QUOTE(BAlm @ Jan 11 2012, 03:20 PM)
Hi guys and girls here,
need to share something and get inputs, because i have no idea whats happening. My first thread anyway:)
Me and gf are both working adults, we had known each other and together for a year already. She is the happy go lucky kind of girl, many laughter and i love to make her smile and laugh. When we first started, we are very happy everyday, not much conflict, had a fair number of intimacy. Everything went well, though some argument becomes big, discover many conflicting personality, but the end of the day, we are really happy together when we are not arguing. There are laughters, smile everyday.
Lately, things start to change. Its been that way for few months already. I realise she reject MOST intimate approach, citing no mood. Fair enough. But even fonding, caressing she will also reject. Ok since if she dont like, i dun wish force too.
But this had been going on too long. I began to feel uneasy, and ask her. She says really no mood and dun wish give anymore.. But she say still got right? (yeah like once a month, which is very much less than when we first started). However i dun wish to force, if she no mood i also dun wish.
What is she thinking exactly? Our relation is still going good, still happy, laughter etc but when intimate things come into picture it became like non-existent anymore(even if she say still got give).
B4 u say she steering us to friendzone, i think its not the way even if i make it sounds like we are buddy everyday joke laugh etc. There is one time because i wish to avoid ME being reject approach for intimacy(horny moment) i say i dont want to stay overnight at her room, she got mad and want me to accompany her (just sleep beside) and we had an argument. Shes pretty and gorgeous fyi. How to stand if overnight?(or not stand)
b4 u say TS 2" and servis no good, its not the case also. We had fair share of ex-s before we met. She very satisfy*edited*

I dont know whats going on, damn confuse and hard to get on with it. I admit i am sexually active person but i did not want it daily or weekly. I can even live without making love with her but no fondling/caressing seems too much. What should i do?

also im not sure if i remember it correctly or not, i think she said she dont like sex with me.. Or just dont like sex. I think its not about premarriage things so she dunwan anymore and i should respect her put more effort in our relationship things blah blah. She just say dont feel like it. Ok great so she is potentially a wife that dont feel like making love.
TS, from what I see, after all these year she may afraid the intimacy may end up in pregnancy.
After about a year of such happening, she might want to reserve it until the wedding night.
Since you say like (yeah once a month), then she is still there for you.
Human being will change after they give though to it seriously.
Just go with the flow. Important this is she still loves you and both of you can communicate well to keep thing smoothly.
If you still love her very much, to me a simply kiss and hung will make both of you felt the love is still alive.
Ask her, do not assume.
Added on January 12, 2012, 11:32 amQUOTE(lingleeyen @ Jan 11 2012, 06:41 PM)
This is how guys will think. If you reject them out of no reason, they will feel unloved, unwanted, frustrated and angry. They will feel that we don’t love them. To us, making love is not everything because in guys’ term, we have ‘communication, hugs, eye contact, breathe on his chest, lye on his arm watching TV’ to make us feel loved. To guys, is either you tug them, or there is less love or no love. After 2 or 3 times they will be furious, asking why this happened like TS.
I am not saying you sleep with them out of your will. That sound like getting yourself raped to me. I will suggest all ladies to go into your own head and mind, ask yourself why do you reject the intimacy. Telling them tired or no mood is confusing as they are not tired and in the mood. If there is this mood that makes you feel not wanting it, tell them how you feel, and not a mere, “I am tired/ not in the mood”. Try to get yourself in mood. Paradigm is important and what you eat is important too.
Sex is a big thing in relationship. Talk it through and solve the situation, guys and ladies. It is always a 2 way thing.
Lingleeyen
I support you. +1This post has been edited by ccyap003: Jan 12 2012, 11:32 AM