture it became like non-existent anymore(even if she say still got give).

B4 u say she steering us to friendzone, i think its not the way even if i make it sounds like we are buddy everyday joke laugh etc. There is one time because i wish to avoid ME being reject approach for intimacy(horny moment) i say i dont want to stay overnight at her room, she got mad and want me to accompany her (just sleep beside) and we had an argument. Shes pretty and gorgeous fyi. How to stand if overnight?(or not stand)

b4 u say TS 2" and servis no good, its not the case also. We had fair share of ex-s before we met. She very satisfy*edited*biggrin.gif

I dont know whats going on, damn confuse and hard to get on with it. I admit i am sexually active person but i did not want it daily or weekly. I can even live without making love with her but no fondling/caressing seems too much. What should i do?sad.gif

also im not sure if i remember it correctly or not, i think she said she dont like sex with me.. Or just dont like sex. I think its not about premarriage things so she dunwan anymore and i should respect her put more effort in our relationship things blah blah. She just say dont feel like it. Ok great so she is potentially a wife that dont feel like making love.
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if she want "it" just give "it" men...haha but make sure u recharge ur energy with tongkat ali or energy drink...haha


Added on January 11, 2012, 6:50 pm
QUOTE(uest91 @ Jan 11 2012, 06:40 PM)
Girl, go get a pet pls, bf is not a toy.
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mybe she need a real toy haha tongue.gif

This post has been edited by mon678: Jan 11 2012, 06:50 PM
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post Jan 11 2012, 08:04 PM

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if she don't even want you caressing her, respect her. If u horny, thats your prob. Fulfill ur lust else where, not on your gf unless she dont mind doing it for you but from your case, she seem disgusted with the "intimacy" you had with her. Girls are meant to be loved, not lust bag to satisfy one's desire. If u really love ur girl, give her time. and You should be appreciate that she still with you.

This post has been edited by NoGrowth: Jan 11 2012, 08:11 PM
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post Jan 11 2012, 08:23 PM

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TS, follow n00b13's advice on the romancing part. However regardless of the outcome of that, I suggest you have a serious heart to heart talk with her. Get to know and understand how she's feeling and you tell her how her rejections make you feel. If she says something like "You did so much just for that?" you must let her know that you didn't do it just to get some action, but because you truly enjoy spending time with her and you really want to show her how much you love her.

Do you eat appetiser and main course FOR dessert? no, you eat those AND dessert completes the meal. Your intimacy for her is like the dessert. Get her to understand that you have your wants and needs too, and her rejection just makes you feel like she does not love you.

QUOTE(uest91 @ Jan 11 2012, 05:40 PM)
Girl, go get a pet pls, bf is not a toy.
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post Jan 11 2012, 08:51 PM

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QUOTE(BAlm @ Jan 11 2012, 04:43 PM)

Then end of the day go back, just some hugging fondling then kena reject, says tired liao. If i cont the approach then she will snap back and says "why must have that?" "you do so much just for that?" "why cant we just sweet sweet without that?". Mind you im already not (dare) ask for sex, its just some intimate gesture also kena reject sad.gif
Her response here is the answer to your frustration! She is afraid you are only after her body and not real love.

Maybe she is also testing you, checking whether you treat her so well, just to get into her pants at night or wat. You need to change that mindset of hers if you truly love her. It takes time and patience on your end. Try not to do all those and just be "sweet-sweet" , "pure love".. and maybe someday she will know. smile.gif If you push too hard for intimacy, she might not like it and lose it.
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post Jan 11 2012, 11:30 PM

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maybe if u got the desire or urge to do it when be with her

and she dun wan

u find some excuse and go toilet masterbed lo

althou it's quite pathetic la but it's somehow caring in another way
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post Jan 12 2012, 12:07 AM

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I am not trying to make things worse here. I am just merely sharing my past experience regarding this issue. I once faced the exact same problem like you. And later found out her feelings have changed. Her reason for the less intimate moments is because she felt dirty doing it with me while seeing another guy. Your story may be different from mine. However, it'll be good if you keep an eye on her. Take care bro.
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post Jan 12 2012, 11:25 AM

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QUOTE(BAlm @ Jan 11 2012, 03:20 PM)
Hi guys and girls here,
need to share something and get inputs, because i have no idea whats happening. My first thread anyway:)

Me and gf are both working adults, we had known each other and together for a year already. She is the happy go lucky kind of girl, many laughter and i love to make her smile and laugh. When we first started, we are very happy everyday, not much conflict, had a fair number of intimacy. Everything went well, though some argument becomes big, discover many conflicting personality, but the end of the day, we are really happy together when we are not arguing. There are laughters, smile everyday.

Lately, things start to change. Its been that way for few months already. I realise she reject MOST intimate approach, citing no mood. Fair enough. But even fonding, caressing she will also reject. Ok since if she dont like, i dun wish force too.

But this had been going on too long. I began to feel uneasy, and ask her. She says really no mood and dun wish give anymore.. But she say still got right? (yeah like once a month, which is very much less than when we first started). However i dun wish to force, if she no mood i also dun wish.

What is she thinking exactly? Our relation is still going good, still happy, laughter etc but when intimate things come into picture it became like non-existent anymore(even if she say still got give).

