Hi guys and girls here,
need to share something and get inputs, because i have no idea whats happening. My first thread anyway:)

Me and gf are both working adults, we had known each other and together for a year already. She is the happy go lucky kind of girl, many laughter and i love to make her smile and laugh. When we first started, we are very happy everyday, not much conflict, had a fair number of intimacy. Everything went well, though some argument becomes big, discover many conflicting personality, but the end of the day, we are really happy together when we are not arguing. There are laughters, smile everyday.

Lately, things start to change. Its been that way for few months already. I realise she reject MOST intimate approach, citing no mood. Fair enough. But even fonding, caressing she will also reject. Ok since if she dont like, i dun wish force too.

But this had been going on too long. I began to feel uneasy, and ask her. She says really no mood and dun wish give anymore.. But she say still got right? (yeah like once a month, which is very much less than when we first started). However i dun wish to force, if she no mood i also dun wish.

What is she thinking exactly? Our relation is still going good, still happy, laughter etc but when intimate things come into picture it became like non-existent anymore(even if she say still got give).

B4 u say she steering us to friendzone, i think its not the way even if i make it sounds like we are buddy everyday joke laugh etc. There is one time because i wish to avoid ME being reject approach for intimacy(horny moment) i say i dont want to stay overnight at her room, she got mad and want me to accompany her (just sleep beside) and we had an argument. Shes pretty and gorgeous fyi. How to stand if overnight?(or not stand)

b4 u say TS 2" and servis no good, its not the case also. We had fair share of ex-s before we met. She very satisfy*edited*

I dont know whats going on, damn confuse and hard to get on with it. I admit i am sexually active person but i did not want it daily or weekly. I can even live without making love with her but no fondling/caressing seems too much. What should i do?

also im not sure if i remember it correctly or not, i think she said she dont like sex with me.. Or just dont like sex. I think its not about premarriage things so she dunwan anymore and i should respect her put more effort in our relationship things blah blah. She just say dont feel like it. Ok great so she is potentially a wife that dont feel like making love.

This post has been edited by BAlm: Jan 11 2012, 03:48 PM

I should be worried? I guess so too

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But when together still ok woh, like chat about future, joke to each other all still feel close. Normal kiss still got (ah i almost forgot we used to had tongue but now also no more or "still got right?" according to her).

I still feel shes being loving.. like she makes guilinggao for me, took care of all the itinerary, hotel booking, ticket to Japan on our trip to Japan this May. Its like everything still as going good, or even better. EXCEPT the intimate part

I dont feel like shes ditching me but i admit there is this little possibility that she might just do that

Is it just me but this tips seems funny? But i appreciate it dude. Never cross my mind someonce can do it as prevention. Guess i might create another thread about the breakup

alamak letme edit my first post.

yea rare pokemon. holo card leh. but u cant play it woh

She is thin to begin with but she did gained a little weight. More chubby abit compare last year but overall still model figure..

Its a good advise.. sometime i did just that. Go shopping, what she like i will buy for her. Browse clothes and shoes with her, giving comment and she like how our interaction goes. She loves Japanese food so bring her there.

Then end of the day go back, just some hugging fondling then kena reject, says tired liao. If i cont the approach then she will snap back and says "why must have that?" "you do so much just for that?" "why cant we just sweet sweet without that?". Mind you im already not (dare) ask for sex, its just some intimate gesture also kena reject

Her period never miss! lucky! Cheers!!

but breakup......

From my observation her period never miss, and quite follow schedule. Hormone could be one of the culprit, but how do i convince her to female specialist woh. Because it seems like she is okay with her 'no sex' mood, and expect me to be same (wtf). She did not see it as a problem, which i can argue nothing as premarital sex is not that good to start with. If i make this proposal im afraid it will start another argument "why is that so important?" (of course she wouldnt know =,=).

Thing is, it started okay, but become very less this last few months. I am quite confuse and worried when she said she dont like sex(!!)

Erm.... not just sex. All intimate actions, fondling, passionate kissing etc etc. Dating and life everything is great as usual!

Thanks for comment, i dont deny it. She knew it. In fact, there are a period of times where we stay together daily. And no we did not have sex every other night. I din even touch her. The reason i dont want to overnight with her, is because when my desire kicks in, most probably i will get rejected and be dejected. I just dont want things like that happen.

before someone quote me and says i contradict myself, again my request when im horny alrd downgrade to fondling, kissing, BUT NOT SEX okay?

Yeah no sex is really okay (though we used to had it and i love it), but touchie touchie also cant? OMG a model gf suddenly become E-mei nun? thats my problem now

Beauty product... those BB cream or facial cleaner will have such effect?

Thing is, we used to be active but she suddenly just shut the whole thing down. Okay i can live with it, but im worried if i did marry her and had to be vegetarian the whole life?

She just show shes not interest anymore, i had no guarantee things gonna change after marriage.

Without sex is okay lah, still got left hand.. but apa tu? rmvb? later i search

I always accompany slept beside with her (sometimes whole month no sex and touch). Please dont blame bf only think those, we dont (maybe your bf ask for it everytime lah i dunno)

Sifu, im going to follow your guidance onward. Go sunway bungee jump and go i-city night photoshoot can boh(never tried both)? But soon i scare i run out of ideas woh.

QUOTE(uest91 @ Jan 11 2012, 05:40 PM)

Girl, go get a pet pls, bf is not a toy.