urrm...say..that you don't want to 'burden' your MIL further as she's busy doing house work and cooking for the family..so..you only take this little task in hoping to minimize her burden

However, please be prepared that she will say that your baby must eat porridge...and further condemn if you want to prepare those 'mat salleh' style puree. It's ok if she gives porridge...as we all grew up with that..but just minimise on the salt intake...if possible don't add salt.

Some babies may like porridge..some just don't (like my son). Even till now..two days ago, he went with my hubby to visit my MIL (thankfully it was during my working day ) and of all things, she cooked porridge..so ended up my son didn't quite have a good dinner. This happens when in-laws don't even bother to know about their grandchild's likes and dislikes. So...that's my story on my in-laws.

just like other cereals like rice, u can give oats when baby first start solids... forgot details but a lot of nutritional benefits

wahh u are away from there for a while... how does it feel?
I hope ur hubby likes it and decides to stay that way permanently.. heheh...

i dont know abt your ILs, but my MIL is slow in doing work.. meaning bfast at 10am, lunch at 2/3pm.. etc.. so i just do my own prep for baby food.. she got no chance to interfere... usually we are visiting just for the weekend, so i will prepare from home and bring. Only once she managed to catch my speed.. she cooked chicken soup for bfast when we visited.. so my baby had chic soup that day

otherwise one method how phythia says, just say that u dont want to burden yr MIL.. since baby food needs to be detailed and careful, let u take the trouble, not MIL...

porridge is ok during 7-8months... by making porridge u hv a lot of flexibility in adding veg varieties is your food, but put NO salt at all... u can give little salt after he is 1yo.. otherwise there is no rush

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Added on March 23, 2011, 12:08 pmyea, i think we are aware, but thx anyway for the reminder...

my baby started yogurt & cheese at 8mo

This post has been edited by qarezma: Mar 23 2011, 12:08 PM

no plain dairy milk is because of the enzyme in it that may not agree to a baby's tummy...something like that.

And when i say fresh milk..i don't mean the real fresh milk from the cow which is not pasteurized coz that's very dangerous to babies and toddlers. It's always safer to get pasteurized milk.

Yes..milk only to be introduced after 1yo.

This post has been edited by phythia79: Mar 23 2011, 12:15 PM

i give cows milk to my baby.. i boil it before serving of course...

qarezma, y boil the milk ar? i tot it's hard to clean the dish afterward... sorry noob in cooking... stay away permanent? kenot la... it's my parents' house, not ours... no reason to stay permanent here... my MIL is fast one >.< hope n pray i dun offend them again... sigh... later they must have think this DIL very ma fan~!

phythia, rite on abt the porridge~! last time mil mentioned abt it... i just dengar saja lo... but really i oso dunno wat to prepare for him... potato? sweet potato? carrot? apple? but one thing for sure that i could imagine... must give baby eat full... no need to bf liao... he's big liao... u can keep ur milk... y u need to cook separately? baby can eat wat we eat liao... something like that...but i still hope that this situation won't happen... cross my fingers, toes, arms, legs n eyes that my solid food journey won't b as rough as bf journey...

btw should i get an electric warmer for the food? baby cubes for storing? 1oz or 2oz? wat else i need to prepare?

This post has been edited by nicKit: Mar 23 2011, 01:40 PM

tell her...just to give your baby till 1 year. after 1 year, they can eat whatever we eat. But milk still need to be given in between of meals. I'm sure she has given milk too to your hubby.

You can start giving suggestion to your hubby now..rather than when the time comes.

Try out the reason i told you earlier..so that at least..you get to control something. And about bf after 6 months..you can still bf..just bring him into the room..i'm sure your MIL won't be seeing whereever you go rigth? unless she does lar..then susah.

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Added on March 23, 2011, 1:58 pmHave you asked your hubby if you guys rent somewhere else? stay on your own..but..near his family.. ..reason with him..so that if there's any emergency..can always call his mommy

This post has been edited by phythia79: Mar 23 2011, 01:58 PM

the milk is direct from the cow and would hv some added water too.. so boiling is a way of killing bacteria & germs. Yes, hard to clean the dish, but u gotta do what u gotta do..nothing comes easy in this world

first food u give rice cereal.. for 4 days
after ok, give pumpkin/carrot/apple/pear for 4 days.. try 1 new food at a time, and once ok, u can give the fruit/veg+cereal... slowly once yr baby cover all the fruits and veg for his age, then u can start some porridge oso.