B4 u say she steering us to friendzone, i think its not the way even if i make it sounds like we are buddy everyday joke laugh etc. There is one time because i wish to avoid ME being reject approach for intimacy(horny moment) i say i dont want to stay overnight at her room, she got mad and want me to accompany her (just sleep beside) and we had an argument. Shes pretty and gorgeous fyi. How to stand if overnight?(or not stand)

b4 u say TS 2" and servis no good, its not the case also. We had fair share of ex-s before we met. She very satisfy*edited*biggrin.gif

I dont know whats going on, damn confuse and hard to get on with it. I admit i am sexually active person but i did not want it daily or weekly. I can even live without making love with her but no fondling/caressing seems too much. What should i do?sad.gif

also im not sure if i remember it correctly or not, i think she said she dont like sex with me.. Or just dont like sex. I think its not about premarriage things so she dunwan anymore and i should respect her put more effort in our relationship things blah blah. She just say dont feel like it. Ok great so she is potentially a wife that dont feel like making love.
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TS, from what I see, after all these year she may afraid the intimacy may end up in pregnancy.
After about a year of such happening, she might want to reserve it until the wedding night.

Since you say like (yeah once a month), then she is still there for you.

Human being will change after they give though to it seriously.

Just go with the flow. Important this is she still loves you and both of you can communicate well to keep thing smoothly.
If you still love her very much, to me a simply kiss and hung will make both of you felt the love is still alive.
Ask her, do not assume.


Added on January 12, 2012, 11:32 am
QUOTE(lingleeyen @ Jan 11 2012, 06:41 PM)
This is how guys will think. If you reject them out of no reason, they will feel unloved, unwanted, frustrated and angry. They will feel that we don’t love them. To us, making love is not everything because in guys’ term, we have ‘communication, hugs, eye contact, breathe on his chest, lye on his arm watching TV’ to make us feel loved. To guys, is either you tug them, or there is less love or no love. After 2 or 3 times they will be furious, asking why this happened like TS.

I am not saying you sleep with them out of your will. That sound like getting yourself raped to me. I will suggest all ladies to go into your own head and mind, ask yourself why do you reject the intimacy. Telling them tired or no mood is confusing as they are not tired and in the mood. If there is this mood that makes you feel not wanting it, tell them how you feel, and not a mere, “I am tired/ not in the mood”. Try to get yourself in mood. Paradigm is important and what you eat is important too.

Sex is a big thing in relationship. Talk it through and solve the situation, guys and ladies. It is always a 2 way thing.
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I support you. +1

This post has been edited by ccyap003: Jan 12 2012, 11:32 AM
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post Jan 12 2012, 11:42 AM

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QUOTE(BAlm @ Jan 11 2012, 04:20 PM)
Hi guys and girls here,
need to share something and get inputs, because i have no idea whats happening. My first thread anyway:)

Me and gf are both working adults, we had known each other and together for a year already. She is the happy go lucky kind of girl, many laughter and i love to make her smile and laugh. When we first started, we are very happy everyday, not much conflict, had a fair number of intimacy. Everything went well, though some argument becomes big, discover many conflicting personality, but the end of the day, we are really happy together when we are not arguing. There are laughters, smile everyday.

Lately, things start to change. Its been that way for few months already. I realise she reject MOST intimate approach, citing no mood. Fair enough. But even fonding, caressing she will also reject. Ok since if she dont like, i dun wish force too.

But this had been going on too long. I began to feel uneasy, and ask her. She says really no mood and dun wish give anymore.. But she say still got right? (yeah like once a month, which is very much less than when we first started). However i dun wish to force, if she no mood i also dun wish.

What is she thinking exactly? Our relation is still going good, still happy, laughter etc but when intimate things come into picture it became like non-existent anymore(even if she say still got give).

B4 u say she steering us to friendzone, i think its not the way even if i make it sounds like we are buddy everyday joke laugh etc. There is one time because i wish to avoid ME being reject approach for intimacy(horny moment) i say i dont want to stay overnight at her room, she got mad and want me to accompany her (just sleep beside) and we had an argument. Shes pretty and gorgeous fyi. How to stand if overnight?(or not stand)

b4 u say TS 2" and servis no good, its not the case also. We had fair share of ex-s before we met. She very satisfy*edited*biggrin.gif

I dont know whats going on, damn confuse and hard to get on with it. I admit i am sexually active person but i did not want it daily or weekly. I can even live without making love with her but no fondling/caressing seems too much. What should i do?sad.gif

also im not sure if i remember it correctly or not, i think she said she dont like sex with me.. Or just dont like sex. I think its not about premarriage things so she dunwan anymore and i should respect her put more effort in our relationship things blah blah. She just say dont feel like it. Ok great so she is potentially a wife that dont feel like making love.
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Maybe non really fancy on this thing, while just prepare to say bye bye but depending yourself also whether its it really help for improve a relationship
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She probably have work stress or some other stress that she make her not in the mood.
She needs your support, need your understanding and care. Tats y she wanted you to stay over.. just to keep her company.
For girls.. care doesn't mean want you to caressing her. Love doesn't mean you make love with her. Got it?
She loves you. Probably make use of the May vacation... when she's relax and see if she is back to normal. By then, you can clarify with her and get an understanding if you should reduce your desire.

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Be ready to say by3 by3 to your relationship.
Maybe she can get better sex from another guy ady.
That's why too tired or dont want to have it with u again.

Dont be too sad my friend.
I've been through that too.
All you need is just time to get it through.

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