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michellelurve
post Jan 12 2012, 01:29 PM

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aiyo ts...hahahahah. your this post made my day biggrin.gif hahah!

Btw TS, i'm a girl. In a relationship for 3 years++ with the same guy.
Trust me when i say this...there was a certain period of time when i told my bf "Dear, i am not in the mood for sex or anything else. Can we just snuggle? and when he wanna caress or sth like that, i would take his hand away and told him "uncomfy oh dear"..

he would just go.."hmmphh" HAHA

this would last for several months though.


oh and 1 more thing...for example, when sleeping together. Then suddenly he hugs me, but i dun feel like being hug..i will tell him "let me hug you instead ^^"


TS, this is 1 normal thing la. Girls do have their ups and downs. It doesn't mean that she doesn't love you also. Dun think too much.
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post Jan 12 2012, 01:55 PM

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QUOTE(michellelurve @ Jan 12 2012, 01:29 PM)
aiyo ts...hahahahah. your this post made my day biggrin.gif hahah!

Btw TS, i'm a girl. In a relationship for 3 years++ with the same guy.
Trust me when i say this...there was a certain period of time when i told my bf "Dear, i am not in the mood for sex or anything else. Can we just snuggle? and when he wanna caress or sth like that, i would take his hand away and told him "uncomfy oh dear"..

he would just go.."hmmphh" HAHA

this would last for several months though.
oh and 1 more thing...for example, when sleeping together. Then suddenly he hugs me, but i dun feel like being hug..i will tell him "let me hug you instead ^^"
TS, this is 1 normal thing la. Girls do have their ups and downs. It doesn't mean that she doesn't love you also. Dun think too much.
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She's a girl. Girls are inconsistent. Deal with it...
cempedaklife
post Jan 12 2012, 06:16 PM

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QUOTE(BAlm @ Jan 11 2012, 04:43 PM)
Its a good advise.. sometime i did just that. Go shopping, what she like i will buy for her. Browse clothes and shoes with her, giving comment and she like how our interaction goes. She loves Japanese food so bring her there.

Then end of the day go back, just some hugging fondling then kena reject, says tired liao. If i cont the approach then she will snap back and says "why must have that?" "you do so much just for that?" "why cant we just sweet sweet without that?". Mind you im already not (dare) ask for sex, its just some intimate gesture also kena reject sad.gif
Her period never miss! lucky! Cheers!!


but breakup......
From my observation her period never miss, and quite follow schedule. Hormone could be one of the culprit, but how do i convince her to female specialist woh. Because it seems like she is okay with her 'no sex' mood, and expect me to be same (wtf). She did not see it as a problem, which i can argue nothing as premarital sex is not that good to start with. If i make this proposal im afraid it will start another argument "why is that so important?" (of course she wouldnt know =,=).

Thing is, it started okay, but become very less this last few months. I am quite confuse and worried when she said she dont like sex(!!)
Erm.... not just sex. All intimate actions, fondling, passionate kissing etc etc. Dating and life everything is great as usual!
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this is where u r wrong...after doing all that, u asked for it, if i'm a girl, the 1st tot that runs through my mind is "so u r doing all that becoz of sex?"...subsequently next outing, once u treat her nice, she'll start thinking "i bet he wants that tonite, treating me so good today"...

u should have always treat her nice, u dun ask for it everytime u treat her nice, sometimes u treat her nice, but let it remain as it is....

doing that in expectation of sex makes u insincere in ur doing.

This post has been edited by cempedaklife: Jan 12 2012, 06:17 PM
Ratez
post Jan 12 2012, 07:30 PM

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Just do a 360 degree turn and not ask for intimacy at all. That will get her thinking and wonder why you're not interested. Maybe she will post on lowyat cupid's corner too.

EDIT: If she says no the first time, respect her.

This post has been edited by Ratez: Jan 12 2012, 07:30 PM

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