I used usual ice cube containers to freeze food, one compartment is usually 1 oz.. and some other small baby food containers as well... i use the microwave to warm up the food

for baby food guide refer to wholesomebabyfood.com... very good guide for what food what age

Hi all, I just have my princess 2 days back. But until now, she is not breastfeed yet. She was in the intensive ward for observation after a Caesarean. Delivered to the mum yesterday afternoon. However, we have difficulty feeding her. My wife only have limited milk at the moment. We tried breasfeed and bottlemilk her for 3 hours, but she won't suckle. Any advice?

This post has been edited by slacker: Mar 23 2011, 04:36 PM

Dear slacker...it takes awhile for milk to come in..the first few drops is called colustrum which is the most nutritious milk.

Some babies takes awhile for them to latch on..and also maybe coz baby was given the bottle, she may be confused liao (nipple confusion) coz drinking from the bottle is easier than from breast as she will have to work a little hard to suckle.

It's all a learning process and it's not like your baby or your wife would just know how to latch on.

My advice, just keep on trying..there will many times that your baby will cry..and can't latch on etc etc..try to persevere.

Baby's stomach is just a size of a pea now, hence the quantity needed is less but more frequently instead..hence some babies feed every hour or two.

b patient, keep coaxing
ONLY for the 1st few days, the bf is very very good for the baby.
let the baby suck direct better than bottle

phythia, rent? out of the question... his parents will say u dun have home meh? somemore it adds burden to our finance since i've quit my job... mil dun follow but she knows fil too... mayb...

qarezma, u got microwave ar... dunno le... still thinking...

slacker, just keep trying no pain no gain

Thank you for the advice. Patience and preseverance no problem for both of us.

I'm just worried about the baby will be hungry if she won't take in anything.

It's completely natural for u to feel that way. Even I too had the same thoughts when I gave birth to my son but my cousin and friend totally supported and advised me during the first few weeks. Like ijnek said direct feed if possible.

I hope u and your wife have prepared yourselves mentally and also equipped with some knowledge about bf. It's gonna be a bumpy road ahead. If u need any professional advise, I can PM u a lactation consultant whom I know has helped lots of new moms who breastfeed. Alternatively you can join her network on FB - Breastfeeding advocates network. Her name is Gina Yong.

If u need support in terms of encouragement or from personal experience...we are here for you.

the 1st few weeks r tough...
the cryin baby will add more pressure...but preserve and leap the rewards later

slacker, all n all perseverance is the answer n b tough on ur stand... u'll bound to hear lots of comments get the facts rite n stand firm... i heard gina's the best... but unfortunately i'm not in kl but i've joined the bf club in fb...

Finally i able to let my girl latch on more easy than before... however until today i still felt so much pain n hurt on my nipple for every session. Even though my nipple durable enough from cracking n bleeding but i did felt so much pain like BURNED and been cucuk by needle all time.

Sometime i could not tahan and just stop my girl
Ppl said the pain will gone later but mine till now not even feel better lor. How's u gal go through all this??
I though was my latching position not correct but yesterday went to meet up with consultant said i'm correct.
Some ppl may have sensitive nipple so they will feel pain all the time,, isit true??

How's the pillow? Good to use?

Yes it's very painful. I never dare to touch my nipple. Felt like going naked all the time because of the pain..

I think the only way us to just tahan..

I dont know which one is more painful.

The first few days of breastfeeding.

Or baby teething - and using the nipple as chew toy

ya.. the pillow not bad.. will look for gud bargain n get 1

huh?? mean the pain will just ongoing???
alamak... tahan?? for how long?? as long as u sill bf?? pain for every session, every day??

not ned to wait till teething.. my girl even now at 1.5months ard bite and drag my nipple ard... !
cant imagine the pain while she pull the nipple and smtime reli feel to SLAP her...

When my son was teething and he did try to use me as his chew toy...I did slap him once, lightly. Then the next time...I resort to telling him firmly no and stop feeding him so that he understands that if he bites, no milk. Even till now, once in a while he would bite but there's usually a glint in his eyes before he does it. It will be a firm no and take my nipple out.