we oso staying in rental house only. Our flat is rented out, and the area is not of our preference. SO now waiting to buy another hse in the current area soon. But yes, i dont get scared easily dont believe in ghosts and stuff, and hubby is very helpful with house chores

it's always easier when ur closest is supporting u along the way too

ijnek & nic - u both in JB ah? my hometown leh.. my parents house in fact is in permas

Staying on your own is much better! We stay on our own though...my parents live 2 floors below us..kekeek..but..they don't come up to interfere..unless..we invite them over for dinner. Most of the time..it's me who goes to their house..and spent most of my time there as my mom takes care of my son when we are at work (good planning, right? Just drop son off before going to work and pick him up after).

You'll learn how to do house chores and stuff..for me, my mom is a housewife..so she did most of the housework..and we would help occasionally over the weekends and holidays; but she does most of it.

Nowadays, I do things myself and i'll delegate to my hubby. Of coz i can't expect him to do it at his own initiative but if I delegate, he'll do it. On the other hand, he cooks so it's not so bad.

It will take awhile to adjust, but you'll make it.

AGREE! hubby never takes initiative, so i need to plan and remind him of his chores, only then it will be done. But it is still better than nothing rite

Hahahhah! A guy friend told me this "You can never domesticate a man" LOL! so true! Domesticated men are rare species.

My hb commented that I always give him instructions..kekee.how not to? Work won't be done and can't expect me to be the one doing everything as I work 5 and 1/2 days..my only rest day is Sunday..and that also is for housework.

haha normal la.. hubby says i nag, so i always try to change my tone & mood when i remind (nag) him about his chores... so he takes it better... and not think that i am nagginggggggggg

on another note, i am not complaining that my hubby is not domesticated.. it loses the essence of being a man, IMO

This post has been edited by qarezma: Feb 22 2011, 04:28 PM

hahahahha...true true..

I can go on and on..but i try to remind myself about the good things he did without me asking .

qarezma, phythia, u guys... both of ur sons r abt the same age i think so u two can click well u're lucky ur hb willing to help... since i'm married to a traditional family house chores r for women

qarezma, i'm at skudai while ijnek is at permas

phythia, u r one lucky woman... ur mum's just downstairs...

ijnek, the closest one now which is my hb is not supporting n the next closest ones r either across the border or south china sea then the next is u guys i feel like i have no life >.<"

This post has been edited by nicKit: Feb 22 2011, 08:35 PM

My dad is a traditional chinaman. When he married my mom, he told her that his wife must stay at home and take care of the house and kids. He was also brought up that sons don't do anything at home. Even till now..he doesn't even make his own cup of Milo...it's either made by my mom or by us daughters. So...it's really the upbringing.

I have a gf whose husband is just like my dad...and she does complains to me but I told her there's nothing much she can expect as it was the upbringing. However, if u may just give him small instructions to help (while we are doing something)...he may help out.

Yes...am lucky that my mom is just downstairs.

phythia, oh mine isn't that strict... sometimes fil cooks too... but those simple snacks la like pisang goreng... but left the aftermath for mil hb isn't those traditional chinaman either... guess i'm still pretty lucky... my mum's across the south china sea so i dun wanna make her worry by complaining to her... they've been worrying abt me for so long... it's time not to let them worry... at least not too much...

i used to live in skudai before my kampong is still there

actually my hubby and my dad are both from typical traditional indian family where the women will do all the chores (MIL & mom are housewives). If hubby is in his hse, he is damn pampered. SO it is good to stay away from there. At our hse, hubby learnt to help with chores cos he knows we have no other help. We have talked abt this and he understands, and is willing to help.

i stay in permas, permas ville apt.

i helped out a lot with the house chores, of course, i wasn't like this...even now i still grumble sometimes...
except the cookin, not tat i can't in fact i like cooking,most of the other stuffs i would hv a part in doing too

i guess if u r alone here, the internet really helps to bridge the distance between ppl.

nic:
thought of using video chat with ur parents etc?

haiz my hubby likes to cook too but i try not to let him, cos i will hv to deal with the mess and he will usually use up ALL the ingredients for just one dish
but he cooks pretty well

Hahahha! don't remind me of the mess...but since he enjoys cooking and we have an agreement that if he cooks, i clean.

sigh wish that i have a house to move out... dun mind the cooking n chores... just want baby to grow up healthy...

ijnek, mum's using mobile broadband n it's quite slow... so kenot video cam... chit chat oso difficult coz our timing is different... so here i am u not welcome me?

i just notice there's green veins visible to the eye on both of my breasts... shold i panic?

urmm..could it be the stretch marks? I know i have some on my breast.

Nickit..where you from lar..till timing is different?

maybe she meant lifestyle timing different.. hehe nickit got baby so maybe not sleeping late.. but parents relax mah

phythia, qarezma's rite... mum has her own 'kaki' ma... stretch mark? only visible now?

I realize I have the green veins even before i gave birth. My CL ask me to 'push' the green veins towards the nipple to stimulate more milk production who....